My eight year old daughter acts like she hates me - any suggestions on how to cope or handle this?

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My eight year old daughter acts like she hates me - any suggestions on how to cope or handle this?

Answer 1

im only 14 but i know a little sumthing sumthing about this

well she is little and is she the type of girl if she dont get something she flips out and stuff?

also maybe try getting her like 1 or 2 things like if your good ill get you this, or maybe call someone who is good at it, you just need to either be a bit more soft to her or a bit more tough to her

Answer 2

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Answer 3

TIME and patience kids go through stages

Answer 4

Talk to her, find out what's going on.

Answer 5

it sounds like a phase. She is asserting her Independence and you prob are interfering with that, in her mind. Just make sure to have heart to heart talks with her after you discipline her, and of course she'll balk at it, but in the end, she will remember, and eventually agree with you when she's an adult.

Answer 6

You need to pull her to the side and let her know that being hateful and angry towards family members is unacceptable and she needs to change her attitude really quickly! Nip that in the butt ASAP!

Answer 7

She doesn't hate you she might just need help expressing her emotions.

Answer 8

try and do a points system for niceness, like if you get 10 points you get a reward, points could be earned by helping, being nice etc

Answer 9

And she probably will until she reaches the age of about 21 or 22.  I am firmly convinced that aliens invade children's bodies from puberty or a few years before and don't leave until they reach 21 or 22, if then.

No, seriously, as a parent, you will be considered the stupidest person she knows for many years to come.

Good luck.

Answer 10

take her to a therapist

Answer 11

Depends, does she have reason to hate you?  If she does,reads some books on being a better parent.  If not, just keep being a good parent and she will grow out of it.

Answer 12

I pretty much live my life by one understanding:

You teach people how to treat you. . . . .  and that includes children too.  Something you are doing is teaching your daughter that this is how you want to be treated.

Answer 13

u didnt mention wats the problem bcauz of which she is acting like this......anyways 8 yrs is too young to hate any1...just give her some time....or best of alll make a program for outing or shopping with her....just u and her.....lsiten to her....ask her about her life...about her school..........shell eventually discover that u are not bad.....shes a kid and she judges the way wat she sees....kids are very sensitive without any feeling of greed...selfishness.......dont wrry just chill......ur relationshiop will b okay......after all ur her mom....an yeah also.....give her some gifts or something like chocolates or a doll.......shell love it..................i hope i helped......bye................

Answer 14

I was like that when I was small. She'll grow out of it soon. Just treat her like you normally do and don't give into her pleads because then she'll think she can get whatever she wants.

Answer 15

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Answer 16

She has started her teenage years early it sounds like.  Wow, my suggestion would be to give her as much TLC as she will allow just to ensure her that you still love her as much as you always have.    Its gonna be like this until shes moved out of your house so if it's really bothering you, you might seek family counseling.

Answer 17

Have a family night....

Rent a movie/buy/own/library. Watch while you eat popcorn with 16 sticks of butter melted on it. (I have never tried the popcorn thing) Ok, maybe not.

Have fun!

Massie

Answer 18

You might want to consider going to family counciling. There might be something she isn't telling you to make her feel that way.

Answer 19

Every child goes thru "I hatched from a dinosaur egg, therefore, I do not have parents" stage. She will eventually grow out of it....but, you can ask her why she is being so hateful towards you. Maybe you did something that she is mad at....but, alot of times....kids are growing up and trying to learn their boundaries and learn who they are. So, you be there as a parent and care for her.....eventually, she will grow out of it!

Answer 20

Get used to it.

She'll come out of it when she's about 20.

Answer 21

How sad....I'm sure it's a phase.  Usually occurs around middle school, but as we all know, kids are growing up so much faster these days.

Don't let this affect the love you show to her.  But at the same time, don't let her use this as a way to get everything she wants.

Praise her for positive things she does.  Schedule some you and her only time.  The best advice I can give is to TALK TALK TALK to her.  Ask if there's anything bothering her.  She may just need to vent a little...could be related to a bully at school.

Answer 22

well what 8 year old child doesn't hate their parents at one point.  basically, don't take it personal and it will settle out over time, a day, week, couple weeks. Just give it time, still treat her like you  do normally. and eventually, she won't hate you anymore. hope it helps! =)

Answer 23

Give her space but show her you love her. Don't go and spoil her but just show her that you care and you'll be there for her... =)

Answer 24

wait a while, it;s encoded in the geens of pre and pubesant girls

Answer 25

yes, stop being a victim to your child. Who is the adult here? You are not her friend.

Answer 26

Take her out for some special time, and go into compassionate listening mode -- don't judge her or argue with her, just listen to her and find out what's going on with her.  Ask her what she wants from you  (smiles, hugs, play, good attention??? not material stuff).  When SHE feels listened to and understood, ask her specifically to do one or two behaviors that you want -- a polite response to a question, an acceptable way of expressing her disappoint -- you need to figure out what you want from her.

If she feels that you care about her needs, she will naturally respond to yours, and you are teaching her caring and mutuality.

Answer 27

Maybe she is going through puberty. I know it sounds weird, but its happening earlier and earlier these days - you could take her to the doctors, see if they come up with anything. I am sure she doesnt hate you!! Or maybe she is being bullied at school?

Answer 28

u may want to have a talk with her...there may be a reason why...n shes hiding it...ask her some ?'s and see what she says...if not counseling is the best bet..

good luck hun

Answer 29

Be as kind and understanding as possible, I went through something like that with my Mom at that age. Do not remember what it was about but I was so hurt by it. Just give her time, tell her you love her a lot.

Answer 30

Ask her what she thinks about you and allow her to answer without fear of punishment. Find out if she hates you and why. So that you know, most little girls- including myself and both my sisters- have a thing against moms. My father died when I was 8 and my mother felt as if she had be really strict with us to instill discipline. I felt like I hated her even though I had no reason to because she is/was a great mother. Of course I didn't understand at the time but I certainly appreciate my upbringing now.

Your daugther will too. She probably thinks you don't understand her, as most kids do towards their parents. But you'll never know unless you ask her. You'd be surprised at what she sees in you. Not to mention, kids are smarter than we give them credit for. Just wanting to find out her opinion maybe what she needs to feels that she matters and has a place in the world. By allowing her to talk openly may help you understand her better and show her that you're interested in how she thinks and what she feels.

But for goodness sake, never bribe your child into liking you. Giving into her attitude would be the absolute worst thing you could do.

Answer 31

take her and a friend to something she likes to do like a movie or bowling