My daughter who is 8 always openly has her hands in her underwear, or pants, how would you handle this one??

Question

akward subject I know but I will be looked at weirdly if I ask this to some one I know .This has been going on for 3 or so yrs, I'v talked to her ,It's nothing she sees on t.v.> I only let her watch Disney. I finally said o.k this is a private thing to do so take it to your room. Umm now she is always in her room ..... so maybe I messed up by telling her it's ok? I openly explain things to her about her body, cause she is already starting to develop:( Basically what I'm trying to get at is It seems like abnormal how often she does this. And I'm kinda grossed out knowing what she is doing. And. I just walked in on her ..... with the thermometer ... She hurried up and said she took her temp. under her arm and she has a temperature cause it was beeping. OMG how would you handle this one parents???

Answer 1

talk about what can happen if you put foriegn objects inside that part of her body. and talk about how often she should spend exploring that part of her.

give her lots of facts about everything and maybe it will satisfy that part of her

Answer 2

It's normal for sexual exploration to precede puberty. Kids as young as three are interested in their own and others' bodies, and find out early that certain kinds of self-touching makes them feel weird and good.

However, you need to put your foot down on what's okay to do in public and what's strictly a private thing. Touching inside your clothes is not okay when anyone can see. An eight year old can and should be able to understand and comply, especially if you let her know some people think she's doing something nasty. (If that includes you, don't say so.)

And you, Mom, need to learn to knock on doors unless you smell smoke. Eight is entitled to some level of privacy.

Answer 3

Sounds like she's been hearing things from other kids.  You need to talk to her about these things calmly.  You can explain to her the dangers of sticking just anything into her v****a (please don't use 'baby terms').  Since you did say she is devloping she sounds as if she is about to start her period and is basically 'horny'.  I suggest a visit with her doctor and ask about herbal "medicines" that can help aliviate the over active hormones she obviously has.  There is nothing wrong with her other than she is a little girl and has major hormones going on.

Answer 4

kids dont normally do that.. its got to be something she's being exposed to..

kids that age are naturally curious about whats going on with their body.. but the way she's handeling it its going alittle too far.. at the same time you cant punish her or make her feel ashamed about it.

suggestion: have a doctor talk to her about it... if someone outside of the family explains it to her it might stick and she might understand it in another way.

Answer 5

what is she watching on tv and what are u exposing her to

Answer 6

is she actually masterbating or just putting her hands down there? If it is just hands down tell her to go wash her hands every time she is doing it. She will soon stop as she will get fed up