My daughter wants highlights?

Question

She finally convinced daddy to let her. She is 10, has dark brown hair, so I bought a home kit with a little comb to use instead of a cap. I am nervous about doing it myself. She is Autistic and HATES having her hair touched. But to have it done pro is like 50.00. That just seems nuts! Is it hard to do? I've done it to my own hair b4, but never to someone else's.

Answer 1

My Brother is Autistic... he got his hair done professionaly and he was not very psyched bout having his hair touched either.. but he got frosty highlights.. and it took longer than the usual hair dye but he wanted it for awhile also..

He deserved it... so we let him have what he wanted and we warned him too about that they had to touch his hair and he agreed to it...

atleast ur doing it with familiar faces and not strangers... theres a plus also since you've done ur own too its just the same and it should be easier since you can actaully see behind their head...

don't worry you'll be fine... and its hair it will grow back

Answer 2

Just follow the directions on the box exactly as it says.  You will be fine.  Sounds like the best way to go, doing it yourself.

Answer 3

Before you start explain to her the best you can that it will take awhile and you have to touch her hair and it might pull a bit but if she sits real still and watches the show while you are doing it it will be over sooner and then she can show daddy how amazing it looks.  Cover the floor with plastic sit the chair in front of the tv and get busy the tv will occupy her and make it less stressful for you.

Answer 4

I would say since she is autistic it would be eaiser for you to do it than someone else.. i think you rill do fine...I hope she likes it.

Answer 5

Since your daughter is autistic it is very important to get her hair highlighted and to have it done properly, by a professional hairdresser.  Don't worry, because it may not cost you nearly as much as you think ... call the local mental hospital and ask for the name of the person who does the hair of their inpatients, and call that person and tell them about your daughter and her 'long desire' to have her hair highlighted.  If they aren't willing to do it, then call the 'alternative' salons (the ones that do the 'emo' and 'scene' cuts and other 'modern hairstyles' and ask them if they have a person who is willing to 'get to know' your daughter and even get her used to them 'playing with her hair' ... I'm 57, but I go to an alternative salon, and EVERY PERSON THERE would be willing to do this for your little girl, since any autistic person who can 'communicate a want' like she has deserves the VERY BEST ... it will help her feel beautiful and NORMAL and that is a VERY GOOD THING.  So visit them, or pick up the phone and call ... but DO NOT do this yourself, since you are not a professional, and the 'kit' you bought won't work properly (I wouldn't use it on a dog, and I love dogs) ... you may pay $50 but it will be well worth the cost ... both for you and for your daughter.

Answer 6

Just try it.  If it works out, then great.  If not, then take her to a salon.

Answer 7

If you can help it say no she is to young for that . It will damage her hair. Her hair will never be the same dry,and brittle just say no. Let her wait until she is older.

Answer 8

honestly 10 is a little young to get highlights...she is going to have to use special shampoo,and keep up with dying the highlights.A lot of work to do on your 10 year old.

But I think you had better do it.She might not like a stranger touching her hair.It shouldn't be that hard,just follow the directions on the box.

Answer 9

It can be extremely hard to do, depending on the length and the texture.  I had my hair done both professionally and at home kits.  My sister used the cap on my hair and it was horrfic.  My hair was long and curly, so i pretty much cried throughout the whole thing.  Your daughter is a little young to be having highlights! I couldnt talk my dad into getting highlights until i was 16.  Once you start that pattern with them they are going to always want to update their hair with whats in.  I dont think its a good idea, I would wait.  Being Autistic could really makes things worse, totally up to you but GOOD LUCK.

Answer 10

Yea, it can be challenging trying to get autistic children to sit still for the length of time you need to do something like that.  It's not that hard to do highlights. Just try to space them evenly throughout the hair and not just along the part, or else she will get a "skunk stripe" when her hair is pulled back.  I think it might be wise to use the cap though. That way if she wants to move around, it's less likely that the dye will smear on her other hair.  Good luck!

Answer 11

just be careful when doing it.

Answer 12

At 10she is TOO YOUNG in the first place!

Answer 13

Before doing her entire head, do a test strand.  Cut a thin section from her hair, underneath so it's hidden and test it with the hair color to find out how long it will take to turn her dark brown hair blonde.  Pay attention to the time.  Yes it is hard to do, simply because without using foil, the colorant will slip onto the other strands of hair that you don't want colored.  I personally would just go to a pro, but I understand that the expense behind that is high.  My daughter had highlights put in, and for her hair it cost $130.  That included a cut.

