My daughter refuses to poo on the toilet HELP?

Question

my daughter is 2 and 5 months so almost 2 and half she is dry in the day still having a few accidents here n there but she refuses to poo on the toilet or the potty she hides and does it in her pants ive tries explaining to her a million times now im at the end of my tether and i dont know what else to do she still has a nappy on for bed just thought i would state that

Answer 1

Have you tried sitting her on the naughty step?

Apparently when disciplining a child in this manner - they should sit on it for as many minutes as they are years of age.

Answer 2

Hiya!Don't worry she's absolutely normal.....our son has just turned three and he hasn't been pooing on the toilet long,it was soooo hard to convince him to do it.No amount of bribery or begging worked, all you can do is tell her that is should be in the toilet when she has an accident....I bet she'll surprise you like our son did with us.They're just nervous of something new,she will come out of it I promise.The only thing I will say is try not to get cross with her as she'll dig her heels in even more!You can't 'lay down the law' with a toddler,which is what she still is.Good luck xx

Edited to say....I'm appalled with some of the answers in here!!She's just a baby!

Answer 3

Reward her with stamps, every time she use the toilet...and after collecting full page( 10-15 stamps) she earns a Reward( can be a toy or others..), in the Netherlands we have this special stamps for kids to be used as a reward for different purpose.It works very good for our 2 kids.

Answer 4

Well give her a nappy + if she is pottty trained then go in with her and help her!

Answer 5

I think she is still young :)

This happened to my daughter but she was 3 and a half. She was fully toilet trained, night as well, but refused to poo on the toilet.

We took her shopping one day and told her to pick any toy she wanted. She choose one, we bought it. She wasn't able to have it until she did poos on the toilet for 2 weeks. It really worked. She wanted her new toy, we had it boxed near the toilet, and we had no issues from then.

With your daughter being 2 and a half though, is a little different. I think patience and time will get her here. Alot of kids actually have the issue of pooing on teh loo too :)

Answer 6

Bribery is the way to go. lol. Honestly, the bathroom is not the most stimulating place to be. Have you got a little toilet seat to put over your big one? Some little ones are scared of falling down the hole. You can get some really nice ones now. (see pics on site below) How about a step stool, so she can get on it herself. Give rewards (such as special time with mum making cakes or something. Needn't be something you have to buy) and lots of praise. How about some of those little wet wipes and hand washes, just for her. Persistence is the key and really pays off in the end. Don't give up.

Answer 7

We had the same issue with our son.  At 3 he was dry but he wouldn't poo in the loo.  

We stuck a paper chart on the wall (at his height) and then put a red star stamp on it every time he pooed in the loo.  We bought him a small gift (like a little car or truck) after 5,10 and 15 poos in the loo and then after 20 poos he got a new Thomas the Tank bag to put all his things in for nursery.  

We just explained what the chart was, what was going to happen and he did it.  We did have a couple of accidents but that's just natural.

She's not behind in development, she's still a baby.  2 and half is a fab age to be potty trained by and please don't listen to anyone that says different.

Good luck sweet, it'll be fine.  Bx

Answer 8

This is simply realisation within the human mind.  Persistence will pay off here, it always does.  Just keep doing what you are doing but keep tension or cross words out of it .... one way, the little girl will realise that the experience is rewarding, for herself and for you ..... and there will be no looking back.  She'll even be choosing the colour of the loo paper to match her outfit!  Good luck ..

Answer 9

While the younger generation frowns on discipline, it is still very necessary in training a child.  This includes potty training as well.  The longer you allow her to p**p in her pants the harder it will be to train her.  Get tough on her.  Believe me, she knows what she is doing or she wouldn't be hiding from you when she is messing her pants.

