My daughters 3 months old

Question

i'm an 18 yr old with a 3 mnth old daughter. Her dad and me are seperated and both live with our parents. My mother feels its wrong for the baby to spend the night over her dads because shes to young. I'm wondering, am i doing wrong?

Answer 1

That is ridiculous! Do you stay alone with your child? Did you get a manual on children? Does anybody? No! It's trial & error and he is the father! He has every right that you do. Is he irresponsible, clueless or unsafe? If not, show him a few things...how she likes to be soothed, how to change & feed her etc. some basic safety measures like not leaving her unattended, how to bathe her safely, not left on high surfaces, uncluttered crib etc and then tell him he can call you and you won't make fun of him if he has questions or problems and you'll be right over if needed...lol and let him help raise his daughter! She's not too young. And the earlier she gets used to him the better.

If you're both old enough to have s*x and make the choice to bring a child into this world then you are both old enough to take responsibility for that child.  

Answer 2

As long as you feel comfortable with it and he is a good father then i see no problem with it.  She has to get to know her dad too so as long as it is safe it should be fine.  Me though I couldn't do it just because I would miss my baby way to much.  

Answer 3

If he is is still actively a part of her life, then i think its great. Its better to get the bonding at a young age, cause sometimes its harder if you wait til they're older. I think its a brave and great thing. Good luck!

Answer 4

no that is wrong for her to think that im 18 an have a 7th month old an i think she does need to spend time with her father an if your baby dont the baby will be mad at you in the future for it!!!!!

Answer 5

Is he a good father? Does he spend time with her regularly? Do u trust that h**l know what hes doing and will be able to get up with her when she wakes up at night? If you trust him to do all those things than that is your decision not your moms

Answer 6

Well you know him better then anyone so if you think it will be ok ,i am sure it will be .his mom will be there and i am sure she knows what she is doing .  personally I would wait till the baby is older ,he can take her during the day right?

Answer 7

i wouldn't. for the simple fact, that your daughter is three months old.

you aren't doing anything wrong, in a sense... i mean, maybe you aren't really thinking clearly, or you want to go do something.... but i would rather have your mother watch your child, men do stupid things, and sometimes don't know what to do.... and there's always a possibility that something will happen, and you will be left w/ "you shouldn't of had her on the couch, unattended," or um.... just something off the wall.... because he didn't burp her, the way that you like her to be burped... or that he didn't change her butt enough, or that he didn't wipe her butt good enough.... or just something. i would really weigh in the possibilities of letting your new baby stay w/ the father. i know nothing of how good he is with your daughter, but i still would trust your mother better w/ your newborn, than your boyfriend.

Answer 8

If you can trust him to properly take care of her then he has every right to spend time with her. But trust your instincts if you are concerned about letting him take her then don't. this is your child. you don't want to take chances with her.