My daughter wants a curfew later than 630 and shes 13 what time would be best for her? ?

Question

My daughter wants a curfew later than 630 and shes 13 what time would be best for her? ?

Answer 1

No.  She just wants to get in a few more unchaparoned minutes with a guy who may get her pregnant.

TX Mom

Answer 2

I'm 14, but last year my curfew on school nights was 8:15 and on weekends, 10:30. But then my mom decided to just give me a time to be back before I go out.

Answer 3

Don't give her a curfew. You should know where your children are going and who they're with. Determine how late she can stay out based on what she's doing. Keep the lines of communication open. For example: If she wants to go to the mall after school with some friends you don't know well, you could say, "Be back by 6." Or if she wants to go see a movie, you could say, "Come home as soon as the movie is done."

I never had a curfew. Instead I had to tell my parents where I was going, who I'd be with, and ask their permission before going places.

Answer 4

When the sun goes down she should have her butt home.

It's too dangerous to be out there when its dark..

Answer 5

When I was that age, the latest I was ever allowed to stay out during the summer was 8 PM, but that was during the height of summer, when it was light out. It also helped that I was generally playing in my neighbor's yard, whose father is a police officer...

I'd say 7 to 7:30, since school is getting ready to start. Also, when you say curfew, do you mean she's going "out, like high schoolers go out - the mall and movies and such, or just outside playing? (I never even thought about "going out" at that age, but then again, I wasn't the most social kid, either... I was happy to play with my neighbors on their trampoline all evening... I don't know if that applies to your daughter, however.)

Answer 6

My curfew at that age was "before it gets dark" so that was usually 7:00 or 7:30 during the summer.

Answer 7

hmmm....before dark.  If shes a good girl let her stay out till 8 if shes responsible.  On weekends my mom gave me till 9 MAYBE10 if we were with a friends older siblings at a movie or something.  Im 20 right now and I look back and think that was pretty fair.  I mean i was 13 but had good grades and stuff.  Tell her if her grades are not to your satisfaction it will go back to 6pm!

Answer 8

thats good! tell her *** to stay home!

your doing a fine parenting job!

Answer 9

when do he school ballgames end?does she go to those?what is she doing?depends on what is going on..

At friends house studying or ballgame or what?

My kids are in during school night to study ..they can go play basketball ,bikes til dinner then time to come in...study!

but if a ballgame is going on ours are on friday nights til its over...

Answer 10

WHEN I WAS 13 MY MOM TRUSTED ME TO COME HOME AT A DECENT TIME AND NOT GO TOO FAR BUT MY CURFEW WAS 7:00 ON SCHOOL NIGHTS BUT ON WEEKENDS WAS 8:30 BUT IT DEPENDS WITHN WHO I WAS...YOU ARE THE PARENT AND WHAT EVER TIME YOU SAY THATS WHAT IT IS...

Answer 11

At 13  I  use to tell our kids when the street lights come on you are to be home. But my kids had to check in every so often to let us know what they was doing and where they was going to be.

Answer 12

Depends on where you live, what the crime rates are and how much respect you have for each other.  Do you know where she goes, what she does and who her friends are.  My mom was quite lenient with me when I was younger but she trusted me and in return I kept my nose clean so to speak.  I think in this day and age things are different, as a mother of 2 (both under 5) the future scares me, what with drugs, s*x offenders and kids attitudes today.  Knife crime amongst teens in the UK is increasing at a shocking rate and the offenders are getting younger.  What is wrong with kids today.  My kids probably won't be allowed out at all!!!!  Remember you are the parent and you know what is best for your daughter.  Trust your instincts.  Parents today take too much abuse from their kids (not implying your daughter is like that) so be strong and do what you think is right.  6.30 sounds reasonable to me, surely she has homework and an evening meal waiting for her!  Maybe a compromise and meet her half way, showing her that you trust her.  Either way, explain your decision in the hope that she will understand.  Good luck, I don't envy you, rest assured my time will come!

Answer 13

6:30?  I thought I was an over protective mom- geesh. Lighten up a little. Give her until 8:30 on school nights, 9 or 9:30 on weekends. Know who she's going with, where they are going, what they will be doing, etc...  

If there is something special going on now and then let her go and give her a later time to be home. She's not 8 she's 13.  

Answer 14

I would say 8:00 and see how she does with that and if she gives you a reason to change it then do it .You don't want her to feel like you guys are to strict and start rebelling