My daughter is scared to go to the toilet on her own?

Question

my four year old daughter is scared of going to the toilet by herself if she has to she becomes hysterical and has on one occasion messed herself its not just the toilet she has a problem with sometimes she gets like it if she has to enter a room by herself .i am at a loss as to what to do . i know some people will say just take her to the bathroom but I'm on my own and that isn't always practical .she is also starting school in September and needs to be able to use the bathroom by herself ...please help.

Answer 1

she could be scarred of what she might run into when she goes places alone. i use to be like that. what i would do is take her to the bathroom and hav her wait in the door way while you walk in and shoe her everything is ok in the room. and graduly she should see that its always goin to be safe. and when she does go in alone with out you having to go in before her praise her and give her a reward. also when she is starts goin in the bathroom alone have heer keep the door open and talk to her while she is in there ( be like in the kitchen or in a different room)

Answer 2

put something in the toilet to distract her and maybe she will be so addicted she will maybe  even forget about it.

GL :)

Answer 3

My daughter is four and I think its a stage.  My daughter will not go into any room by herself, someone has to go with her or be very nearby.  So its normal, and I do think it will pass.  What I do with my daughter is try to ease her into going on her own.  I won't necessarily go into the bathroom with her, but I'll stand right outside the door.  Or just humor her and it'll pass on its own before you know it.  I wouldn't worry about school - my daughter has never had an issue using the bathroom at her preschool.  In the first room she was in, the bathroom was in the classroom, so there were plenty of people very near.  And when she moved into a different classroom, a teacher would escort her to the bathroom down the hall.  Either way, your daugther will fend for herself, you'll see.

**EDIT**  I just wanted to add..... my mother always called age four, "the fearful fours".  Kids have so many fears around that age.  And I know my daughter does, and she can't verbalize WHY she's scared, she just is.  So within reason, I do try to humor her and help her through this stage.  But again, she fends fine at school.... and most likely your daughter will as well.  If for some reason she does have issues at school.... cross that bridge when you get to it, and the teachers will work with you on it.  

Good luck!!

Answer 4

Ask her why she is scared of going by herself. If she doesn't answer your question, there is something you can do. You can put stuffed animals on the floor in there. You can call them her: Potty Protection Pets. Spray some water on them when you set them down and say that it gives them special powers to keep her completely safe. My mom did that to my little sister. Hope I helped! Thanks!

Answer 5

Talk to her.  Ask her what scares her about the bathroom or other empty rooms.

Then gently tell her that the thing which makes it scary is not true, is not there, etc.

Do practice runs, promising that you will stand by the door in case there is trouble.  

If there is still trouble, strike a bargain!  Give her a dollar for each 30 seconds she can spend in there without being scared.  Send her in - with a digital wristwatch, of course!  She'll be so busy watching her money account grow that she'll forget all about the fear.

Answer 6

make the bathroom friendly by adding a couple little girl things near the toilet for a while and move her up on a reward chart every time she goes byu herself!