Answer 14

its not. tell her to pick where she wants the streaks, and then just put it in. the more dye the brighter the color so do it light, and if she wants it lighter just go back through again.

Answer 15

Just do it, U might want to consider a profesional, it's usually worth it.

Answer 16

i say give her what she wants. that what i do and my daughter is absolutely positively spoiled

Answer 17

just don't messed up and don't be nervous

Answer 18

I don't think this is a question, I agree with you,though I think she is a little young, but if she wants them and you let her then is fine. Go ahead and good luck =)

Answer 19

If she hates having her hair touched, what about some of those spray "lighteners".  With summer around the corner, they are showing up in stores now.  It would take less time and less touching of her hair to do this than a regular highlighting kit.

Good luck

Answer 20

Just be aware that those boxes of highlighting bleach and brush come with a volume 20 peroxide and since she has dark brown hair it could make it brassy or an orangy color.

But i'm sure it will be fine, since i'm assuming that she hasn't previously colored her hair before so it could end up being even. Also, don't put alot on her scalp. bleach softens and swells the hair , so try to leave less than 1/2 from her scalp , the bleach will get close to the scalp and i will lighten it ( due to our body heat.

Hope that this helps and good luck

Answer 21

i am a cosmetologist and i say with a loud voice, save up for the fifty dollars. you could spend way more than that to get it fixed after you mess it up. color is tricky.

Answer 22

With autism, depends on how communicative and how sensitive to stimulation she is. You need to prepare her for it, and have a distraction. Maybe let her smell it first and see if she can hang, does your daughter have a hard time with smells? I know autistic kids get overstimulated easily and that stuff has quite a whang to it. I would definitely get the best smelling you can find. Herbal Essences used to make one that was nice enough, and Feria isn't too bad (speaking of hair color here, I don't know what is involved with highlights).

You may want to try a dress rehearsal where you simulate the process using hair conditioner instead of the highlighting kit. See if she can sit still, and deal with you tugging on her hair and stuff. Do everything the way you would for the hair color, whether its pulling the hairs through with the cap or brushing it on with the foil or whatever, etc. And make her wait with the stuff on her hair, not messing with it, telling you about drips, etc.

Tell her it's very important practice so she has to try her best if she wants the real thing.

If you see she can't handle the process, then you haven't wasted your money or damaged her hair doing it halfway.

Answer 23

If she wants highlights bad enough, she'll let you touch her hair. My sister is autistic too. Don't worry, they will do anything that they are motivated enough to do.

Answer 24

just do it i had highlights when i was her age.

be careful using the kit, cus that turned my moms hair orange one time.

but if you dont leave it on too long, it should be fine.

Answer 25

its easier on someone elses hair then your own. I do my own hair and all my friends and my fiance's.

Answer 26

i think your mad she is only ten years of age dont think a ten year old should get highlights in her hair

Answer 27

I'd say highlights you've got to be real careful with, if your going to use the foils, you will need a professional to do it no doubt.  It is complicated bc the bleach can bleed over the whole scalp if one thing is done wrong.

I suggest getting a cap at Sallie's or Walmart and pull thru instead, this is fool proof pretty much.  Also, once the bleach is applied, don't pull through let the bleached strands hang freely to keep bleach from bleeding into the cap and staining the scalp. Be sure to time accurately or the bleach can fry the hair.

Answer 28

Just try to take your time. Don't get in a rush if she starts getting ancy. Because she is so young and her hormones are changing the color MAY not turn out the way you hope (not as light as you want, wrong tone, etc.) I never did chemical treatments on children under the age of 12 because of this reason. There is no way to be sure what the end results may be. What kind of stuff did you get? If it is a bleach watch it carefully, since her hair has never been chemically treated it may lighten rather quickly.

Answer 29

I would'nt do it, specially if you are putting blonde highlight in her hair. You can make her hair go orange and it cost more to fix up. Save your money and when you can afford then get it done. You can have it done at Tafe and they charge small amount to have it done.

Good Luck

Answer 30

Personally I don't like highlights because it actually damages your hair, but doing highlights yourself or for another person is very easy.

Answer 31

Actually, holiday hair sometimes runs specials on a few foil highlights for very cheap... i think like 25 dollars.... it isnt alot of them so it would be a subtle thing, but hopefully enough to satisfy her craving!!

I've never used the comb but i have used the cap.

The cap is very easy on short hair(shoulder length)

but extremely hard on long hair because it gets tangled!

Good luck:)