My daughters refuse to take baths seperately.they are 8 and 10 and sholud be doing so.?

Question

for as long as my girls can remember they have bathed together. they are 8 amd 10 now and i think they are too old for that but they always get really mad when I say not to. should i let them take baths together or what?

Answer 1

I don't think it is a big deal if they bathe together.  One day the older one is just not going to want to and it will end.  

As far as them refusing....they only do what you allow them to do.

Answer 2

I think it's harmless.  Don't worry so much about it.  If you make a big deal out of it, it could cause more harm than good.  Eventually, the older one will take a stand and want private baths.

Answer 3

It's really great your girls are so close! As girls start to reach puberty (at nine-10) , taking a bath is generally a bad idea as soap is not a welcome object in (ehm, parts). Rather, Showers are a better idea. If they have different activities, one could take a shower while the other is at their activity. When one is at a sleepover, have them take their own shower.

Generally, it's fine for them to bathe together, as long as the shower or tub is big enough and they are comfortable with it. If they are getting clean and they wish to continue bathing this way, there really isn't anything wrong. Sooner or later, however, they will either : 1. not want others seeing themselves naked  2. tell a friend, the friend will think it's weird, and they will stop, or 3.just grow out of it.

And........................

-they're saving water

-and bonding

Answer 4

They will let you know when it's time for them to take separate baths. For right now, enjoy this time. It will be gone before you know it.  

Answer 5

no thats not normal. your oldest is almost old enough to be in jr high. tell them theyre big girls now and should act like it.

Answer 6

Remember; you are the parent. The house is yours.  

Answer 7

you should ask them to take shower separetly. make it possible even if you have to be rude. within a few days they will get used to it.

Answer 8

when they start developing, they better stop. they will get made frun of otherwise.

Answer 9

they are 8 and 10 not 12 and 14...if they are still ok with it then there shouldnt be an issue..

They will grow out of it, especially when the older one starts to mature more.

Answer 10

separate them!!!!!

Answer 11

It is not ok any more, sure if they were still 2 and 4 years old it would be ok because they are just small children and like to have company. By the time they are 8 and 10 years old they shouldn`t want anyone to even be in the same bathroom as them.They are too old seperate them from taking baths together.

Good Luck

hope that helped

~kenzie

Answer 12

I don't think they are to old yet and they will probably not want to take baths together for much longer. I have 6 year old twins and they take baths together. Last year one of them had surgery (birth mark removal) her sister was so upset about having to take a bath by herself. So I guess the view it as a bonding thing the play more then actually bathe at that age.

Answer 13

i don't think so.

Answer 14

I too, think they should start taking baths on their own.  I think back to when I was in 4th or 5th grade and that's just too old to be taking a bath with a younger sibling.  

Answer 15

I think u should gradually stop that, b/c one day they will go there separate ways.

Answer 16

Yes, that is awkward. I think it is a phase, as they are still young... I think they will eventually grow out of it, if they are still doing this when they are 11&13, then you should be really worried.. then stop it.

Answer 17

Leave them be, they are yet children .

In there own time they well make that decision please don't  pressurize  them other wise there little minds will think they are doing something wrong. x

Answer 18

i guess cause its kinda bonding for them maybe just occasionally have them bath sepretly

Answer 19

my sister and I were the same way and eventually we thought it was akward... or you can just flat out say no and they can throw their tantrums but stay firm and they'll get over it.

Answer 20

i think that you should let them bathe together and when the older one gets to be about 11-12 shell start hitting puberty then will not want to bathe with the younger sister

Answer 21

I don't believe there is a much closer bond than between sisters. Especially that close in age. They will stop bathing together when they are ready. Until then, you could just tell them you wish they wouldn't, and it will sink in before too long. Then again, and I don't know for a fact

about the girl's locker room but when I was in school the boys gym showers were a common ground that you showered with no partitions nor privacy. No big thing, grew up showering with a brother til almost 12. Don't sweat your girls will learn.

Answer 22

Your the Mom, tell them no its over and done with and if need be send the 10 year old in first to bathe. Have the other do homework, play the computer or whatever.

She may not want to hurt her younger sister's feelings by telling her herself that she doesn't want to do that anymore.

Answer 23

Just let them. When one of them hits puberty, they will most likely start to want privacy.

I used to bathe with my cousins up until I was 11 or 12. It was just fun. We played with our barbies and washed our dolls' hair.

Answer 24

if i were you, you should just say no. and if they get mad, they'll get over it within like 10-15 minutes. I am 12 (almost 13) and I can't stay mad at my mom more than 15 minutes tops. when i was younger me and my siblings seperated slowly.

Answer 25

I don't really know what parenting guides would say about this, but in my opinion they are getting a bit too old for this. I have a 4 year old, and when he "refuses" to do something, I just make him. They're the kids and you're the parent. You have to do it with love of course. Kids get mad, that's just what happens, they'll get over it. You just have to do what you think is best for them, but if I wouldn't wanna end up with teenagers taking baths together.

Answer 26

I think not they are really 2 old for that! Its like giving a babys bottle to a 6 year old! It will then turn into a habit. Some kids may become L*****n sorry about this last part! Just saying!

Answer 27

uhh first ........ just one thing there old enough to bathe them selves.....so they dont want you to bathe them together..just let them bathe them selves  

Answer 28

um my opinion is that there to old. start getting them use to showering by themselves. say that they arent gonna fit and that the bath might break now that there older to scare them

Answer 29

I don't think it would harm them to keep doing that just for now. Eventually they will not want to do it anymore. Especially when the oldest hits puberty and becomes a little more conscious of her body. And I'm sure if their friends knew about it, they'd probably have a reaction that would make them stop.

If the thing you're worried about is they'll still be doing it until they're 20, then I don't think you have to worry at all, lol.  

Answer 30

I do not see what the problem is. They are young and love being sisters. They are certainly not doing anything inappropriate. And as many people said before, as the older one starts puberty, they will outgrow this. They are probably just playing together.

When I was young I had a friend that was very close in age and lived across the street from me. We used to take baths together when we spent the night at each others houses. (Which in the summer was like every day.) Our parents did not think anything of it. All we did was play with dolls or plan out the next day of dodge ball...

If it were brother and sister, I would understand. But they are just close sisters and this is probably good for them as far as bonding goes.  

Answer 31

I find it a little weird, but that's just my opinion. I think you should stop them even if they complain. It's better to stop a habit now than to try and change it when they're 11 and 13 years of age. But again that's just my opinion