My daughters father died before she was born?

Question

I became pregnant in aug 06 and gave birth in moy 07 to a beautifull little girl. I was in a relationship at the time of conceptions but was going through a wild child stage and slept with sombody other than who i was in the relationship with, I never told the person that i had the relationship with and he assumed it was his an signed the bith certificate even though we were no longer together. The other guy actually got shot in nov.06 and died. myself and the guy that signed do not get along and i put him up for child support, but he also filed to put him self up. and saiddhe was going to do a dna test. I finally told him yesterday when we got into it she wasnt his, I know we will still get a dna test to be for sure but, how do i handel getting help if the other guy who died is her father , and he never held a job.I also do not know for sure how to contact any of his family.I do work. and I now have two girls 15 months and 2 months. You will be wasting your time by leaving any rude comments, because yes i know it was a immature act and i do regret the decisions i made in my past, but that little girl is my life now....both girls are, and i am trying to make a better life for them. So PLEASE dont judge me, everyone goes through a wild child rebellion stage, jus because you didnt have a child doent make you and better than myself!

Answer 1

you said you dont know how to contact any of the family.

i think you should try the phone book like someone else said when they answered your question. but i think if you have no luck there and your really stuck i think you should go to his grave maybe leave a suttle note and leave your number and just pray they get in contact with you.

maybe you can right in the note something like

' i hope who ever is reading this is a relative of  ----------- and i wish you would pass this on to his parants. can you please ring me there is something important i need to tell you and im sure you will want to know.

then put your name and your number

thank-you

just put it somewhere where they will be able to see it but safe.

and if that dont work and you really want them to know just keep going there till you find someone.

i think you should be taking the child there anyway and let her know who her father is even if it is a distant relationship at least she will know as she is growing up and it wont be so difficult to tell her when she grows up.

i relly hope this helped and good luck with everything

Answer 2

You are going to have to get a job.You have another girl?Are you married yet?Does he work?If you are still single get your tubes tied and see if you can get public assistance.You are still immature if you are making more kids with no committed man in your life hon.If you are married then he can help raise both kids, he knew you had a kid when you met him.If he doesn't want to do this, then allI can say is you picked him to make a baby with and marry.

No,not EVERYONE goes through a wild child rebellion stage and does foolish things hon.

Answer 3

You need to do some homework on the guy that died. If he has any family where you live, you could start with the phone book or if you met any of his friends, you could try finding them. I for one would like to know if my son fathered a child before he died. If you locate his mom and dad  there is dna testing that can be done to prove paternity. They would probably welcome that baby with open arms. Good luck to you!!!

Answer 4

If you live in the states you may be able to get social security if you can prove her dad is dead