My daughter is starting high school - any tips for her?

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My daughter is starting high school - any tips for her?

Answer 1

Friends, Make as many as possible. Outgoing, join clubs and sports. Field hockey and softball and soccer are great girl sports in my high school and they all seem to be a tight group. cheerleading, join a club, enviormental, debate or anything where there is alot of talking amongst eachother, after school is really nice, we had a study center were students would help other people in our high school after school, see if that helps. and always be herself and make her own choices. dont allow anyone to change that because It is better to be hated for who you are then loved for who you are not!

As a mom, Allow her to go out with her new friends, allow them to come over to ur house, High school and theres gonna be partys, make sure ur duaghter is aware of drinking and drugs and knows when to stay away.

Other then that make sure she has fun!

Answer 2

Dont annoy older high schoolers :)

Answer 3

Okay, I'm entering the 10th grade (Sophomore) and the first thing it is necessary to know is not to be nervous.  It's truly not like in the movies, or anything like that.  

Second, come prepared.  Teachers aren't going to let you off easy for forgetting your homework-even in the first few days.  Stay on top of your homework, start studying early, and keep yourself organized with either a notebook to write down all your assignments, or some sort of log.

Third, don't be intimidated by the older students.  Your daughter may see some people doing things she's never seen before: kids making out in the halls, swearing profusely, pushing each other around, but the key thing to do is to get out of those situations.  Just walk around the people doing these things, don't get involved, or stare, or anything like that.  There can be some freaky-looking kids in high school, that dress in all black, and have many piercings and such.  She will get used to this, but tell her to try not to stare.

Fourth, get involved in some activities.  My freshman year, I played fresman volleyball in the fall, varsity tennis in the spring, and ClubMed.  I made sure not to overload on activities, especially in the first semester, or half of the year, so I could get used to my surroundings more easily, and take it slow.  This year I'm getting involved in some more activities that I learned about last year.  It really is a great way to meet new people.

Fifth, don't have huge expectations for high school.  Most people don't have dates for dances, they don't have boyfriends 24/7, and aren't involved in a great deal of social events.  It really isn't all it's cracked up to be, at least at first.  She may think everyone is doing these things, but in all truthfulness, they aren't.  Tell her not to worry about it.

And finally, have a great time.  High school is not only a time for learning, but for living.  Make new experiences, new friends, and learn about yourself.  Don't be in a little corner, but don't go all out either.  Don't succumb to peer pressure, including drugs and s*x, but don't back out on little things just because they might seem a little scary.

Good luck!

Answer 4

*basically don't get worked up about it...it's not worth it.

*be positive...if you are negative your day will suck...if you are positive it will be at least ok.

*don't worry about getting lost....the teachers and upperclassmen will help you...and you're not alone

*being in high school rocks

good luck!  

Answer 5

be friendly to everyone, the best way of making friends, dont rise to arguments, dont react to rude comments, don't answer back to teachers, try hard in lessons etc =)

Answer 6

Be organized, join loads of clubs and have a great time!

Answer 7

********* Don't PROCRASTINATE!!

^ i am the biggest procrastinator of all and i stress myself out constantly (i'm a sophomore)

also, know who your real friends are... don't trust everyone because its not worth getting hurt .. you cant avoid drama but you can ease yourself away from it... try hard and it will pay off and stay true to yourself

Answer 8

Join lunch clubs - a good way to make friends and these are often very popular with yr 7 and yr 8.

Becoming part of a group of friends is good, but don't be afraid to part of more than one group. That way, you will not only have more friends but if you fall out with one group (these things happen) or get moved to another year half/class/form in yr 8 you will have other friends to fall back on.

Don't worry about getting lost - ask a teacher or other student - people expect new students to get lost!

Answer 9

stay away from the toilets-theres condoms,tampons,pubic hair,cigarettes and stuff you don't want to know about

stay away from any bad kids

anyone insults you tell the teachers if they do nothing fight back combat is the only way out

Answer 10

ENJOY IT !!!!

It's the most amazing thing ever, there's sooooooooooooooo much to do and get involved in. go for it but tell her to remember she has to be herself !!!

Answer 11

High School sucks

Answer 12

be individual

dont conform to temporary and fake friends

do your work

and enjoy as much as you possible can...its gonna be a long ride

Answer 13

Live, study in England-there's none of this 'I'm worried about starting High School' tripe as most of the time you'll be going through to another branch of your school and'll therefore be with the same friends.

Answer 14

when i started three years ago the only thing i told myself is to look like i know what i'm doing, confident but not cocky confident.

make friends with the people who are in your lessons but dont spend all your time doing clubs, spend some of it socialising.

high school was the best ever for me, it helped me with my confidence and i have loads of friends!

good luck!

Answer 15

Yes, brush your teeth, loose weight and wear sensible shoes.

Seriously though, can't you administer the advice she needs? After all I don't know her from Adam.

If it will comfort her, tell her that we don't have High Schools here in the UK.  

Answer 16

She needs to study hard and get good grades. She may have friends from her old school but she should be open and friendly to make new ones too.

Here are my tips:

- Be organised. It's a lot harder to study if she is constantly searching everywhere in your house for a textbook or jotter, it also wastes time. My advice is to keep all her academic stuff in one place, try to keep it tidy and at least then you will know where to look.

- Time management. It plays such an important role in studying, if she has lots to do, complete homework that is due the earliest first. If you know she doesn't have enough time to study, it means it's time to cut down on the amount of television she watches.

