My daughter lives in new Orleans with 6 children. What will happen if she has no money?

Question

and I'm broke due to sending her money all the time. At least once or twice a month, my daughter is asking me to send her money. Western Union. That gets old. And now she only has $75.00 I don't know what to do. She is disrespectful. She was here in Oklahoma for two weeks with all the children

Not once did she wash any clothes, or clean anything up. I was exhausted . So she went back to New Orleans just yesterday. Now she needs money to come back here. So she can be rude, and talk mess to me again. Then she'll beg for money to go back.

Answer 1

Tell her to get a job and do something to help herself. You can't take care of her her whole life. If she has children, she really should take responsibility. But you're doing what any other mother would probably do. I don't blame you, but she really needs to learn to take care of herself.

Answer 2

Your daughter should have thought about what it really takes to have even one child before having one, let alone six. It would be different if she actually planned for a family of six kids, financially and emotionally........and wanted the best for them and her.  If all she cares about are x-boxes and laptops, she has no priorities whatsoever.  She shows up and does nothing and begs you for money.  Is this a way for anyone to live...begging for money?  And, how can she pay you back if she keeps asking for more money???

Part of the problem here is that you keep giving her money. Your daughter, like it or not, is going to have to wake up and find a way to feed and clothe her kids and herself, and not be spending foolishly.  And as long as you keep giving her money, she will keep coming back to you and depend on you for it, guaranteed.  She got herself into being a mom to six kids.  Now it's up to her to figure out how to support them.  

You need to finally tell her no, and stick with it. Maybe you can offer to help with the kids somehow other than giving her money. She is disrespectful to you....let's see if she can land a job and treat her employer the way she treats you.  This will be the hard part...to see if and when she can realize she needs to take care of herself.  But you have to stick with it.  

Answer 3

Call CPS so the kids can be taken care of then tell your daughter she is on her own.To either get her life together or not get it together it is up to her,no more money.They have homeless shelters in New Orleans.

Answer 4

Sorry I got a niece just like her with six kids. Nasty to her Mother also. Hardheaded.

Don't they have church shelters there for the people. Tell her to ride the bus where the evacutees are going. Churches in memphis just waiting on them. With 6 kids she need to go where she can get help and maybe need a future home. they help them first and faster.

Cummings Street baptist church, call them and make her some reservations.

PS. she might be stuck with you a very longtime -its risky.

Answer 5

The Western Union fees alone are probably a small fortune.  Does she not have a bank account?  Does she have a drug problem that she can't get a job?  She may be your daughter but she had those children, you didn't.  Someone should be supporting them, but not you.  If she can't find the baby daddies then she needs to go to work and take care of the children that she helped make. If she goes to work maybe she won't have as much time to make babies.

I wouldn't put up with someone disrespecting me in my own home for 10 minutes.  Try saying no and getting an unlisted number until she cleans her act up.  If she wants to get there bad enough, she will find a way.  

Answer 6

If your daughter has no money she will go to DSHS, food banks, there are homeless shelters and tent cities, and churches.  Someone with six children is not going to go without help.  If she can ask you and come to your house and play you to take care of her she has talent to get help!

Ask yourself what you feel comfortable with setting limitations on.  You do not have to stop cold turkey.  Start looking at organizations that can help your daughter and start looking to see some of the help she can recieve.  Here are some sites I found in a quick minute.  There are a lot more.  They have case managers to assist with her situation.  Does she have special needs such as a disability, mental illness, drug/alcohol addiction?  You can research resources available for those also.  It is very hard to not assist, especially with your grand children involved but you can start at least helping her to get her own help. After reading your addition I would advise you refuse to discuss money issues with your grandchildren she is teaching them a very scary manipulation game in my unexpert opinion. I wish you serenity

Answer 7

She will never grow up if you keep aiding her to act the way she does. Also, understand, New Orleans will make sure she gets out of the city and there will red cross centers to help them. Make her stand on her own. trust me, I know it hurts and its hard but this is called tough love my friend. Good Luck!