My ex boyfriend keeps smirking, l*****g his lips and smelling his fingers?

Question

My ex boyfriend has moved into my dept at work.

Although I am quite over him, I am a bit worried because our relationship was very sexual and I behaved in a very dirty way.

I am a team leader/supervisor - so I have responsibilities, so my public image is of a very proper and upstanding person.

I have noticed that when I talk to my ex in public he keeps smirking and deliberately pretending to smell his fingers, savour the odour and keeps l*****g his lips. He does this in front of others and who have seen him and I wonder if they have an idea what he is on about?

I am worried that others will find out about my sexual behaviour during our relatioinship and wonder if I should tell my boss?

Answer 1

Get over it. If he actually does that he's a complete creep - it means one of two things:

- He loves the smell of your genitalia and wants to poke you again.

- He's implying your state of femine hygenie is poor.

Answer 2

give your boss a free sample.

Answer 3

gahh well i do that 2 LOL

idk why

i like bitin my finger nails alot...everyday

and smellin my fingers

idk Y!

Answer 4

You should confront him about your feeling, he shouldn't be mentally harassing you like this.

Answer 5

why you come to the current events instead of going  to the singles and dating.  if you opt singles and dating, there are experts to answer your question. you can have nice answers and solution.

anyway,

i answer.  see human nature has no boundaries.  similarly, one's desire can't be scaled down.  Before making a friendship, as a girl

you should have careful while making friedship and also before involving any illegal affairs. you lost the chance. now saying that your public image getting spoiled.  ok.. it is an experience to you Don't make any complaints and making the things to bad and if you do your image will go down further.  Think twice before taking any decision, and i feel he is not worthy for friendship. hence, cut his association step by step.  it is better, i feel.

Answer 6

nah he just saw the dark knight too many times.

Answer 7

Well you obviously have it in with Immature Guys

Find another and hang all over him to make your Ex jealous

Maybe they'll fight each other one day!

Answer 8

Get him on video doing it.

Answer 9

I love it. People in here will believe anything you post.If his fingers still smell you are dirty.

Answer 10

Immediately go to your Supervisor, tell him you had a relationship with this individual in the past. You do NOT need to go into details. Explain to your Supervisor that the relationship has been over for x amount of months and you are being sexually harrassed. Tell the Supervisor EXACTLY what your ex is doing, explain that he's doing it in front of other employees and ask that he be immediately talked to and told to knock this behavior off entirely. What he is doing to you is against the Law, do you understand that? The reason I tell you not to go into details with your Sup about your sexual escapades with your ex is it doesn't MATTER if it was a "clean" relationship or a "dirty" relationship. The only things that MATTERS is the "relationship" is OVER and this pig is sexually harrassing you. You must document this immediately by lodging a sexual harrassment complaint with your Supervisor. Not only will this help you, it may possibly help other women who may have to work alongside this pig in the future. Good luck to you.

Answer 11

"public image"...lol

You know what we do with that in Europe?...go bare naked and tell they boy to l**k it in front of the croud.Then yet again you live in US and your Boss is not going to see the humor(here you probably will get a promotion for bravery and quick thinking).Just grab the boy by the balls one night and tell him as much as you don't want to embarrass him if he keeps that on the pictures of his boodie naked and open when he was passed out WILL.  

Answer 12

You have a serious problem..... he may or may not want to re-start your physical relationship.....I do not know.... What I do know he is disrespectful and underminning your authority as a supervisor / leader.....If he does this in public just imagine what he is saying and doing behind your back.

SOLUTION: Being nice wont cut it.....Go on the attack.....

The next time he does this.... I would brace him infront of everybody.... I would inform everyone that the personal relationship with him had ceased long ago  (of course they know what he is doing)..... and that if he does NOT stop his childish behavior you will bring him up on sexual harrassment charges..... and have him transferred or fired

@sshole like this only understand power.....use it or lose it..... he disrespects you; you have no obligation to respect him

As to your embarrassment.....the only way you can avoid it or reduce it is to MEET it head on.....Tell everyone you made a mistake in thinking this childish person was and adult and ready for an adult relationship.....and obviously you were wrong and you advise any other ladies contemplated him as a partner to think twice  

Answer 13

whatever you did in your past and in private is nothing to do with your workplace

if you think he is being lewd and inappropriate i would talk to your boss

it might be advised to tell him you had a relationship with this colleague in the past

then if it continues it could be construed as sexual harrassment

you could call his bluff next time he does it in public - give him some wet wipes to wash what must be 'dirty' hands

Answer 14

take it one day at a time and just see how it goes.

if its that serious, you might want to consider telling your boss that you once had a relationship with this guy, and everything is over now.  

Answer 15

HA WERIDO

Answer 16

Obviously he still likes you and wants to do whatever the two of you used to do. I think you should approach him in a adult way and ask that he not do that while at work. Explain how it makes you uncomfortable. As for your boss, he does not need to know. Whatever happened between you two sexually is none of his business. If the boss does bring it up, you could talk to him privately and give very few details, only what makes you comfortable. He's not a shrink.