My ex-fiancee wants the engagement ring back . i don t want to give it to him.

Question

should i give the ring back at his request ? i don t want to give it back so what is the proper thing to do?

Answer 1

You must return it. It wasn't a gift in the regular sense, but a symbol of the promise to marry.

Answer 2

GIve it back.  

Answer 3

It's doesn't become your outright until the marriage takes place, as an engagement ring is gift in contemplation of marriage in other words it's a conditional gift..you keep it only if the condition is met (marriage),,he can sue for the ring or the cost of it and a judge would rule in his favor, sorry besides why did you want an engagement ring from a man you no longer are with? Want to pretend you're still engaged or are you just after the diamond......return the ring.

Answer 4

my ex wanted the ring back because he didn't want me to sell it because he wanted to give it our daughter I promised to keep it for her....now we are back(after 3 yrs separated) he is thinking of buying a new one...he asked me if I still had it I said of course I do...I do hope we will get married this time,lollll....who broke it up?the one who did shouldn't keep the ring..

Answer 5

the proper thing is to give it back. in some states, an engagement ring is considered a 'contract to marraige' and if you do not marry the man is entitled to have the ring back.

Answer 6

If the man breaks the engagement, the woman keeps the ring.

If the woman breaks the engagement, she returns the ring.

However, if he breaks the engagement because you were cheating on him, return the ring.

Answer 7

Give it back.

Answer 8

Looks like the majority of us are on your ex's side, give the ring back.

Answer 9

You have no obligation to give it back. Technically it was a gift so you can keep it.

Answer 10

give it back, sorry agree with the rest, you shouldnt keep memories of that type to your ex's, i am not jelous or anything, and wouldnt mind my bf having had gifts of the past, but if he had a giftof such emotional tie then i'd object (my bf dont have any ex's but hypotetical)

beside the point that in tradtion many such things would be family clenodiums as well, in which case only yours as long as part of the family because its a symbol effect to the family so called family jewels (most these days not so and people get new items..but you get the gist), and would been returned to be given to the new woman to become part of the family, and later pass down through inheritance to a new generation

so yeah, no, return it

Answer 11

The proper thing is to give it back if you are no longer engaged.

Answer 12

if it were me i wouldnt fight about it...i would give him back the ring and move on with my life...

Answer 13

In all honesty, I think you should keep the ring. Regardless of "whether or not it is right", "who ended the engagement", or "if the marriage is no longer in the making". It was a gift; a gift to you. Yes, it SYMBOLIZED a promise to spend your lives together; however, the actual ring, not what it stood for is a gift. It was tacky of him to ask for it back. Had you offered to give it back prior to his request things would be different. You didn't go to him and ask for every single item you gave him throughout your entire relationship... Thus, you shouldn't have to do the same. (I believe when we were little we called people like that "Indian Givers") Either way it is yours. Legally and Rightfully and you can do whatever you so choose with it. Think about this, if you two hadn't of ended the relationship and went through with the marriage, what would happen if you were to divorice? Would he ask for the ring back then? I mean you "promised to commit your lives together" and didn't. According to other posts it would be no different. Ask some of these married girls on here if they would give back their wedding rings in the event of a divorice. Bottom line: your ring. Do whatever you want with it.

Answer 14

If he broke up with you, KEEP THE RING. If you broke up with him...give it back. simple solution

Answer 15

well, tradition is the ring is a token of a promise to marry.  who broke the promise? you or him?  if he broke it..i'd say keep it.  if you broke the promise...give it back.

Answer 16

An engagement ring is a conditional gift - it is given under the condition that there will be a marriage between the giver and the receiver. If the engagement was called off by either party, the appropriate thing to do is to return the gift since the condition was not met.

Even if he called it off, why would you want to keep it? It's just going to remind you of him daily.

Answer 17

Do you plan on wearing it?  Why don't you want to give it back?  Give it back and get on with your life!!

Answer 18

well depends :/ if he gave you yours back or you still have it then give the ring o him or if he still hasnt given it back keep  

Answer 19

Typically, if he broke the engagement you keep the ring, but if you broke the engagement you give the ring back.  Most likely he wants the ring back to return it for the money.

Answer 20

If you want to follow traditional and "Proper Etiquette", you should return the ring.

But if you don't care, then don't.

Answer 21

well what is the point in keeping it? he's now your ex & he wants it back it seems totally pointless keeping it, your only going to be kept being haunted by it  the engagement is over, if you dont want to face him ever again then why not just pop it in an envelope & put it thru his door & walk away, move on & get on with your life? thats what i would do!

Answer 22

Well, no one wants to give the ring back, but if you break of the engagement, that is the deal. The ring is conditional on you marrying him. Sorry.

Answer 23

If you broke up the engagement, give it back. If he called it off, then keep it.

Answer 24

Well proper etiquette is it goes back to him, but if he dumped you I would pawn it.  s***w him!!

Answer 25

If he asked for it back then the proper thing to do is give the ring back to him and leave it at that.

Answer 26

if you broke up with him you give it back

if he broke up with you, you can keep it.

Answer 27

Mirah, I know how you feel. But to be honest he may seek legal means to obtain th engagement ring. Personally, It's just a way to hold on to something that no longer exists which is the relationship. Be gracious, and give him back the ring. YES it hurts, YES it will continue to be painful (emotionally and psychologically), but do you really want to hold on to it?

Good luck with your decision.  

Answer 28

I guess it depends on how you feel about him.  If you are keeping it because you are bitter, then give it back, let it go.  If you love him and he broke it off then keep it.

Answer 29

Morally you should return the ring. It was given in anticipation of marriage and the marriage didn't happen. In some states it is viewed as a part of a binding contract and should be returned. Just give the ring back. What's the big deal? It's just a lasting reminder of a failed relationship.

Answer 30

I might be the only one who realizes that the ring was a GIFT...not a LOAN!!  I would definitely keep it (and eventually sell it!!) if he was the one who broke it off (the jerk)...he should not have given it to you, if it was not for sure!  

However, if you broke it off yourself...then rid yourself of the bad karma!

Answer 31

It depends who did the dumping! If it was you, give it back! If it was him, keep it, pawn it, remake it into a new ring, whatever you like!!!!