My daughter is 22 months old trying to potty train her but she screams when i mention toilet.?

Question

my daughter has done a wee once in the toliet and a poo. she sometimes tells me when she needs. but sometimes its to late. whe she has done a poo in her nappy she will tell mum poo.what can i do.

Answer 1

She just might not be ready yet.  Try to relax about the whole thing, if she feels stress from you it will make it much more difficult for her. Make sure not to punish her if she is still going in her diaper.  Ask her if she needs to go potty, or if she would like to sit on the potty.  Get her used to having the potty around and having it be a part of her life.  Do not count on her to let you know when she needs to go; ask her often if she wants to go potty.

Answer 2

been there.. i think wen they are ready they will do it..

my daughter took 3 YEARS to finally get it right..

dont rush or put any pressure on them..just let them know wat they are suppose to do...show them how..maybe even let her see you do it once in awhile..

it will happen eventually if we dont rush it

good luck

Answer 3

Give her a piece of candy for going in the big-girl potty.

Answer 4

Personally 22 months is kinda early to be worried about her not doing well on the potty. Most people start at 24 months so if she has done it once then she is doing better then majority of baby's. Just give her time. she will get used to it eventually and then just decide to do it because she like the response she gets from you. if she does it and you clap and are happy she will want to do it again. if she just touches it or goes near it still clap and be excited because then she will want to go near it to make you happy then she will overcome her fear of it. just slowly work her closer to it.

Answer 5

dont mention toilet..

i asked my little sister what we should call it and she made up some random name but it helped alot:]]

i know it may sound weird but somehow make a demonstration of how easy it is and she'll think its much better than she thought[[:

but if your at a store with automatic flushing toilets make sure to tell her or she'll be afraid forever:]]

good luckkk

Answer 6

spell it out like T.O.Y.L.E.T then she won't notice (I hate screaming babys) happy to help mystery

Answer 7

every morning when she wakes up put her on the potty and when she do what she have to do then say big girl. and everytime you go take her with you so she can see you do it.

Answer 8

I know it's hard to hear, but be patient. Stickers are good for rewards, my friend bought her daugher a sticker book and she got a small sticker for pee, and and bigger princess sticker for poo. It worked really well. After she got a certain amount of stickers (I think it was 10) she was allowed to pick out a treat, like ice cream, or a $5 toy.  When she was a month accident free she got big girl underwear (that she chose) and was trained from there on.

Sometimes kids will also regress if there's been a change, a move, new baby, or even a change to routine. Toilet training will happen. It takes time and patience, though I know sometimes it's hard to keep it! :-)

Answer 9

Honestly, I think she doesn't want to give up the comfort, ease, and convenience of diapers I've seen LOTS of children react this way for that reason.  It is HARD to go to the toilet every time.  Maybe she realizes that and the that is why she is protesting so violently.  I had a son this way.  People told me he was too young to train, but I think the issue was really more similar to him preferring candy over vegetables.  I insist on the vegetables becuase candy isn't good for him.  I should have insisted on training too because in the long run, I waited, and waited, and waited and then when he was three, I ended up taking away the diapers and he was trained.  I could have taken away the diapers a year earlier, the waiting did nothing, but reinforce poor hygiene habits.

For a no nonsense mom's version of potty training see the best answer to this question.  I didn't totally agree with everything, but I liked how she was confident in her children's readiness and ability to potty train and how she ditched the diapers to do it.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 10

hello this is my 3rd day of potty training my son who is 2 in august and he has done so well i will tell you all about it and then you might try it. I have always had a potty in my living from when he was about 7 months and i have always talked to him about it and what it is for ect, he has always sat on it fully dressed and we have praised him up for it then the other day i took his nappy off completely and watched him and if i think he needed to go then i would sit him on encourage him to do a wee but i wont hold him down on there cos that will scare them. And when he did the first wee i clapped and shouted good boy gave him kisses and went mad like i won the lottery lol. Oh and i gave him 1 dolly mixture has a reward and i kept doing that all day and the next day he went over by himself and done it and he has been like that since i just tell him every now and then that the potty is there if he want to go and that it. you say that she has a nappy on why? she wont really learn like that i know it means they pee on your floor but thats how they learn if ahe does then wipe it up and tell her in a calm way that wee wee and poo poo belong in the potty ect and if she does poo in her nappy then empty it into the potty and tell her that where it belongs. get her some big nicker that help as well he loves wearing his pants co they are big boy ones. lol Hope this as helped Good luckxxxx

Answer 11

Leave her alone! Trust me, by the time she's ready for school, she'll be peeing and pooing on the toilet. In between, my experience has been, they'll do it when they're ready. Summertime is a great time to have them run around the yard nude which seems to make them more aware of their needs when it happens. Also, peer pressure begins at an alarmingly young age. If she's in a playgroup w/ other children her age, one of them will begin and the rest will follow. They're fascinated by the whole process of watching their fellow friends sit on a toilet or potty. Another small bit of advice, when she is no longer afraid, I always put my children on the toilet facing backwards. It seems to feel safer to them and they can hang on to the back if they need to.