- Sort out the priorities. If she has a subject which she is struggling with and a subject she finds easy. It is recommended that she spends more time on the more difficult subject so she can get better at it and hopefully reach the same level as the other.

- Other things she can do is take notes in class, have good behaviour, listen to the teacher carefully and try her best. This is an excellent skill to have for going into high school.

- You should get her a planner so she can note down when she has homework. No excuses.

- Lastly, you should always support her. High school is important and she should be taking it seriously. They'll be times when she has loads of homework, might get into to trouble or fall behind. Don't pressure her, just try to help her.

Hope this helps. Good luck. :-)

Answer 17

Tell her not to be surprised if some seniors act negatively toward her during the first week. It's not a personal attack, and she shouldn't let it get to her. Seniors think they're very special, and they'll go after any Freshman they come in contact with. Their heads will deflate by the second week, and she'll have nothing to worry about.

Also, advise her to join as many groups and clubs as she's interested in. Getting involved in Extra Curriculars your Freshman year is a good idea because it 1) looks great on your college application, 2) gives you "automatic friends," and 3) gives you that seniority in the coming years. If she finds she wants to run for President of the Drama Club when she's a senior, she'll have experience over the person that joined when they were a Freshman. And even if she isn't sure she wants to join a club, tell her to join anyway. If she decides she doesn't like it, she can always leave, and then she can widdle away until she only belongs to the clubs she likes.

Answer 18

tell her to be herself and not to be too caught up in peer pressure, people that have issues and/or are take drugs or drink and party alot. Just make sure that she dosent s***w around too much in high school and that every year in high school matters for college every grade on progress reports.tell her to join extracirrucular activites and sports  

Answer 19

Go back to school focus, and being yourself.  

Answer 20

time to make the teacher faint

Answer 21

study at home, stay away from the bad kids and keep out of trouble.

Answer 22

Well I know that my high school was great, but nowadays I believe kids are taking knives and things to school. So my advice would be keep yourself to yourself and don't get in with the wrong crowd, so many young lives have been taken lately

Answer 23

I started high school earlier this month. It honestly wasn't that bad! If you just focus on where you're going and you can get in your locker and to your classes okay, she'll be fine. I didn't think high school was that different than middle school, besides all the extracurriculars!

Answer 24

Tell her to just enjoy it! If she is a nice friendly person, people will want to be friends with her, and she will have fun! Just remember, everyone else is just as nervous as you are, and that nobody is expecting you to be perfect!

Answer 25

stay away from guys and study well!!

Answer 26

Yes, tell her not to get her hopes up. High School is not that great. The first few months willl seem exciting. But soon it will all go down hill, you'll lose youre closest friends. Everyone will change around you. You'll soon be in a clique of some sort.

Don't conform the the S****y way girls slap on their makeup and act liek tarts to impress the (chavvy) boys.

I'm going into yr9. and i REALLY can't wait to finish this h**l hole.

>_>

gah. sorry to be negative.

also, tell her, if the teacher is being an idiot, don't be afraid to tell them where their oging wrong, it might get her in trouble for a while but they'll eventually know to get their act together. or they might be a complete t**t like my maths teacher last year...

also, older kids are much more interesting and smarter to talk to. my closest friends are in their last year of school >_<

ALSO. tell her not to feel the need to fool around with every boyfriend. tell her to tell them where to stick it if they try and pressure her into anything...

erm yeah, >__< highschool's p**p.

Answer 27

High school is a great opportunity to meet new friends, grow from new experiences, and most importantly, to learn and get into the habit of studying well. It's also a very important time because it's the start of the preparation for the rest of her life. College is only four years away.

My advice is to come to school with an open, friendly mind. Don't be afraid of getting judged, don't care too much about what other people think about you, but stay focused on what makes you happy, building and strengthening friendships, and keeping good grades. You'll find out that it doesn't matter what other people think of you, because in a few years, you'll likely never see these people again.

A support system is integral during high school. Stay close to your parents, as well.

Be outgoing, because you can't expect people to go up to you begging for your friendship. To really get what you want, you have to initiate it. That is, YOU start the conversations. :)

Don't do things because your friends want you to. Stay true to your values, because it's very easy to be swayed by your friends. Before every decision, carefully consider the consequences before acting. Something that may be fun for a night or two may be your regret for months or even years.

Anyway, most kids tend to stay away from s*x and drugs. Choose your friends carefully. If you get the vibe that they're shallow, will only accept you conditionally, or that you can't be yourself around them and have to pretend to be someone else, than drop them. You won't be happy at all. If you do have friends with.. bad habits... doesn't mean you have to stop being their friend as long as they don't pressure you into doing bad things with them.

A lot of kids find their passions in high school. Join a few clubs and teams that might seem interesting, because thats where many people find their friends. Stick with your interests and you may even become very good at them.

Keep grades one of your top priorities. Avoid procrastinating like the plague, and do things one at a time. Make sure you don't sign up for too many extra-curriculars, or you might burn out. Set a certain amount of time each day to do your homework, and studying in advance is highly recommended. Keep careful notes, and don't be afraid to ask your teachers any questions. Trust me, there is a lot less stress this way.

Participate in class. Teachers love that sort of thing, and some even make it a big part of your grade. Oh, and get a weekly planner. My school gave these out to us and it really helped us get organized. Once again, keeping things stress free.

It's also how you see things. Don't despair over bad things like rejection, a bad grade, work overload, or even betrayal. Look for the learning experience in everything.

HS is what you make of it. Yes, it's hard at times, but you can either make it h**l, or heaven for yourself.