My daughter is a flower girl in a wedding and she wont drop the rose petals what do I do?

Question

She is two. and she would rather run down the isle!

Answer 1

Add a second flower girl, one thats a bit older, and understands she needs to throw a few rose petals. Your daughter is two and is to young to get the concept.

Answer 2

don't worry about it, if she doesn't throw them she doesn't throw them. at 2 and 3 you should just be happy if they make it down the aisle. there is nothing wrong with a cute little kid running down the aisle. whatever she does will not ruin the wedding.

for my own wedding our flowergirl was 2. i didn't even give her flower petals. we dressed a little stuffed bunny to match the wedding and had her carry that. i also decided not to stress the small child out by making her walk down the aisle alone and just had her mom walk her down, she was also a bride's maid.

she's just a tiny part of the whole day and no matter what she does it will be memorable.

for my sil wedding she had a flowergirl that age and she slowly walked half waydown the aisle. looking confused, stopped where her dad was, was talked into dumping out some of the petals, and then her mom (also a bride's maid) walked out to get her and took down the aisle. still cute.

Answer 3

They'll be adorable either way.  Don't sweat it.

Answer 4

Oh. . .please. . .when YOU were two. . .I'll bet you wanted to do the same thing!   At two years old their attention span is extremely limited to "seconds" (in-the-moment).  

I can't believe you would even "RELY"  on a two year old for this position.  

My ONLY advice is . . .USE SOMEONE OLDER!!!!

Answer 5

That's because she's only 2, and that's exactly what 2 year olds do. Maybe you can walk down the aisle with her. Wedding experts advise brides to choose a child that is at least 4 years old, because they are able to follow directions. I wonder what the bride was thinking.

Answer 6

That is so cute! So very cute!

It is exactly what all will think. So just do not worry. No one will mind if she just walks or runs down the aisle.

When I read your Q I did think of some ideas; looks like others before me have them too.

I have an idea that is different. Make a hole at the bottom of the basket. Paste a paper over it.

When she is about to enter, pull that paper away. Some petals will fall.

Hope this helps.

BTW, children are very unpredictable. She may refuse to enter at the last moment; or enter and do exactly as expected! So be mentally prepared -all those associated with the wedding.

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Answer 7

Tell her if she gets rid of every petal, she gets a present. Lol

Answer 8

We felt that giving our flowergirl (two years old as well) the responsibility of dropping rose petals was simply too much in that type of a setting (lots of unknown people in an unknown setting tends to freak out little ones!).  We decided to go with a "flower ball" or a "kissing ball" as it has been known to be called.  There is a tiny loop attached to the flower ball for the flowergirl to carry either in her hands or on her wrist and the flowers (fake or real) match the flowers in the bridal party.  We went for the fake flowers in case she dropped it or swung it around!  It worked out fantastic!  The flowergirl just has the responsibility of either walking or running up the aisle....still with flowers in her hand!  Much easier!

Answer 9

try to explain to her that she needs to drop the rose petals, but if she doesn't its ok everyone will just think that it's adorable.

Answer 10

get another girl who can walk with her in the isle and make her throw the petals with her and she might copy

Answer 11

Your daughter might mimic the other flower girl but so what if she doesn't throw the petals?

Is the bride & groom going to call off the wedding?  Will the day be ruined?

No matter how much rehearsal there is, when it comes to children there's no guarantee that they will do what they've practiced when the time comes.

If your daughter's lack of understanding what is required of her is going to embarrass you, decline the invitation to have your daughter participate in the wedding.

Answer 12

Let them do what they want. Have her just walk with the basket and not throw flowers, have her carry a tiny bouquet. Have her run down the aisle. They are so young, everyone will think it is adorable no matter what. My 2 year old niece is my flower girl and she wants to just empty the entire basket in one shot, then sit on the floor and pick up the stuff. :-)

Answer 13

tell her there fairy petals, and when she throws them on the ground, everyones wishes in the room will come true :]

Answer 14

The bride could suggest that your daughter walk down the aisle with an older child who would remind her to throw the petals and walk slow or you can just let it go and everyone will think she is so cute and funny by doing whatever she is going to do. Don't stress about it too much.

Answer 15

my aunt had the same problem with my little sister. my mom told her right before that there were spiders in the basket.

i know it wasnt the best idea but she threw every single flower!

Answer 16

Your daughter is being a normal 2 year old.  Even if she did perform flawlessly in front of people she knew, when the big day comes and she must perform in front of a couple hundred people . . . watch out for a melt down.

Performing and public speaking in front of a crowd is something even adults have trouble with, but the require a 2 year old to do it is tough.  Anytime you have a kid between the ages 2 - 5 years old in a wedding party the only thing you can guarantee is that you will have some priceless moments on tape for 'America's Funniest Videos'!

Answer 17

That is the trouble with flower girls of this age. It's best for the girls to be a little older. But, since you've already accepted for her, just keep practicing and then, on the wedding day, she'll do whatever she'll do. That's the fun of having the children in the wedding. They are always unpredictable. Be prepared for her to see the audience and run the other way, cry or run under your dress.

Answer 18

Make a game out of it.  If possible, have one of the younger bridesmaids accompany her while also dropping rose petals.  Tell your daughter that there will be a treat for doing a good job, then give her that treat when you meet her up at the alter to take her to your pew or outside.  Two years old is rather young for the task.  I wouldn't expect too much, unless you have someone accompany here, even another child in the wedding party.

Answer 19

It shows she too young to do it. In Australia the flowergirl doesn't throw anything so theres never an issue. I guess you could just have her walk down the aisle without throwing them and it can be like an australian wedding:)

Answer 20

When my 4 yr. old was in my wedding, I knew she wouldn't go down by herself, so she went down with my maid of honor.  I think with kids (especially a 2 yr. old) you need to go with the flow.  I know brides have  certain idea in their head, but expecting that much from a 2 yr old in front of lots of people is too much.

Answer 21

Have her practice at home if you have time and give her a reward for doing it right. Make it like a game and hope she goes for it....

Answer 22

that's fairly typical of her.

have you tried SHOWING her how much fun it is to throw rose petals? kids at that age will usually mimick others if it seems like fun.

otherwise just have her run down the aisle, and go sit with you.

Answer 23

Anyone who asks a two year-old to be a flower girl can't seriously be expecting much different~!    Just let her have fun, if the bride had wanted it done "right" she'd have picked someone  older.

Answer 24

theres nothing you can do.

the people who picked your daugher should understand this and her age....or they shouldn't have picked her

Answer 25

You need to relax.

The bride will have to realize that unfortunately children don't always do as their told & to go with the flow on the day as she might do it or she might not.