But, in general, I think it's best to follow your child's needs and wishes. She'll let you know when she's ready without feeling success or failure because of parental expectations.

NO BRIBING. Her reward is in being proud of herself when she's successful. That is a good thing to remember when they're 2 or 22.

Answer 12

Don't push potty training too hard on her. Use only positive reinforcement. 22 months is still pretty young for it, so just be patient!

Peer pressure is also a wonderful thing. If you can have her be around kids her age that use the toilet that would help a great deal. Maybe even daycare a couple days a week would help, so she could see the other kids use the toilet.

Answer 13

Try rewarding her when she does go and that might make her want to go when she needs to instead of going in her diaper.

It worked for me and my twin cousins.

Answer 14

Try to relate something very good with toilets. For instance, you may put candy or something in the bathroom or every time she goes, give her a peice of candy. She will then figure that the bathroom is really good.

Answer 15

Well, the best thing 2 do would be 2 just keep an eye on her and ask her every 30mins or so if she has 2 go. Also every now and then take her 2 the potty and make her sit on it 4 a few minutes. My mother does these things with my baby brother and it works very well. And if she screams tell her she will get a treat if she uses the potty.

Answer 16

Is it a fear scream or a frustration scream?

It may be a little early. Don't push, see if it interests her. Some parents are successful with the "big girls do it" approach, others have a "tea party" where the dolls do it then they can try. Others give candy. Hmm.

Answer 17

They never ask you what age you toilet trained on your college applications...  If she is screaming, you can just drop it.  She will toilet train when she is ready and if you wait for her, then it is less work for you!

I didn't find a child just out of diapers any less work than a child in diapers.  They seemed to demand to use the potty at the most awkward times (trapped in traffic, when the only toilets were disgusting, etc).  

I had a little potty available for my son, I praised him when he used it, I bought him underwear with his favorite characters n it, I took his diaper off when he was running around the back yard and let him pee in the grass. When he was 3 he said he wanted to wear underwear and that was that.  If you let them lead, there is way less screaming and less work for you!

Answer 18

a lot of kids are afraid of the toliet, either that they could fall in or just the loud noise that is makes when it flushes. She may be concerned that in the time it takes her to go to the bathroom she might miss something so it could often help to ask her every so often is she needs to go to the bathroom or ask her to show you where it is. if she thinks that you need her help she might want to help you.

Answer 19

My 2nd son is 23 months (I also have an 11 year old). I tried starting him training at 22 months. He, unfortunately, came down with roseolla- which put a temp. stop to the training. Like your daughter, he'll tell me AFTER he's gone. He has never told me BEFORE so you're one leg up on us there. I think that a child's readiness can be seen when they tell you BEFORE they go & they have that connection down of "Hey, I feel the urge, let's go potty". I don't think my son has that connection so I don't think that he's ready so I'm not pushing. I decided that I'm NOT putting him in pull ups. He has actual training pants with covers b/c I want him to be able to undoubtedly feel when he's wet or poopy. I think I'm going to wait until his 2nd b-day. That way he'll be able to communicate more & be more ready.

I wish you good luck! Every child is different & no 2 children train alike or even at the same age. Use your instincts, but PATIENCE is the key. Don't start it if you don't have time to be consistent.

Answer 20

bribes are good. tell her if she goes on the toilet she can have something she really loves. such as candy or something in relation. good luck :)

Answer 21

my sister's daughter did the same thing.  She was just telling me this story the other day - but I guess she finally had enough, because her daughter wouldn't even sit on the toilet for her, so she held her there.  She held her on the toilet until she went - and that's all it took.  She said once she saw how easy it was, something just clicked.  Now I know you said she has already done it once - but maybe it's an age issue.  22 months is a good time to start toilet training - but still young.  keep that in mind.  keep encouraging and talking to her about it, but I would wait a couple weeks - up to a couple months to really push her.  You don't want to make it traumatic :)  Best wishes!!!  I'm working on my little guy right now too!

Answer 22

Get her, her own little toilet at Wal-Mart, they are cheap, easy to clean and carry around. But make sure you let her watch you go to the big people 'potty', so she'll go in hers. You know? Do the same as Mommy, and I'll be a big girl? Good luck! :)

Answer 23

let it be , let it be

she is getting there

she is learning the rules

let it be

it's just such hard work for you,  but it will pass, I promise

Answer 24

maybe it hurts to go or maybe she's afraid she'll fall in.