My ex bf won't leave me alone....Don't know what to do?!

Question

My bf broke up with me a month ago and moved in with this girl . She lives on the street across from my mom . So, when I go to her house to visit he'll drive by and call me all sorts of names. I'm 26 and he is 31. I pretty much just ignore him but I have a 5 yr old and hate when he says stuff in front of my son. He use to hit me a lot. Never in front of my boy, but once it lasted for 10 hours. He's the one that left me,so why won't he leave me alone? I'd appreciate any advice! thankx

Answer 1

Obviously, he has serious problems.

There are a number of possible reasons why, he's sick, controlling, insecure..........but the point is, you don't want to be in communication with him at all, (at least your shouldn't ).

First, have you asked him not to speak with you, especially in front of your son?  If not, you need to, asap

Secondly, don't respond to him, at all.  Keep walking, don't look at him, or acknowledge that he's speaking.

Avoid him when you see him.  If you're at your moms, spend time IN THE HOUSE, not outside where he can yell at you.

Can you prove that he hit you?  If so, hire an attorney, have him sent to jail, or psychiatric care,(he needs it).

Eventually, he'll get the point, (or no), if you encourage this behavior, it will never end.

Don't EVER respond to anything negative he says to you or about you.

Luck

Answer 2

cuz he is a ******* jerk.

Just ingore the b*****d

tell him to **** off.

He has no right even talking to you he left you..so its over.

Answer 3

Put a retraining order on him. Cut all ties with him by changing your phone number. Go to your mother's house at the times he's not home like while he's working so you don't see him during visits to your mother.  

Answer 4

Keep very close track of what he is saying to you. If the names are sexual in nature, and it happens often enough, he can be charged with sexual harrassment. If he is saying threatening things, he can be charged with assualt. If possible try to have a witness to this abuse     (call your Mom and tell her that you are coming over and to step outside to wait for you, or have a friend with you until this situation gets resolved).

If you feel threateded and in danger from this person, you could try to get an order of protection against him which would prohibit him from having contact with you. Contact your local domestic violence shelter and they can help you with this. Services are free and confidential.

And since you say that he left you...Please get some help and information about violent relationships before you get into another one. There is plenty of help on the internet, and I hope you have  a local domestic violence advocacy agency and women's shelter somewhere in your area. No one deserves to be hit. Ever. No relationship should involve violence-EVER.

You can have a loving, respectful relationship and you deserve that.

Best wishes to you...

Answer 5

He's harrassing you.  I don't play with the kids, that's just F**ked up.  Next time he does it, send your son in the house with your mother and confront him.   Tell your mother to watch and if he hit you b4, he'll probably do it again.  So once he does throw his *** in jail.  Press Charges sister!!!!  For all the times you didn't.