My daughter is very stubborn .she creams if anybody doesn't give her what she wants.how do i manage.she is21/2

Question

she snatches toys from other kids in her nursery but once they dont give she screams but if told to her politely she listens .her teacher often complain that she screams a lot and is very restless.she never sits in a place.pls help

Answer 1

You and the teacher need to have a talk about how to be a united front.  I agree with previous answers--you must totally and completely ignore her when she tantrums.  Really, you must pretend she doesn't even exist.  But, it's equally as important that the teacher takes the same approach.

It will also be effective to teach the other children in the nursery how to verbalize with her, something like, "Carmen, I don't like playing with you when you take my toy!"  This type of communication is also effective coming from adults (I use this with children of other parents all the time:  "Zachary, I don't like being around you when you poke me.").

Answer 2

She's normal. Let her scream, completely ignore her when she does - and talk to her and play with her when she stops. She'll soon realise fun things only happen when she doesn't scream. Don't EVER give her something if she screams for it, because if she thinks it might work she'll keep trying it.

Answer 3

A) does she get enough exercise and play time at home? Does she have a garden to run around in and play in or swing, can you go to the local park and get her tired out lol

B) NEVER i say NEVER give in if she screams. You can say "please be quiet, i will not give you bla bla if you are screaming" and ignore her, when or if she stops, give her what she wanted.She will eventually learn.

I have a great tip for supermarket shopping. get a pad of paper and a pen and when you are out instead of her saying "i want that" and you say "no" and she screams try saying "okay, let's write it down on this piece of paper, if you ask nicely and use a quiet voice, you can pick your favourite and it will be your treat" so she might point at a chocolate bar and you say "okay let's write that down" and write it down and then she might point to a toy, you write that down. If she keeps screaming you can say "remember i said if you used your quiet voice you will get a treat from the list when we are finished." If it happens to be when you are paying say "we will write this down and next time we go shopping you might be able to have it as a treat if you use your quiet voice".

C) Do calm activities with your child if you don't already. Lie on your back with her and listen to gentle music and relax.

-play with playdough, playdough is very theraputic and calming.

-Baking is also another relaxing and theraputic activity.

-Quietly reading her a book, one on one, in a quiet environment.

-She may be either over stimulated or understimulated, so if you over stimulate her, give her a moment during the day where she can spend time playing on her own quietly, if you understimulate her you might want to plan more activities with her, some art, an outing, etc.

D) Don't look for things like ADD and ADHD, try with diet first. Does she have a sugary cereal for breakfast? look at the packaging and calculate the sugar levels in what she is eating. The best cereals are low in sugar and high in whole gains such as bran flakes, wheaty bites, bran, porrage. You should also provide her with a fruit like a banana and a fruit juice or water. For morning tea or lunch try to avoid giving her sugary foods such as sweets or overly salty foods such as chips. A good lunch box could include-a wholemeal sandwhich with cheese, ham, lettuce, a yoghurt, an apple and a couple of rice crackers or  Home-made stir fried rice with vegetables and some crackers and an apple or if she likes lots of little things, pieces of cooked but cold chicken, baby tomatos, grapes, a packet of rice wheels, carrot sticks, etc etc. you get the drift.

Answer 4

Hate to say this, but you really have to ignore the tantrums, or you'll be storing up trouble!! Imagine her doing this type of thing when she reaches 5, 10 or even 15, because she wasn't shown that people don't always get what they want - it could lead to all sorts of problems, both for her and the people around her.

Just sit her down and explain to her, in terms that she understands, that it isn't right for her to snatch toys from other children, that she needs to learn to share. I did this with my son before I put him in nursery, and he's become a very caring, sharing boy now ( he's 16).

You need to get to grips with this now, while she's young enough to learn about such things as sharing and not interrupting others. She needs to learn that it's not a good thing to run around when other children are trying to be quiet, as they will become upset if she does.

You could also have a word with your health visitor about this matter. She may have the exact advice you  need to help your little girl to behave better.

Also, there is one word you need to learn to say more often and that word is NO. Using this word at appropriate times will teach her that she can't always have , do or say what she wants, and will prepare her for the world of "big school" and, later for the world of work.

This information may also be of help to you: http://www.suite101.com/reference/tantru...

Answer 5

This is normal.  And the reason she screams to get what she wants, is because it always works.  When your at home, and she wants something she can't have, just let her scream.  Say "No" and mean it.  Eventually she will figure out no means no.  Right now, she has figured out, if she screams, she'll get what she wants no matter what you say.

I have a screamer too.  Mine is 2.5 years old, and he is wild.  I know how uncomfortable it is, especially out in public.  But my son is learning... slowly but surly.

Answer 6

Time to get stern mommy and let her know  you mean business, All I have to do to my lil girl is look at her with that look and say "no mama, we dont act that way" and she has learned not to react that way, gotta start young

Answer 7

She 2 most are restless. The grabbing is normal to as well as the screaming. this is something they work on when this young. You have to teach sharing and that they don't always get what they want. This is just part of that age range. If her teacher dosn't like it then she is in the wrong business. Takes time and patients to teach kids that small, to be nice, share. and sit still ha they don't ever do that I don't think...my son is 6 and still figits about.