My daughter starts school in a week and i am scared i am losing her?

Question

i am afraid she wont be my little girl anymore and things will never be the same, am i right or wrong in thinking this way?

Answer 1

Your daughter has to grow, in some ways away from you.  This is normal and healthy.  If you have been a loving mother to her, she will be a best friend for life.

Answer 2

There is no right or wrong....you're not going to though...she'll always need and love you...I'm feeling that way about my granddaughter going to first grade next week...I'm sure I felt that way with my own two, but I forgot!!

Answer 3

You can't keep her at home for ever, she's going to grow up.  But, she'll always be your little girl, she'll just have more stuff to share with you now.  

Answer 4

Your not losing her. Soon  you will have a whole different connection with her. You will smile everyday when she tells you what she has learned. When she gets home at the end of the day she will tell you what she did. It's a good thing, It's hard at first, but this is part of her growing up. Good Luck.

Answer 5

if your daughter sees that you are anxious she will be too just relax and let her go you are not losing her she is just growing up she will be alright

Answer 6

Think of going to school as a wonderful experience for her. You are there to support her and love her and teach her, not to hold on to her out of love or fear or anxiety.

Your job as a parent is not to keep your child all to yourself, but to teach her how to have a wonderful, independent, responsible, loving life so that when she leaves home she can make good decisions, understand consequences, love those around her, and enjoy the many, many opportunities that she will encounter. These lessons start now.

Don't be afraid for her or yourself. Embrace this and your role/job as her parent. Send her to school with anticipation and a sense of adventure. This is about her, mom.

Answer 7

you aren't right or wrong. You are not losing her in anyway shape or form, she is just getting an education. Which is a good thing to have now-a-days? ya know? She will still be you little girl no matter what, she'll just get older every year.

Answer 8

You are right, but that is all part of the parenting idea, right. "GIVE THEM LIFE, SO THEY CAN LIVE IT" Things will change but she will always be your daughter and the relationship gets better and better as they grow. Times will get bumby but with the Lord in your life and hers, you will come together stronger then you can even think. I raised two wonderful daughters and the relationship I now share with them is a blessing beyond their youth.

Answer 9

She will always be your little girl, however, you will no longer be the main influence in her life - her peers will be - those other kids will be her role models and the people she wants to please.

It is sad, but when kids spend 7 hours a day with people other than their parents, it is only to be expected that their parents influence becomes less and less.

Answer 10

wow, let go. most girls who cling on too much to their parents turn into s***s anyway.

Answer 11

No, things will never be the same.

And she is not "your little girl". She is her own person, not your possession.

The only thing that is guaranteed is that if you try to cling on tight to your child, she will pull away from you. You need to give her space to grow and develop; and then she'll be secure in the knowledge that you are always there for her.

Answer 12

This is so timely.  My daughter started school today...her senior year, and it seems like I just dropped her off at kindergarten a few months ago.  It is hard letting go of them, but that is what your goal is, to raise healthy, independent, self reliant people.  I cried the first day of kindergarten and she said, "Don't worry mom, I'll be home after school and you can spend time with me then."  She was comforting me!  You love her so much and they're only little for a little while, so soak up every stage as it goes by.  The relationship changes, but it grows into a better one.  I was even jealous of the kindergarten teacher because she got to spend more time with her than I did, and to top it off, my daughter just adored her.  Now, my daughter has become so many things I never imagined, and yours will too.  They still love and need you.  And I have a 6 year old in the first grade, my last baby, and he has gotten very independent of me,  and as sad as it is, he is growing up into a little man.  My other son is playing football now and I'm like secretly saying DONT HURT MY BABY!  Hang in there mom, you will survive.  Maybe add an activity for you that you were unable to do before to keep your mind busy, and don't forget, get out there early and wait for the bus or be the first one in car pool lane!!  It's a transition, so pat your self on the back, a major milestone has been accomplished.