My daughter is 4 and still has a dummy for bed.?

Question

Should I just stop giving her it straight away or gradually wean her off. She won't sleep without it. She goes all day without one and only has it when she is tried. Any ideas would be great help.

Answer 1

tell her the fairies need it for the new baby fairy and that if she leaves it out for her they will leave her a present.then buy her a new dolly or whatever you think she would like.it worked for mine and my grandchildren.

Answer 2

It is best to stop them before they are 4 years old. It hampers their speech, causes oral problems and should not be given to children who are old enough to start school/

Answer 3

cut the end of it. it won't feel the same and she'll complain. DO NOT replace it, make sure there are no more in the house. She will toss it soon as it dosen't work. Do it now.

Answer 4

This is tough now my angel pictured left is 10 and still has a dummy for bed but nowhere else ...to me its his comfort and if he needs it to go to sleep then that's OK with me ..If your child's teeth are OK and her speech then she will be fine for bed as long as its just for bed .then i dont see a problem

Answer 5

When your daughters ready she'll stop her self, use phrases like who's a big girl now, dummies are brilliant things, they teach children to breath through their noses, don't make a big thing out of a trivial matter, I know kids who started school with dummies, she'll grow out of it, don't try to forcefully discourage her not to have a dummy try, encourage her not to want it because she's growing up, just let her stop when she wants but help her not to want, if I make my self clear, a favourite toy suits some a comfort blanket others, with your child it's a dummy so what, wish you both well.

Answer 6

That's nice! Just as long as she needs it and she doesn't feel uncomfortable. No probs!

Answer 7

this is going to sound totally mean. PLEASE DON'T THINK I'M A BAD MOMMY I WAS DESPERATE. When my 3 1/2 year old didn't want to leave the bottle i but hot sauce in it. it worked like a charm. she never drank a bottle after that. i just told her she was to big for it and that the milk wouldn't taste good from a bottle any more. and it worked. then it worked again with my  other little girl.

Answer 8

In Truth your daughter should not need a

dummy for comfort at her age.

If She Is continually given one,then it is more Habit than Want.

After her Night Bath,Read Her A Story and cuddle her down with her chosen Teddy,or

whatever.

On Leaving her Room,If She asks for her Dummy say: "You Are Not Sure Where It Is, But If You Find It,You Will Bring It To Her".

If she Then Throws A Tantrum,Explain that

In Doing This She Will Not Get Her Dummy,

Even If You Do Find It!

Of Course From Here On You Have To Be Cruel To Be Kind.You Never DO Find the Dummy,I Guarantee With A Few Upset Nights

[ if that ]Your Little Girl Will Forget She Even Had One.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

gradually i would say but try to get her a new comfort like  special blanket or teddy

x*x hannah xx amys sis

Answer 10

if it makes her sleep and keeps her quiet let her have it

Answer 11

let her have it. there is a valid reason for this.

Say if you take away her dummy she may go on to use her thumb or finger and if she does this her fingers can be deformed (happens alot) in her own time she will realise only babys have dummys and give it up herself.

You can change dummy habbots later but you cannot change your daughters finger or thumb!

I hope I provide a good enough explanation.

princess x x

Answer 12

just talk to her about it like why she wants or needs it ect.And that babies have dummies not little girls and give her a time say she can have it say an hour before she goes to sleep or say that she needs not to have before Christmas otherwise she wont get any toys. Good luck my son is 2 and he has for bed and e will wake up during the night if he cant find it.

Answer 13

my son is 2 and has his dummy at bedtime too - ideas i have heard include:

- cutting a little bit of the end of the dummy and a little more each day until there is nothing left.

- putting some of that stop nail biting stuff on the dummy so it tastes horrid.

- explaining to your daughter that the babies now need the dummies (as she is a big girl) and packaging all dummies up and "posting them".

I think i am going to try the last option but not until my daughter is a little older - she has a dummy too and i want to remove them at the same time - seems fairer somehow.

good luck

Answer 14

Horrible things; should be banned!

Answer 15

well when i was 12 i had to get my twin cousins of it so im sure u will be able to do it ...all u hve to do is make it fun....let her help u wrap up the dummy and tell her its a present for the dummy fairy and if u're a good girl and she will give u a suprise......if she crys leave her and she will eventually get the idea that shes not gettin it bk then just buy her a present and keep it ther till she stops  crying at night then give it to her before she sleeps so she's happy befor she sleeps.....if that doesnt work and shes stubborn then u just tke it form her and say its gone i dont no where it is but u dont need it cuz ur a big girl now and tell her a short story about a girl who lost her dummy and she got reli upset but she realised that she didnt need it but just mke it more exciting .....hope it helps

Answer 16

my daughter was the same way-didn't have it all day but used it to fall asleep, she sucked it maybe 5 min and then we took it. that isn't going to hurt anything, even the paediatric dentist said it's ok and just to wean them, many kids just need that soothing mechanism longer.

... then eventually we started tucking her in first and then tell her we were going to get her pacy. We would "look" for it for a few min to see if she would just fall asleep without it and every once in a while she did (it took a while) ... then she started falling asleep more and more and now she hardly every asks for it but she still hasn't forgotten about it. She has had it maybe twice in the past 3 wks but still says she loves it! =0)

If we told her she did a good job without it she would cry and say she wanted it. Same thing if we offered her a reward. Those things just put the emphasis on it and usually make them want it more.

Princess is right-youy don't want them to pick up the thumb sucking habit!!

Dont let people tell you how horrible it is. Its a pacy-no big deal. she wont suck it when she is 18-I promise!  Just slowly wean her from it. She may need some soft music and singing from mom while dad goes to "look" for it.

Answer 17

Try an exchange. Tell her that she has to trade you her binky for some other thing (a stuffed animal or some other item). She can take that thing to bed with her, but she can't have the binky. This way, she has something new to keep her interest, but she's giving up the pacifier.