My daughter is turning 9 and she wants a training bra....

Question

Ok I think I was 12 when I got my first training bra lol. My ex has bought her some that look like little sports bras and she loves them. Personally I think she is too young. She has little bumps but nothing that needs "training" as of yet. Am I being too uptight? Her birthday is next week and that is the main thing she wants (other than a stereo and an ipod nano and ....well u get the point). She is a very quiet soft spoken girl but really wants this. And most of her friends to have them (I have seen most of them wearing them). What do you think?

Answer 1

Aw Hun shes growing up ..My daughter is 10 and has a large bust for her age i felt so strange getting her a bra cause to me of course shes still my baby, so i took her to get it fitted they tell you just a soft a soft bra no underwire because its not good for a young girls growing b*****s, so i got her a few plain white and she loves wearing them she said she felt a young lady ...Get her a few to get used to them she and you will be fine x

Answer 2

She want to feal more like a lady!

I would get her one because later when she really needs one she might not feel comfortable wearing a real bra.

Make her a card and put in it that shes going to get a shopping spree thingy for bras! Shell be so happy!

Answer 3

It's fine.  Many 9/10 year olds have them.

Answer 4

I got mine around 10 and believe me, my mom would not have gotten one for me if I did not need it!

I do think the special shopping day is a good idea.

Answer 5

why not? early start of puberty.

Answer 6

I don't think there's anything wrong with getting her a few training bras.  I got my first one when I was 9.  Some girls just start developing earlier than others, it's not that uncommon.

It's best to get her into the habit of wearing one now than later anyway.  Too many young girls wait until they actually have b*****s to wear a bra.  

Little bumps are the signs of budding b*****s.  Your little girl is growing up.  It sucks when you have to face that they aren't little anymore and are starting to hit puberty.

Buy her the bras.  If anything else it will make her happy and get her into the mindset of wearing a bra early on.  

Good luck and brace yourself.  There's more yet to come!  LOL!  

Answer 7

Buy them!

Get her into the habit of wearing them now. Its very possible she doesn't need one yet, but chances are she will soon - More than likely some of her friends are wearing them and she is curious.

Answer 8

I think it's fine, I had my first one when I was 10. It's not a big deal, she just wants to fit in with her friends and feel like a woman. :)  

Answer 9

Get her the training bra. I know she's nine but it is important to her to keep up with her friends no matter how we look at it. Peer pressure is pretty big at nine years old and if she gets a training bra, she'll be up to date with her friends and you should feel relieved she's asking you for one - it took me AGES to pluck up the courage to ask my Mum at nine for a training bra!  

Answer 10

I say what will it hurt? Even if there is nothing to "train" ( which is a stupid term if I ever heard one)  if it makes her feel good why not?

Answer 11

she has a bump that means she needs a bra, doesnt mean she has to wait until 12 yrs old like you were. Try to be more open minded and see what ur daughter needs instead of your own self. Shopping with her and giving her a bra would make her happy and that's good, down the road in teens age, she will be able to talk to u about other deep issues than just a bra...u know?  

Answer 12

I had my first training bra when I was in second grade. I was an early bloomer! lol But she's a natural girl and is following what her friends do. I think it wouldn't hurt anything to go on ahead and buy her a training bra. You two should go together to buy one. I remember when my mom and I went shopping for one, I was so excited. That's one of the few moments in my life that I remember bonding with my mom. It's a fun thing for the girls to do together. What kind of harm are you afraid will be done by buying her one at this age? If her friends already have one, then you can be positive no harm will come from this. She just simply feels like she wants one. She will just sneak around and find something to wear as a training bra if you don't lol. I used to wear my bathing suit top under my clothes until my mom found out. Then she knew it was time to take me. Don't worry about it and just go on ahead and buy her one.  

Answer 13

Honestly in the end when she is grown whether or not she wore a training bra at 9 or 12 will not affect her life in any way so if it makes her more confident and her friends are doing it(probably because girls are developing faster than they used to) then just let her. Remember chose your battles alway examine to results if they wont hurt her or someone else what the harm in letting her, and as she gets older she will feel you trust her with certain things and it boosts their confidence

Answer 14

Personally I was never one for training bra's I just started wearing the real thing when I started developing. If your uncomfortable with her wearing a training bra then you can try letting her wear a camisole tank top that has a built in bra. That way she can feel older and you can feel more comfortable with everything. They sell some cute ones at Limited Too.

Answer 15

Relax, Mom!

It won't hurt a thing!

Signed,

Mother, Grandmother, Niece, Aunt, Great Aunt, Sister and nurse.

No one was ever ruined by wearing a training bra. It means a lot to her, and it won't cause her any harm.

She doesn't have any 'context' (idea of what the garment does). You do, but what she wants and you know are two different things. She is 'just a little girl'. She will still be your little girl even when she wears the bra...

Just be very careful what she listens to on the ipod nano...that will be the thing that messes up her little sweet and impressionable mind...

Good luck...

You are doing a good job!

Happy 9th Birthday to her & you!

Answer 16

If your 9 year old has enough guts and sense to ask for a bra then by all means, she should have one.  Why would you want her to be self concious about her body?  Sports bras to start are great, they even make them padded now.

Answer 17

Time to go shopping mom!!!!!!

This is a good sign shes embracing growing up in a healthy way! Even if she doesn't have the breast yet thi is good practice to learn to get used to the feel..hence the word TRAINING bra!!!!!

Just maybe don't give it to her as her gift in front of ppl, it might embaress her!

Answer 18

i think its okay...your little baby is growing up

Answer 19

I would get her some. It's not going to harm her in any way. She's just trying to feel more grown up like her friends. :)