My daughters wants her boyfriend to stay with us for a wkn, should i let him? details inside?

Question

My daughter is 18 n in a long distance relationship with a soldier. We are near Fort Gordon, GA and he is stationed in Fort Bragg, NC. He is coming down to see her soon and she has asked if he could stay instead of having to get an expensive hotel room. This maybe on of the last times she gets to see him b4 he is deployed to iraq. And he has already asked me and her father if he could have her hand in marriage.(just not her yet) Should i let him stay with us?

Answer 1

yes yes yes. they are probably going to get married. one weekend wont hurt. and HES GOIN TO IRAQ. i say yes! whos wit me

Answer 2

I would let him stay with the stipulation that you do not want to have to see or hear sexcapades. Why has he not asked your daughter to marry him. Usually within days after asking the father the guy proposes. What is up with that?

Answer 3

If he seems like a nice guy I don't see the problem. Also, if you're having any issues (like feeling funny) letting them stay in the same room, have them sleep apart at night.  

Answer 4

Why would you have a reason not to?

They're both grown ups for goodness sake.

Answer 5

yes , but clearly state the rules that you have.

Answer 6

From what you have said he sounds like a great guy, asking you for her hand in marriage before proposing to her.  If you want to lay down some rules for them, that would be acceptable.  That is the scenario when my boyfriend and I visit his dad and stepmom.  I would say yes, let him stay with you, especially since this may be the last time she sees him before he goes to Iraq.

Answer 7

he sounds like an upstanding fellow, I say let him.  

Answer 8

You definitely should let him stay, just don't let them sleep in the same room.  I was in a long distance relationship when I was in that age and that's what my parents did.  That way you got to have him visit and you were able to respect your parents too.  It's a reasonable rule that they should cooperate with!

Answer 9

i would let him stay on the couch.  its your house and your rules.  but you also dont want her to hold it against you if something happened to him, god forboid, when he went away.  

Answer 10

Of course, open your home to this young man. Make sure he has a comfortable place to sleep, but obviously, not in your daughters bedroom.  

Answer 11

I think you should - it will show you trust her, and that you accept him into the family.  It will also be a good chance for you to see the two of them interact, and see how well-mannered he is under your roof.

If you are not comfortable with them sleeping in the same room (not sure how strict you are on this subject, as everyone is different) then certainly ensure he sleeps in the spare room.

If he is going to marry your daughter - and I take it if he has asked you for her hand, you've said yes - then this is the perfect chance to welcome him in, and test his behaviour before any engagement takes place.  :)

Answer 12

Sure but not in the same room  

Answer 13

I don't see the problem with him coming to visit. He would just have to sleep in a different room.  

Answer 14

I think you'd be wise to allow this romance to continue if it is this serious but perhaps separate rooms would be in order?  

Answer 15

Oh absolutely!  You can have them sleep in separate rooms and you will be there so it should be fine.  What a nice weekend for you guys before he's sent to Iraq!  

Answer 16

Your daughter is 18, I would say yes. Just because you are letting him stay in your house doesn't mean he has to sleep with her. Especially if they will be getting married do it. This is your daughters last chance to see him before he leaves let her enjoy it you will make them both happy and your daughter will respect you for allowing it. This will also give you the chance to mingle with him and see a better side of him and help with your feelings towards him :)

Answer 17

Well, if you are worried about them "messing around," then you should realize that they can do that other places as well.  I would let him if I was you...especially since it is a serious relationship.  What if something did happen to him while he was away.  How horrible would you feel?  How would she react?  What would it hurt?  Put him on the couch.

Answer 18

I say yes, welcome him into the family and have a great weekend.

Answer 19

i would let him and if u dont feel comfortable them sleepin together make huim sleep on the couch

xxArmy wifeyxx

Answer 20

as long as they are not sleeping in the same room and you are in the house  with them at all times. i mean dont leave them alone in the house together unless they get married.