My daughter is 5 wks old. She think she suppose to sleep with me at nite?

Question

I take her and lay her in her crib which is beside my bed and she will cry i get up and give her nuk to her and she wait til i lay down and start again i even let her whine a few before getting up to give her nuk to her. When i put her in bed and with me she fine and she go rite to sleep. about hrs or 2 i put her in her crib she sleep til time to eat again. During the day she think she suppose to stay in her swing. what can i do to get her where she sleep in her crib and lay in playpen and sleep instead of wanting to sleep in swing.

Answer 1

You can let her fall asleep in the swing or wherever she wants, but put her in her crib when she falls asleep. She will eventually get use to the idea that the crib is where she should sleep.

Answer 2

There will be some crying, but she will get the hang of it.  Put her in her crib and let her cry for a few minutes.  Time yourself.  Give yourself 5 min.  It will seem longer.  Go and check her to make sure she is OK and I always think you can tell when your baby starts to cry too hard.  Comfort her, but then put her back down and time yourself.  You want her to be comforted, but to learn how to sleep by herself.  It is a learned skill.  It will take a few nights, but it can be done.  Good luck.

Answer 3

im going through the same thing but it seems like everytime we break my daughter from it she gets spoiled again, we always just let her sit there and cry until she gets tired of crying and goes to sleep, by then shes used to it again..

Answer 4

"She think she suppose to sleep with me at nite"

She is right.

"The young of all land mammals sleep in close proximity to their mothers. During the millions of years of prehistoric times, human infants slept with their mothers. In traditional tribal cultures today, the practice of sleeping with infants is still quite common. However, in the technologically advanced cultures of North America and Europe, this practice has been largely abandoned in favor of cradles and cribs. In most homes, the infant does not even sleep in the same room as the parents."

http://www.awareparenting.com/sleep.htm

"Neuroscientists and clinicians have documented that loving interactions that are sensitive to a child's needs influence the way the brain grows and can increase the number of connections between nerve cells. The Australian Association of Infant Mental Health advises: "Infants are more likely to form secure attachments when their distress is responded to promptly, consistently and appropriately. Secure attachments in infancy are the foundation for good adult mental health." So, when you adopt the perspective that your baby's night howls are the expression of a need, and she is not trying to "manipulate" you, and you respond appropriately (this will vary depending on your baby's age and needs), you are not only making her smarter, but you will be hardwiring her brain for future mental health."

http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/pinky_...

Answer 5

She is only 5 weeks old, let her sleep when and where she wants too.  Worry less about where she sleeps and more about how much or not enough.  

Answer 6

baby won't cry for no reason. i'm assuming something making her not comfortable sleeping in her crib.

Answer 7

my daughter wouldnt sleep in her crib until she was 2 months. she slept in her vibrating chair. i felt horrible but that was the only place she would sleep until i tried these two tricks.

1) buy a heart beat bear. they shut off after 40 minutes but they relax them because it sounds like your heart beat when they are in the womb.

2) try laying a heating pad on the mattress of the crib until right before you lay her down. it will warm up the bed so she feels like you are still next to her.

hope this helps good luck!

Answer 8

Well all mothers feel the same as you. Don't worry. But it's best if you probably spend some nights with her. She just misses you when your away and it's hard for them if they don't have their mother close by. Just me and try it for a couple of days. If it doesn't work out, ask your doctor. Remember, your daughter is only 5 weeks old and is still very new to the world. What she needs is her mother most  

Answer 9

its all about the routine you start with her the moment she comes from the hospital, she can probably see you in bed and wants to be close to you. Plus shes still adjusting shes only 5 weeks old. give it time get in a routine, and I recommend putting her away from you when you're sleeping so she cannot see you, she probably likes her swing b/c it rocks her, rotate her put her in the swing one day and the next put her in the playpen, or even try putting her in her crib when its nap time, you stay out of the room and maybe this will help at night time

Answer 10

I am appalled that people will let babies this young cry.  That's just deplorable.  I get that everyone has different parenting styles and there is not one RIGHT way to do it... but allowing a child who is only 35 days old to CRY because you think she should know how to sleep on her own is not acceptable.  (not necessarily referring to the original person- but to people who have responded)

Your baby slept in you for 40 weeks.  Every time that she fell asleep, she was lulled to sleep by the sound of your heart beat, the swaying movement in your womb, and the comforting sound of your voice.  It's a bit lofty for you to expect her, a tiny helpless little 5 week old, to not only be content and comfortable on her own- but to fall asleep on her own.  Falling asleep alone is a learned behavior.  Just like eating solids, putting on clothes, using a toilet, etc.  It is something that you'll need to teach your child over time.  You wouldn't put a steak and a knife in front of a 5 week old and say "go at it kid- figure it out on your own.  You need to learn how to do this alone.  But, don't worry, I'll come and check on you every 5 minutes to make sure you're not dead"...so why would you do that with sleeping?  

Let her fall asleep on you.  Teach her that falling asleep is a safe thing.  Let her smell you, feel you, see you, hear you as she's falling asleep.  Soon, she won't need you as much and she'll be able to do it on her own.  But don't expect her to do it off the bat.  It make take a year + for her to learn... but she will.  You won't have a 5 year old that still needs to be rocked to sleep.

Enjoy the time you have with her now.  She will be a teenager before you know it and you'll wish you had this time back so that you could cuddle and comfort her to sleep.