My daughter is keeping secrets which may be someone who is sexually abusing her. Help!

Question

My daughter is 4, and last week I caught her masturbating. I questioned her several times why she was doing that, and all I got was "its fun".

I called the police and child protective services, and for a week we've been picking her brain and she refuses to give any more information other than "its fun". The detectives and social workers cant do anything to help since there is no evidence of abuse, but I fear whoever is doing it has a tight grip on her mind, I'm scared for my daughter and I dont trust any of my friends anymore. I've kept her locked up tight.

Please help me find a way to find out what is going on, I've tried everything.

Answer 1

This is completely normal.. my little 6 year old sister used to do it too.. and we were also concerned but no.. they are just discovering their bodies..and it happens very often..its a very common thing wit small kids.  

Answer 2

Honestly, some children just m********e, they discover it by accident and then try it for awhile.  You could try a child therapist if it would make you feel better.

Answer 3

wow that a tuffy i think itt is normal for kids that age to experiment with masturbation crazy as it sounds.

I think blocking everyone out is crazy ur pushing people away who help u, u must keep a close eye on ur daughters reactions to diff people and there reactions to you this may help also ur daughter is very young but maybe hypnotism mite help u find out?

Answer 4

The only other way I could imagine you could find any clues would be to hire a private investigator. He/she could monitor all possibilities in terms of who could be coming in contact with your child, which of course could give law enforcement more to go on with their own investigation.

However, you should know that masturbation is normal for a child even as young as she is. If you suspect that someone has taught her this, then that is definitely something you should investigate, but I really doubt that your four year old is keeping anything from you - most likely she has just figured it out on her own. Of course, if you want to put your mind more at ease, consider a consultation with a child psychologist. I think you'll find the article below very helpful.

Answer 5

Has she never masturbated before?  That can be pretty normal for a child.  I would probably also keep a very VERY close eye on her like you are doing.  Be careful though with too much questioning.  You don't want to scare her or put those thoughts into her head.  Has other behavior changed for her as well?  Has she regressed or gotten more clingy?  Keep teaching her that no one is allowed to touch her private body...that you and her have no secrets and that she should always tell you if someone touches her body.  Assure her that you will not be mad at her and she won't get in trouble.  You have probably already done these things.  Just remember, too, that as adults and parents our minds jump to the worst case scenario.  Maybe she is just exploring because it is fun.  I really hope that is the case and I'm sorry that you two are going through this.  You are doing the right things.

Answer 6

Personally speaking, it's too young for a girl to mastubat...but what if she doesn't even know she's masturbating? And what if she doesn't know that it's actually wrong?

Probably, she doesn't wanna say anything because she's afraid that she did somehing really serious...

Answer 7

Lots of little kids do this, because it feels good.Little kids are discovering their bodies, and when they figure out that it feels good, just like adults, they continue! I hope you don't tell her it is bad to touch her own body. But you should be reinforcing her and telling her what bad touching is and that no one else should touch her. Do you have any other reason to believe she is being sexually abused?  

Answer 8

I think the only thing you can do is to get a really good child therapist.  There's one of two things going on- She discovered it on her own or someone showed it to her.  If she really is keeping this a secret, she will reveal it to a good child therapist over time.  4 year olds are not known for their secret keeping.

Answer 9

go to a pro who specializes in her age group. they have ways to gain their trust and get answers in a round about way. good luck!

Answer 10

This action is far more common than you think, lots of little kiddies do this, its quite natural. They are discovering there bodies getting ready for adulthood in a few years time.Yes, keep an eye on herespecially in company, many children, and statistically, are abused, believe it or not, by relatives, does,nt bear thinking about, but, very true.What you MUST NOT do is make a big thing of her actions, the more you ask her questions, the more she will want to carry on. Or on the other hand, she may start to feel this is very wrong, and this will make her ashamed of any sexual feelings later on in life.All I can say to you, is dont worry too much about this, hopefully this is a phases we all go through, she will grow up fine, good luck to you.

Answer 11

he might of threatened her and is scared. talk to her, get her trust that u will keep her safe, and get the info u need