My daughter lives in anothr city so I can't just pop in and out whenever I like.

Question

I have a step daughter that just started her period in May (First time). Her mother wants to put on the four a year plan-aka-the pill-Don't you think it's too early to start messing with her system=am I right for being concerned? I think her mom is pill happy-hypercondriac.My step daughter will be twelve on 8-15-08. Am I being paranoid?I just want her to be natural for awile. There is absolutley no concern for fear of her getting pregnant. Mentally she's not even thinking of the oppistie s*x. She's still innocent. I love my step-daughter ,and I don't want any chances of her female organs getting all screwed up. (for fear she won't be able to have kids when the time is right.) I appreciate any suggestions on how to guide her mother in the other dirrection.

Answer 1

There isn't anything wrong with you being concerned. I can understand what you are saying but I can understand why her mother would want to do it also. You say there is no concern for her getting pregnant but you have to remember kids will be kids and we can not keep our eyes on them at all times. It is safer putting her on this then her ending up making a mistake and having a child when she is still a child herself. The only thing you can do is support what her mother is doing even if you do not agree. If you tell the girl you do not agree with what her mother is doing that is only going to cause problem . And I know you do not want that.

I have never heard of anyone not being able to have a child due to them taking the pill. But i have heard of several people getting pregnant while taking it.

Good Luck

Answer 2

It's cool that you are concerned about your step daughter, but have you spoken to her father about it and what does he think? But when it comes down to it, the mother must know her daughter pretty well and may not want to take any chances, she is doing what she feels she needs to do. You can't compare your daughter to others. Females grow up fast, don't get blind sided on personal feeling.  

Answer 3

I do not see a reason for concern. Birth control pills cause no real harm (to fertility or to her female organs) and they are there for her when she may need them. The only concern I would have is the 4 periods a year, that pill has not been around long enough. I say start with ortho-tri-cycline and go from there. The pill will help her period become regular early on instead of having screwed up periods for 2-3 years. It will help keep her skin clear. And when the time comes when she is ready to have s*x, she will be protected.

The pros outweigh the cons in this situation.