My ex is giving birth to my baby!?

Question

My ex-girlfriend is gonna give birth to my baby pretty soon and she said that I can't be there when the baby is born because her parents will be there. I got in trouble with them a few months ago (BIG TROUBLE)and they REALLY HATE ME! I just CAN'T be around them! My question is: Do I have to be there to sign anything? She promised that my baby will have my last name but I don't know if I must be there when the baby is born and when they release my ex from the hospital. I already told my ex that I will take full responsability of my baby. I will appreciate your help I don't know what's gonna happen!

Answer 1

It's up to her if you get to be there or not. I suggest if you want to be the bigger person you make the effort to be involved NOW!  Show that you want to be there and take responsibility!  Other wise you're name won't be on the birth certificate and then your not really considered the dad.

I'm assuming you are really you, based on how you're talking, so I'd suggest to step up and show you care!  Talk to her parents and even apologize if you have to!!!!  You guys need to think of what's best for the baby, an being a responsible dad is the right thing to do. You need to learn to just get along with her parents and be the bigger person...I can't say that enough!

Answer 2

This is YOUR child.  NOT her parents child!!!  Go to the hospital and meet your child!!  You are going to need to find away to get along with these people.  You are now forever tied to them.  Make the first step towards building a relationship with them for your child.  

Answer 3

she can give the baby any last name in the world and have no signitures(SP) at all. but there us a few froms that you have to fill out to be on the birth certificate  

Answer 4

if you are the baby's father then yes...you gotta be there.

you with have to sign paper saying your the father.

Answer 5

I would talk to her about letting you be in the room as well, you dont want to miss the childs birth. tell her you wont talk to her parents adn that you want to see your child born. and its a big part of your life and it means a lot to you. and that you helped make the baby and that you wanna be able to tell your kid you were there for its birth. because i would be devastated if one of my parents were not there for my birth and tell her please. this one time yall can all get along. for the babys sake. :] and you do have to sign the birth certificate.  

Answer 6

For one she is one EXTREMELY lucky woman for u to wanna stick around, i got ditched at 3month pregnant.

And ya she puts ur name under daddy on BIrth Certificate. I think u do have to sign one thing but i forget now.

Im sure also u have as much right to be there if not more then her parents, u are the childs parents after all.

If she doesnt want to put your name on the Birth certificate, she doesnt have to, unless u take legal action

Answer 7

it is your ex girlfiend's choice who she wants in the room, i dont know if its just her parents who want you out or her too. if she would like you there then go. also, i would suggest talking to her parents or attempting it so you can at least have them ok with you in the room. its your baby. but your ex has most of the rights and say since you guys werent married. you need to be at the hospital to sign the birth certificate, that is what my boyfriend had to do because we gave our son his last name, he had to sign his signature, d.o.b and stuff like that. good luck. do everything in your power to make an attempt to be there too see your baby. or you will always think, what if i tried this..etc. dont have any regrets. i hope you are in your baby's life 100% babies are alot of work and money so your ex really needs that kind of support.

Answer 8

Who cares You should go, don't worry about her parents. You dont have to be there to sign anything.

Although your ex will receive paper work to register birth of baby and you will need to sign that.(Doesn't have to be done in hosp)

Goodluck and congrats

Answer 9

You have to signs a few papers. I am with my BF and he had to sign papers since we weren't married. We have 3 kids. Why is it their choice if you are there? I don't understand....Wonder what you did?

Answer 10

She decides whether or not you can be there at the hospital. She can give your child your last name but she cannot actually sign your name under father you would have to do that. It is her choice though she does not have to give your child your last name. She said she will so don't worry to much about it. I'm assuming you are both young? Talk to her and let her know you would like to sign the birth certificate. They usually do that the next day not right after the baby is born. If you want her parents to trust you have to do the right by the baby and be responsible. THey are watching what you do not what you say.  

Answer 11

I think that you should be there its the most beautiful thing to do . its your baby i think you should be there . Congrats and good luck/.

Answer 12

The mother fills out all the information that goes on the birth certificate. So yes she can put what ever last name she wants. They only need one parent signature for the birth certificate. So no you don't have to be there. But you should still be there for the birth of your child even if your not in the delivery room. You may one day regret not being there.

Answer 13

i'm pretty sure they can keep you out of the delivery room but they can't keep you from being a part of the babys life or being at the hospital to see the baby. GO They will get over it. It's your baby 2

Answer 14

Her parents can't stop you from being there. It's YOUR kid. Go and see your baby born.

Answer 15

You have to sign the birth certificate in order for the baby to have your last name.  If you really want to be there, GO.  Its your child just as much as it is hers.  Don't let them deny you the chance you see your child born, because you will regret it the rest of your life.

Answer 16

Yes, she can give the baby your last name even if you're not there--she can actually give the baby any last name she wants!

However, if you want your name to be on the birth certificate then you'll have to at the very least sign an affidavit of paternity--however, this varies from state to state; you may have to actually be there if you're available, to sign the documents.

Answer 17

What's the deal with the parents? You need to concentrate on the baby. If she says you can't be there, then she has rights..Until you find out legally that the child is yours, then you don't have too many rights. Get some legal advice...I"m not a lawyer, but I know that it is the best way to go, is by legal advice...

Answer 18

You need to be at the hospital to sign the Birth Record forms if she is giving the child your last name.  But that doesn't mean you have to be there for the birth.  You can go visit afterwards.  

During the birth process, your ex can have whoever she wants in there, and also ban anyone she doesn't want.

But it's your child too and just because her parents don't want you to see the child, doesn't mean you have to listen to them.  If you are planning to step up and care for this child, I suggest you start as soon as you can - which means visiting the child at the hospital.

Answer 19

She can give the baby any last name she chooses so yes she can give the baby your last name regardless of whether or not you are there.

If you want to named as the father on the birth certificate things are a little different. She can't put you on it without your consent.  I just had a baby (in Texas) 2 weeks ago and in order to have my boyfriend listed as the baby's father on the birth certificate we both had to sign and acknowledgment of paternity paper within 4 days of her birth.

Hope that helped.

Just to add my 2 cents....  This is your baby and it will only be born once.  Trust me when I say that you don't want to miss out on the first moments of that baby's life.  They are amazing and you as the father have the right to experience them.  s***w her parents, you are about the be one yourself and you shouldn't let them deprive you of this experience.

Answer 20

Her parents have no right to tell you to not be there. That is a decision for you AND her to make. If she wants you to be there then go. It's your baby and her baby.