My ex daughter in law adopted my grandson deceitfully. Can anything be done?

Question

My son won custody of his son from his girlfriend. He got married to another woman. After a year, the new wife who can't have kids asked about adopting my grandson. I told my son not to do it, but they started the paperwork. Shortly after, they split up before the adoption was final. I am assuming.....the adoption lawyer told my ex daughter inlaw that the adoption could not go through if she was split up from the biological father. She let him come home. The adoption went through. She filed for divorce.....My son can now only see my grandson every other weekend. It seems to me there should be something that can be done. Any ideas? Our lawyer isn't doing much.

Answer 1

Get another attorney but make sure this one cares about children and biological parental rights. I can understand why your son divorced her just from this selfish act alone. Keep dragging her to court until she understands that your grandson is not part of a divorce settlement. Maybe the courts can force her into therapy until she comes to grips that she can't have kids nor hold them hostage.

Answer 2

Once the new mother adopted this little boy the law says her rights are the same and equal to the biological father. We don't know why the judge awarded the adopted mother the primary caregiver but I'm sure the Dad does & isn't sharing that information and grandma is probably just angry at her ex daughter in law. And who knows where the bio mom fits into this picture. I think the little guy is lucky to have one adult  looking  out for his best interest - whether she is biologically connected or emmotionally connected to him.

ellie

Answer 3

I'm a little confused! The woman he married now has custody of the child because she adopted him and his real father doesn't get to see him but every other weekend? Where is the real biological mother at? Is the child not with the biological father or mother? If so than wow I think you guys got a retarded lawyer. I would find a new lawyer if the one who have now isn't doing anything.

Answer 4

If the adoption was finalized this is simply a case of divorce and custody, no different than any other divorce/custody issue.

He will need to get a new attorney and go back to court or arbitration to try to work out a new agreement if he wants more visitation or different custody arrangements.

Answer 5

There is no way in h*ll that that courts would not side with the biological parent in this situation.  What you describe makes no logical sense at all.  If the lawyer your son has hired will do nothing then he needs to seek other counsel because this situation is just ridiculous.

Answer 6

Get a new lawyer! This is ridiculous. What a witch! How could a woman with no biological ties to a child win more visitation than the biological father! In N.Y., they are very into father's rights, and this wouldn't have happened unless there was abuse by the father. It should be that way everywhere!

Answer 7

that sounds like a horrible situation! I'm sorry! the only thing I can see working is pushing her of a bridge! j/k ppl. But the only thing I suggest is appealing the original adoption paperwork.

Answer 8

Yep, if the adoption was finalized then she is the "real" parent.

Isn't that what everyone keeps telling adoptees?  That the "real" parent isn't the one who gave birth to you, but the one who adopted you?

I love these double-standards.

Answer 9

Ok ppl, 1st an adoptive parent is a "real parent" too.  If a man adopts a child and then gets divorced he's responsible for child support so why wouldn't the adoptive mother be able to get primary custody?  Where's the biological mother? Did the biological mother sign off on the adoption?  I'll admit this case sounds weird from here and another attorney might provide results more to the Dad's favor but don't forget that most states have adopted the Best Interest of the Child rule of thumb now and it's no longer about proving one parent is better than the other but which one is BEST for the child.

Answer 10

Find another lawyer. I just want to clarify that the grandson does NOT belong to the ex right??? If that is the case she cannot go off and take the boy away. Your son needs to get in contact with the police and check and see what can be done (if anything). Other then that i would definitely find another lawyer.