I had a neighbor who wouldn't discipline her son and teach him that he must learn to use the toilet.  He was still pooping in his pants at the age of 6 years.  The teachers sent notes home from school saying that she must teach him to use the toilet.  Still nothing happened.  One day the mother received a call from the school administrator telling her to come to school NOW and pick up her son.  When she arrived, she was told take him home, keep him there, until she toilet trained him.  "Our job is to educate, not clean p**p off your child."  The boy had his pants full of p**p at the time.

It took her about a week and the kid got with the program and was admitted back into school.  

You don't want your child to suffer through the embarrassment and humiliation of other children laughing and refusing to play with her because of her lack of potty training.

Answer 10

well.

not to good in this department,

but when I was a baby,

the way mom potty trained me was kind of a trick.

take the "business"

from the diaper/pull-up,

and put it in the toilet,

while she's not looking.

that way, she knows she can do it

congratulate her,

and from then on,

it may be a little easier.

Answer 11

for some kids.it takes time..

well i dont know whether it's too late or not.but still it's worth a try, u know her usual potty timings,don't u?..so keeping that in mind...try to adjust the time and make her sit in the potty chair or whatever just before her daily toilet routine.if she has one....and dont forget abt rashes it could cause if it stays for too long..

hoping everything will be alright..

Answer 12

ok thats just gross. I would suggest sitting her down and tell her to use the potty and if she does give her a reward

Answer 13

each child is different and responds to different things.  One of my sisters was easily toilet trained-picked it up no worries. The other, well, she was a lot LOT harder.  I dont know if u have tried any of these, lol, but heres a few suggestions.

U can try reading her stories-get some about using the toilet. Theres a fair few books made now about doing a poo in the toilet. I know she is only 2, but it can help.

If u think she is going to do a poo, then take her to the toilet and sit her down. Make a game out of it- reading her stories, or just chatting.  

i know that children arent supposed to be rewarded for doing normal things, but sometimes it can come in handy- like, getting something she wants or would like and only letting her have it once she has done a poo IN the toilet-or at least try.  If thats what it takes, then it will be worth it for you!

But, each child is different- and im sure it will work out! I hope i helped u a little bit! Good luck!

Answer 14

Tell her that if she poos in the toilet you will give her a treat.

Or do a sticker chart wear everytime she poos on the toilet then she chooses a sticker and puts it on the sticker chart.

It worked for my little brother.

Answer 15

Lay down the law.

Answer 16

ew.

discipline her and tell her she has to, otherwise she wont get any sweets or something. Or tell her if she plops on the bog that she will get a treat like a sticker or chocolate or something.

Answer 17

Don't make a big issue out of it.

When she wees in the potty, praise and give a treat.

Show her another treat (something you know she will want), tell her that is for when she does a poo in the potty.

Accept that it may take some time.  When she poos and hides it say "oh dear you had an accident" clean up.  That way she will not be frightened to poo, and hide it. Tell her you love her hug her, but you don't like poo not in the potty, then dont say anything more, as it might be an attention thing. Your affection and the reward should make her want to please you. Keep showing affection and rewarding each improvement.

She will get it, but you may have to be patient. Good luck

Answer 18

This may call for bribery.  While I don't condone bribery for may situations, potty training is one that is on the top of my bribery list.  Find something that your daughter really, really likes.  Candy, a toy, anything that she would jump through hoops for.  Put it in plain sight.  Tell your daughter that when she poos in the potty, she can have it.  Everytime you go to the bathroom, take her with you so she can see that it is a safe thing.  When she poos in her nappy, show her the treat that she is missing, and then put it back where it was.  Eventually, she will try the potty and find out it isn't so bad at all.  This worked for my daughter.  It took a week or so, but it did work.

Answer 19

I cannot fathom how you have allowed her to reach such an age and yet she does not yet know what to do when she nedds to poo poo.

It is all down to training and it appears you are not being proper in the way you are training her.

When I was in Africa, I saw children as young as [3 years of age] looking after other children younger than themselves.

Read my lips....3 years of age.

It is about time you teach that child of yours, so that she can mature along the right lines.  If she stays that way, she may become retarded in her natural development.

Good luck.