My ex boyfriend want's to see his kids ?

Question

me and my ex split over a year ago and he has only seen his three children twice since the split, he wants to come up again soon to see them, am i being selfish if i tell him i want money for them or i am going to csa. he forgot there birthdays and even forgot xmas. we split because he use to hit me. the children are 5 years old 4 years old and 19 months old. none of them ask about him.

Answer 1

Visitation and support are two separate issues.

Be friendly, let him see the kids, and go to the child support agency and file for support without saying a word.

Do not provoke him to be violent.

Best wishes

Answer 2

No, you aren't being selfish to ask your children's father for money to support them.  He supposed to do that.  If the kids aren't in any danger of being physically abused around him, then sure let him see them.

Answer 3

No you're NOT being selfish! You make sure you get CSA involved and have him own up to his responsibility for ONCE in his life. What a loser. You guys have been fine without him in your lives all this time, keep it that way. Hes an abuser too??? Let me at him!!!!