My depression is hurting the people who love me?

Question

i wont speak to or call any of my family because i have depression and i cant talk normal anymore. i dont want them to be hurt but i have no choice i cant change my depression :(

Answer 1

I suffer from depression/borderline personality disorder. The best thing for you to do, would be for you to keep contact with your family. They are a strong support system most of the time, & are there to help you up, when you're at your lowest. I am also engaged, & my fiance is the most helping & encouraging man on the planet. You need people around you, to help keep you from getting worse, especially if you are denying medication/psychiatric help. I'm not on meds, mostly because I do not have any insurance right now, but I couldn't imagine being without my family. They are the ones that encourage me to wake up in the morning, the ones that encourage me to keep going on. & I'm happy. You should be happy as well. Open your ties with your family back up.  

Answer 2

If your depression is that debilitating, I'm thinking you should probably seek professional help and possibly medication.  Depression isn't just going to go away by itself.  If you ever want to feel normal again, you'll have to make that first tiny step toward getting better.

Answer 3

I know this is going to sound strange, but do you want to remain depressed? My boyfriend and I both have moderate to serious levels of depression and we have been that way for years. Neither of us likes the idea of taking medication (not for lack of trying although nothing has worked) and going to therapy has not worked for us either (we have gone to approx 15 therapists between the two of us over the years and it has been ineffective) My point is that when you have been depressed for a long time, you can become comfortable with it to the point where you don't want to communicate with others or work on trying to eliminate the other issues that accompany depression.  At the same time, you can hate your plight and in a way want to cope with your depression better for the sake of your own health and the sake of the loved ones around you. Its a tough line to walk, but eventually you will have to make a decision to be proactive or not.  If you are anything like my boyfriend and I, and you are open to alternative methods, perhaps you might want to try yoga, meditation, journal writing, finding a reiki instructor (or going for reiki treatments), tai chi or qui gong jinn are all positive ways to find balance or center which can help alleviate depression.

I hope that helps...good luck and I send my best to you, your friends, and your family.

Answer 4

Not talking to your family is probably just feuling your depression. The best thing to do would be to talk to your family. They are there for you no matter what, it's what they're made for. Humans crave nurturing and companionship, and who better to get it from than your family. They won't judge you or re-evaluate what they think of you for being depressed. It would make it a lot easier on you knowing they support you and are there for you. Just knowing that is all you need and it might make you feel a lot better.

Answer 5

Go to the Dr!!! even if you have no insurance search for your local mental health clinic...it will be free,and get some Rx's....antidepressants!!! They work miracles

Answer 6

You should contact your family members. Try to get more involved with them. Even if you don't say much. Sometimes just being there with them helps, instead of being alone and disconnected from the world. Staying alone when depressed is not the best options at times. Just make sure you communicate enough to let your family know you appreciate them spending time with you.  

Answer 7

If you can't change your depression, then you are doing the "right" thing--staying out of the life of your family.