My ex invited me to his wedding. He is the father of my child should I go?

Question

But I have been sick to my tummy for the last three days and I don't know if I have the nerve to go. I really want to see my daughter as the flower girl. It has only been a year and a half, and I think I will probably cry, because I have been for the last 3 days. What should I do

Answer 1

I say no why do that to yourself.  I say spend that day with some girlfriends maybe a spa day? Move on with your life and focus on the good things that are happening for you! By going I think it will only open up old feelings and take you to the past.  Good luck sister!  

Answer 2

Honey it sounds like u are no were near over this man, don't go. Why put yourself through that torture. U can always see pics of ur daughter.

Answer 3

I don't think I would go. You can look at the pictures. Spare yourself the agony.

Answer 4

I wouldn't go. Maybe have someone take pictures of your little girl walking down the aisle for you, but I think it would just be way too awkward.

Answer 5

I think you should go and be there to see your daughter be flowergirl. You may very well regret it later if you don't. Another poster said it might give you some closure...I think she's possibly right. Even if you have to pretend that you are happy for them, I'd go and hold your head high, but it's really up to you. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 6

You still have feelings for him, or so it seems to be like that.  You do not want to hurt yourself more by going to the wedding, and seeing him with someone else.  Maybe just going to the reception to see her there would be appropreate, and less painful, but it still will sting.

Save yourself from the pain, and don't go to the mass part, that would hurt the most.

Answer 7

it doesn't sound like a good idea your gonna be heartbroken watching him marrying someone else... but if you feel that you must go. then go. just bring a hot date. lol.

:)

Answer 8

If you think you won't be able to control your emotions and will be crying and such, tell him you have been sick and can't make it. Technically, that's true. You're obviously not over him and still very hurt. He doesn't need to know why you are sick. Ask for a video so you can see your daughter as the flower girl.

And please don't tell him you're "sick to your tummy." What adult actually talks to other adults like that?

Answer 9

I think the obvious question is - is the bride okay with you being there? Not to be cold, but this is her day.

If she is okay with it, only do it if you can control your emotions. If you can't, ask someone to video and take pictures for you.

Answer 10

It sounds like you should probably skip it. You don't want everyone seeing you cry, especially your daughter. Ask someone to take plenty of pictures of her for you, or even a video (then you can watch in the privacy of your own home) You don't want your daughter to see you all upset when she is probably feeling like a princess that day. Just gratefully decline to your ex, I am sure he will understand.  

Answer 11

If you are going to be emotional, don't go, because that will be wierd for your daughter. If you can pull yourself together, go to support your child and your child's father. Don't think of him as your ex, he's your child's father and your daughter will always remember that you were there to support her.

Answer 12

wow that is a tough one. dont feel obligated to go. you can see pictures. if you can go for your daughter and not feel weird than go. but seeing your ex/daughter father getting married. i dont know, i guess it depends on how the relationship is between you and him. if you feel it will be hard dont feel bad, they should understand.  

Answer 13

Go.  For your daughter.  Why not?  It may be good closure for you.  It may hurt at the time, but it may make things easier in the future since the woman he is marrying will be your daughter's step-mom and with visitation etc, you'll have to be dealing with them as the other set of parents for your daughter.

Good luck!