My eldest sister keeps pulling the drama card. Why? ?

Question

Its been a life long issue with my sister. She has used drugs, continues to do so and even though she says she doesnt "drink", she is the first to hit the bar at all parties.

My sister is constantly pulling the drama card when it comes to her health issues. She is obese, smokes, eats a high fat diet. Our family history is such for diabetes, hypertension and heart issues!

My sister has had hypertension for years! She is non compliant, obviously smokes, eats a bad diet ect. SHe was diagnosed with diabetes about a year ago. She sent out an email to her whole family telling us she was dying from diabetes and could lose a foot.

Now.. the latest.. she went to the ER with "chest pains"... she claims she had a small heart attack, and had her "meds" changed and sent home that day...

I am a nurse, an RN of 16 years and believe me she is FULL of it. Meanwhile, my siblings thing I am heartless and don't "buy" in ot the drama anymore. If she had a heart attack, she would of been hospitalized, given many tests and possibly an angiocath or even an angio gram. Nothing was done, and the fact that she is only being treated by her family doctor still supports my rubbish theory on this.

My sister also self diagnosed herself online by looking at the symptoms of bipoloar disorder. I almost fell over laughing hearing that one!

My family keeps buying in, freaking out and doing the calls, travel with each "dramatic" new disease.

What is the issue with my big sister? She is mentally ill on some levels, take an anitdepressant which is obviously NOT working.. and insists on still seeing her small town backwards family MD only....

I can't deal with this and next thing you know my big sister is going to self diagnose herself with cancer.

Answer 1

She wants the attention. If she is mental, then ok, but she is still doing all of this for the attention. Apparently, your family does feel sorry for her, and gives her that attention.

Unfortunately, you are seen as the bad person, because your not falling for it. Its fine. What you do is keep proving her wrong. She will know not to call you and ask for attention, because she can't get that from you. Maybe the other family will wise up, until then, just be patient.  

Answer 2

show your family evidence that she is pulling the drama card.

or you should gather a family meeting and talk it out.

if your sis keeps on then i think you should talk to someone to reduce your stress cause you sound very stressed out by this.

Answer 3

She does the drama queen act to draw attention to herself,  control people and feed on their emotions when they fall for her act. My advice to all is ignore her when she does this to get attention. She is borderline mental. She has seen her manipulations work in the past so she keeps doing it.  As long as people give in to her, she will keep doing it.