My daughter?

Question

I feel sad, My little daughter has grown up and things have changed, I know its meant to happen, but why do daughters have to change so much? we were so close, hugs, tuck ins at night, those little things that just make life great. I called her "My LiL' Bug" and she was so beautiful, she still is but now all I get is a "Hi Dad" "Bye Dad" No more hugs no more silly little things like we used to do, I loved the night tuck ins, the bedtime stories, the tickles, when she rode with me on my bike and giggled, she was so cute, I miss it so much. I know daughters grow up and lead their own lives but now its like we hardly speak at all, she is always gone and busy, and the only hug I get now is at birthdays. Is it wrong of me to feel like this? Is it wrong of me to want my lil bug back? I just wanted to tell teen girls, that their are dads out here that love their little daughters so much and are hurting cos it feels like their little girl is gone, I wish I had her back the way she was.

Answer 1

its probably cuzz she feels dat she has left everythang behind r she wants to jus get out there n try sumthin different..if dat isnt it well try doin sumthin wit her r ask her wat she likes to do

Answer 2

hey man its a part of life i also have noticed that w/ my dad, and my sister she gots some attitude, and u just gotta learn to let her go, soon time might come by fast and ur playin w/ ur grandchildren.

Answer 3

Aww your such a great father, hope all goes well.

Answer 4

Wow, that's sweet, my dad wasn't around a lot, but we got pretty close as i grew up. I suggest u invite her out to do something with u. Like an actual date, (no pervert) maybe out to dinner (so u'll have time to hang out and chat), not mcdonalds, but a buffet, or a restaurant, or to a movie, of her choice, or to a theme park if u can. Seriously, this may do wonders, just u and ur daughter, listen to her,  tell jokes, make sure to hug her, even if she SAYS she doesn't want u to, and it gets a lil awkward, give her that affection anyway, it will help u guys get back together.

Answer 5

Wow I seriously almost teared up!! You sound like a fabulous father!! What a lucky daughter you have to have someone who cares for her so much!! Have you tried to sit down and talk with her about this? No she will probably never really be that sweet little bug you describe when she was a younger child but she can still take the time out to let her dad know that she loves him to! Just be open, honest and patient with her. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

Your daughter is lucky to have you. Maybe you guys could plan a time to hang out. She'll regret the lost time more whens she's older then you do now.

Answer 7

try talking to her alot and and keeping in touch with her my older sister stoped being like really close to my dad and now 4 years later shes like always calling my dad coming over.

Answer 8

Thank you for posting this question. im sorry that i cant help you but you just made me realize how i am with my dad.

Answer 9

You just made me realize how lucky I am. I'm very close to both my parents. We still hug all the time, we go out places together, kiss on the cheek really enjoy each others company. I'm 16 virtualy. Odd as this may sound, my parents are my best friends. I can't go a day with out kissing them on the cheek and having a good chin-wag with them. I never really knew how lucky I was to have retained my close bond with my parents. Thankyou for that. I really mean that. You've got me in tears now.

Next time your daughter is just around the house go sit with her and talk to her. Ask her about her day, her plans, how everythings going and give her a hug. She'll love it I promise. I feel so safe and so loved when my dad gives me a hug. Takes me right back to being 6 and running up to him and him whirling me round. I'm a bit too tall for that now unfortunatly!

Why don't you start cooking meals, so each night your whole family can sit down with each other and talk. Our family does tha every night, and I think that's one of the reasons we have remained so close.

I know it must be hard for you, but could you try to appreciate the grown up side of her now? Offer to take her out shopping and then you'll get to spend the whole day with her.

I hope you can regain some of your bond. Good luck. Just remember, no matter how old she is, she'll ALWAYS love you, always look up to you and always care for you. That's something that will never change. Trust me. :)

Answer 10

Well i think may be therz somefin goin on with her in her life.....u should talk with her that is everyfing ok including the things like u both used to be very close n stuff n why its nt like the same as it was........i think there might be smfin goin on wiv her ....or she might have some thoughts that she wants to share wiv u ........u knw the best way is to talk..........n overall ure a family u shouldnt be wastin time u should talk .......bst f luck

Answer 11

It is really hard when our little girls get older but you have so many beautiful moments to look forward to in the future.

As time goes by she will need your support even more. You have a very blessed daughter. It is a pleasure to read your story.