My ex got married and I am so heartbroken please help.?

Question

i found out that my ex boyfriend got married over the weekend, We have been apart for several years only because I found out that he got another girl pregnant and lied to me about it. I have been trying to move on with my life as best as I can but I am so torn up over this. I just don't understand how can he go on and be happy when he left me so broken and miserable it just does not seem fair...Any words of advice or encouragement I can sure use it right now Thanks....

Answer 1

Iced Mochachino and a cigarette...that's the best I can offer. C'mon girl, get out of that funk you're in and wake up. The man is gone now, he lied, got a baby, now he's married. We all face rejection somewhere in our lives, but you're going overboard. You're allowing your feelings of inadequacy depress you further. Go find yourself another man. This is too depressing to go on..........

Answer 2

Honestly relationship can really suck. My ex which was really my first love completely broke my heart and years I mean years later I still could not get him off my mind. But finally I met my fiance and and I don't think about my ex like that anymore. Just give it time. If he cheated on your then he was no good. Just wait for the next best thing! You will be fine.

Answer 3

He knows he was wrong. Actually when he did what he did to you, he opened the doors of Karma for himself. Just because he gets married doesn't mean he'll be happy. Just because he gets married doesn't mean she'll be happy. Trust me, what goes around comes around. Karma has a way of giving back what you gave, it may not be the same way he gave it to you - but he will get it back. We all reap what we sow, he is not exception.

Answer 4

Remind yourself of ALL the HEARTACHE you have AVOIDED!!!  Seriously, if you still had him, you would be on here crying about how he got another girl pregnant again, and he's still cheating, and now 50% of his income is gone to child support, and how you had to get two jobs to pay the rent and buy diapers for your 3 kids...and blah, blah, blah.

He's a loser...and he wasn't in love with you and that's why he was able to move on.  Yes, you may have been in love with him, but ONE person cannot make a relationship work...period...end of story!

Some day you will meet a GREAT guy and truly fall in love, and know what unconditional love is, and you'll wonder why you wasted so many years and tears on such a loser!!!  You really will.

So hang on for one for more day!!! (and do it everyday!)

Answer 5

Honey, I'm sorry but move on!  There is nothing you can do.  He married someone else.  And let's be honest, he didn't leave you only you found out he got someone pregnant.  He cheated on you.  Is that what you want?  Get your pride back and find another man!  

Answer 6

Well, ...you said in your statement above...he went off and is happy. You don't know that he's happy hun, and the longer you keep the feelings for him a priority, your going to put yourself 2nd. Of course if you're not over someone and you still keep in contact and something like this happens it hurts. Trust me I know hurt,......but....don't let anyone or anything steal your joy!!! Cry about it, listen to some sad music, eat some ice cream...and then get on w/life. Remember this....once someone treats you and your feelings as an OPTION and not a PRIORITY they don't deserve you.

You have to make you happy, and I'm sure you can do that. Surround yourself w/upbeat people, family, friends that care.....(don't bring him up, cause he's not worth it)  Just let your convo  be about whatever is goin on. You'll feel better!

Wish you luck hun! You're not alone, us women go through this type of thing all the time.  

Answer 7

Oh come on... you broke up several years ago. You should have moved on by now and found someone else. That would have helped you forget about the loser. Stop dwelling on him and move on with your life.

Answer 8

Jeepers - get over it.

It sounds like he made the right call finding another woman............

Answer 9

At least no baby mama drama for you.  Plus you've got that whole fabulous and single girl thing going for you.  His wife is just some frumpy, soon to be fat and miserable married person now.  Big deal... married... anybody can get married.

Answer 10

BEEN THERE!!!!!! I just moved on with my 1st love and got married...my ex wouldve been the guy i married but i found out he had another girl pregnant and was going to marry her(as well), yea its hard but its something u got to just get over i did, married my 1st love and were very happy. every now again i think about what could have been but if he wasnt man enough to let me know what he had going on on the side then im glad he married her and got her pregnant instead of me! GOOD LUCK AND TAKE THIS AS A LESSON LEARNED!

Answer 11

I know it just doesn't seem fair that he's moving on happily and your still heartbroken and/or angry.  But it's for the best.  He got someone else pregnant when he was with you, feel lucky someone else has to deal with him now, not you.  There are many better men out there.  Open yourself to new possiblities.  

My ex is getting married next month.  I was off and on with him a few times over 5 years.  I look back and I don't understand why I even gave him a second chance after he hurt me so bad.  When I found out he was engaged, I had mixed feelings.  Happy that he was finally done making my life miserable but angry he left me hurt and betrayed only to be with someone who he loved and loved him and I didn't understand why that was HIM instead of ME!  I should have that happiness!  

Well now I'm dating a sweet guy I've been friends with for awhile and I'm happy for my ex that he's getting married to someone great for him.  But it pisses me off so bad that I have congratualted him and broke silence with him and told him I'm here for a friendship still if he wants it and he hadn't even invited me to his wedding.  And throwing me into his family arguments cuz his family liked me more than her, when I don't belong in those arguments.  

So all in all, just stay distant from him to help heal yourself and so you won't get all worked up with anger over issues that don't even matter anymore.  There is a guy out there for you.  And when you marry a good one, invite the ex out of spite =P

Answer 12

I am going through something similar..... it's just something that never goes away... I have never been attracted more to anyone else but this guy... even now that i am MARRIED... . I would soooooo cheat on my hubby for this dude... i go into his myspace all the time.. heartbroken that he's with other girls... heartbroken that my heart beats so fast when I see his face... all I can tell you is to try to move forward.... even though I know we both have 2 different lives,.. .different people. Just gotta learn to move on...  ur time will come... Good luck!

Answer 13

i am sure you have heard it before, but you are better off with out him, he lied to you.i had a similar thing happen to me, but i was married. it took ten years, but now i think 'thank god i,m not with them, now i am happily married to a really nice person, and if i hadnt gone through what i did, i wouldnt have met them, so i was all for the best in the end.

there is a really nice and knd person out there, who you will meet,and you will look back and think what did you see in your lying boyfriend.hope this helps, i know it is very hard.

Answer 14

Its not unfair. Its been years since you broke up. It's not fair for you wanting him to be miserable too. That's pretty selfish. You need to move one and FORGET about him. Let him live his life with his new family. He's probably grown from your past experience of him. Stop living in the past. He's your ex and no longer available. Just forget about it and move on. Take time for yourself. Stop worrying about others. Sooner or later you'll find someone right for you. but not while you're still obsessing over the past.