My ex always wanted to know the gender?

Question

okay, my ex broke up with me when he found out i was pregnant but always told me to say make sure you tell me the gender.. now he has another girlfriend.. and i find out the gender in a few weeks. should i call him and tell him? he blocked me online and he told me he hopes me and the baby dies... but he always said, if anything tell me the gender.. should i call him? i was thinking of calling him and making him feel like c**p. any advice on how to tell him the gender while making him know hes going to miss out on a lot

Answer 1

if i was you i would ring him and just say 'i know the gender' and leave it at that..... THEN if he wants to know he'll have to call you and beg to find out.... (and he will, guys can't handle not knowing things) and after some begging and sledging you can either tell him.. OR say something like oh by the way does it feel good to know you deserted your (dial tone) and dont tell him... or anyone.... i would take that approach... he is a d!ckhe*d and shouldnt be fit to live.

Good luck with your baby and hope all goes well.

Answer 2

After the threat, no you absolutely should not unless he has a court order.

Answer 3

for what he said to you - honey i wouldn't even think of him as the father of your baby!

Don't tell him - he doesn't deserve to know!

Answer 4

ya i been there all men want a boy.....if hes not that much of an a*****e h**l want to be part of a sons life if ur still friends with his friends and they have kids have them tell him all the fun stuff u do with your own kids and that its the best thing in the world...if hes still acting like he is send him a pic of the baby when its born that should change his mind....and the father of my baby is dating my coworker if that makes u fell better.......its very hard going thro a pregnancy by urself so keep in touch as a single mother to another...

Answer 5

I wouldn't tell him anything, he obviously doesn't care about you or the baby, so why tell him, and it won't make him feel like c**p!

Answer 6

If he doesn't care, why do you care about his previous wishes. People have thoughts and hopes and life takes them another way and the things they used to care about are no longer important to them. Sounds like you and the baby were important, and unfortunately, now you're not. Trying to make him feel like c**p may only back fire and make you feel worse if you get a negative response. His true crappy feeling will take place if he's forced to pay child support. No one should have to make hm feel like c**p to want to be involved with his own child. This situation isn't worth the stress on you or the baby. Like many other women who have been in your situation, move on and protect your heart by leaving him alone.

Once again: IT'S NOT WORTH IT AT ALL!!! Believe me, I know how you feel. I know how bad it feels. Occupy your mind with other thoughts. Bite your tongue until it bleeds! It's not worth it!

Answer 7

I wouldnt phone him wait until baby is born, and let your lawyer get ahold of him when you go after him for child support espcially after he threatened you, wont that make him feel like an *** he wont even know baby has been born and oh he has to go to court to pay for baby

but in the end you will do what you want and you know him best, but he blocked you and did all that other stuff so i say f*** him!!

Answer 8

You phone him up tell him the gender and say shame youll never see her/him

Or you could phone him saying you know the gender but since he doesnt want to know you or his child he doesnt deserve to see the child...but you dont want your child to miss out on having a father

Get him to pay his share for the baby though

Answer 9

Don't call him. He'll find out the gender when you get his *** for child support.

Don't feed into his childish behavior.

Answer 10

I wouldnt tell him the gender...He wants nothing to do with you or the baby?? He hopes you and the baby die?? If he wants to know the s*x then he'll have to go to the hospital when you deliver.

Answer 11

seriously hun, i wouldnt even tell him, if he is goin to be like that and tell u guys to die then it isnt worth, make him wonder, and yes he will see that he missed out but that is his bad, ur better off, im goin through the samething but he is always here with me and wants to be with the baby.

Answer 12

Oh come on!, wake up lady! - do not give/tell him zip he is sounds like a mean B******. He doesn't deserve to know anything about your child!.

Do you really want the child of such a bad person?. You think really long and hard if this is the right time/person to have a baby with.

What a sad and sorry start to motherhood. Hope you get through this.

Answer 13

I wouldn't tell him sh**!  He has a lot of nerve to expect you  to forget how he treated you, and just be like "hey hon it's a girl/boy".  He has no respect for you so don't give him any he doesn't deserve it.

Answer 14

The best way to make him feel like c**p, simply stated is to leave him out. He may say that he wants nothing to do with you or the baby, but once the baby is born he will feel different. He may also be saying those things out of anger just to hurt you. Deep inside he cares, don't play into that trap and leave him the h**l out of it. It will hurt him more once he is left out. He will feel as if you dont need him anymore. It will be a kick to his big fat ugly male ego.