My daughter is becoming involved in the emo scene, should I be concerned?

Question

Aiyana, why should I listen to a girl who's younger than my daughter? At least advise me to why it's bad, if you think it is?

Answer 1

Are you freaking' kidding me?!?!Of course you should be concerned.Talk her out of it.Show her the consequences.Discipline her for goodness sake.

Answer 2

she is fin :) and emo is not bad at all thay r so of the niceest people u will ever meet :) ! She is just being her sellf :)  oh I am emo ;)

Answer 3

From a teen recently coming out of the emo scene, it's not really an issue unless

1) You see that she's hurting herself or others (I never did, but I saw my friends do some bad things through this stage - just watch out for it. )

2) Does her personality change? Does she all of a sudden become smartaleck and rude when before she wasn't? (I don't know your daughter's personality, but I'm sure you can fill in the blanks)

3) Is it affecting her everday life? Does she become depressed? Is her schoolwork suffering? Social life suffering?

As long as these things aren't happening, then I don't see a problem with it. I still listen to a lot of the heavy metal stuff - most people go through the phase. Best of luck!

Answer 4

Your daughter and I sound similar x]

She's not emo - She's just being different. In fact, if you had to stereotype her, I would go with being a unique type of punk/goth. So she wears black - why do we wear color? Black means rain clouds, a symbol of life and prosperity, in one culture.

Lol. I love Screamo and Metal. I'd be more concerned with your daughter listening to Hip Hop or Rap. In those types of music, you talk about how life is happening, or how someone is being awful towards you.

Answer 5

I don't think so

just cuz its black and screamo doesnt make it bad..

Answer 6

it's not bad! just let her be herself. being emo is not dangerous. it's not hurting anything. you have absolutely no reason to be concerned by a style of clothing and hair. you know, it sure would be nice for parents to just butt out sometimes! it's like some people feel the need to control their kids' lives completely. my mom tries to tell me how to wear my hair, paint my nails, clean my room, wash my hands, eat my food, and the list goes on! you just have to understand that people are going to be themselves, no matter how much you try to change them. a great person once said "there's more than one way to skin a cat". i don't like the part about skinning cats. i love cats. it just the concept of letting people make their own choices and live their life the way that feels right for them. just let it go. i can tell you so truthfully from personal experience that critiquing and constantly trying to change a person is the most pointless thing you can do with your time. my mom is always like "meredith, you need to sit up straight. your posture is terrible. i'm really concerned about your posture." not only does it make me infuriated, it really hurts my feelings. it's like she can't accept me for me. that i'm some sort of disappointment in her life that she wishes she could correct. it just isn't worth the effort to make someone feel bad about being themselves. just crank down that control- it's going to be fine.

Answer 7

my 13 (almost 14) year old daughter is also "emo" or "scene". i dont think that it is really anything to be that concerned with, as long as she remains happy, my daughter, like yours, listens to "screamo" music and wears nothing but black BUT she is still happy, i have a friend who is a pshychologist and she knows all about this TREND and she said it is simply a phase that most teens go through at some stage between the ages of 12-18, they do eventually grow out of it.

my advice - just let her be, she is simply figuring out who she is at the moment :)

Answer 8

No, just let her be herself.

Answer 9

Let her be herself. She will find the way, with good communication and dialogue between you two. I went through many different stages in Jr. high and high school. It was about figuring yourself out. I think it's great and totally normal. Just stay open and warm with your daughter.

Answer 10

emo has a bad reputation of cutting and what not but trust me thats not what it is at all.

i know more girls who are preppy and popular that are very depressed who cut themselves and what not. it does not matter what clique you are in

you said she's happy so i wouldnt be worried. if things start to change in her behavior then thats when you should step in. as for right now dont worry

but do be an active part in her life.  

Answer 11

Emo is not necissarily a bad thing. I would watch an emo child the same as any other child and probably less than the happy go lucky "perfect" child. All children have issues and the "perfect" ones are usually best at hiding those issues. If she is happy and not depressed, self destructive, or being adversly influenced let her be.

Answer 12

LOL!

No emo is not bad. Some say it's lame, but it's not bad. She's just expressing herself and experimenting with her identity. I'm sure you did something just as worrying to your parents when you were her age.

If she really is happy and the lines of communication are still open then there is n-o-t-h-i-n-g to worry about.

Be approachable and open minded. Why don't you ask her a little about this strange emo culture of hers (there's a lot to it). She'll probably laugh and roll her eyes saying something like "OMG! Mum, you are soooo lame" but at least she'll know you're making an effort.

Good luck.

PS: try telling her this joke:

"I'm so emo I don't cry over spilt milk, I mourn it"

or

"my black is blacker than your black, it's called blackblack"

LOL!

Answer 13

I don't think it's a bad thing at all!!! When I was in high school, I was "emo", but I was the happiest person in the world. I was bouncy and got really good grades, and had many friends. I listened to screamo music and wore all black and dyed my hair black, too.

I think she's just trying to fit in, and find her place in this world. Let her be herself, and she'll appreciate it. Don't force her to wear different clothes or change anything about her. She'll resent that and rebel.

Just look for any signs of self-mutilation, or any drug use. If you can't find any of that stuff, I think you're good to go! I hope your daughter stays happy and discovers who she is.

Answer 14

often times as parents we forget the things we did that threw our parents for a loop.

i've heard different things about emo kids, not all bad.  your daughter could be just wanting to try something different/new and hopefully her experience with this or any other fad won't leave her scarred.

i am firm believer in parents knowing/meeting their child's friends and at least meeting their parents. that way you can allow her to invite some of these kids to your home, check them out for yourself and make a better assessment.

still as adults, there are things that we try and decide keeper or not.

Answer 15

Nahh, she's just looking for ways to express herself. I was a metalhead in high school, and I turned out fine :-)

Answer 16

no.   perhaps you encourage her to listen to something other then black metal,  for one thing. it's all just screamo and satanic.  You say you cna listen to some metal with a bit screaming but rather tell to listen to other types since they are catually menaing, heyy, there are evn christna mbands out and there are hcristan emo.  Tell she can be eomo with out all the tats and percings. Ther are happy emos!