My ex partner is taking me to court over a contact order even though he has regular access,what happens now?

Question

We've been to mediation which did not work due to domestic violence and intimidation being involved. My ex partner is acting like a spoilt child making numerous false accusations, constantly lying and demanding to have our 2yr old son 3 days per week instead of his usual 1 day per week so he does not have to pay as much CSA. When our son does go up his dad's his dad's new partner is looking after our son which i do not agree with. His name is on the birth certificate (which he also demanded) so i know he does have equal parental responsibility. Where do i stand in all of this mess?

Answer 1

If you have a legal agreement and he is violating it then you can take him to court for contempt.  If not then he is doing nothing against the law.  I see my kids five weeks in the summer and I cannot take five weeks off so my new wife watches the kids so what is the big deal.  Sounds like you are being the petty one now if you want my opinion.

Answer 2

i think he should be allowed to spend time with his son if thats what he wants,you should be glad as lots of single parents dont get any help,also if his new partner is helpinghim you should be glad i know you feel bitter about a new woman but if they get married she will be a step mother and will be a part of his life anyway,also if he is the father his name should be on the birth certificate.even if the csa money goes down you still get the child benifit and child taz credits prehaps you could get a part time job for extra money?

Answer 3

if the you have an order and it says he gets his son 1 day a week then thats all he gets...if theres no order then he does have the right to have his son 3 days..

you can look at it both ways..he may b only wanting to get him to cut down child support but then again maybe he just wants to spend time with him..

in order to lower his support tho he has to get a court order and they have to approve the change..

money shouldnt b the issue here...the issue is making sure that your son's father is involved in his life..

Answer 4

Parental responsibility is not determined by the name on the passport, the family court will decide this.

My sister's ex still has to pay the whole maintenance amount whether he has the boy extra days or now; she used to let him off some of the money and her solicitor told her this wasn't allowed!

Goign to court will be the better solution, my sister was scared but it all went fine, she came out better off than she went in!! (and not just financially)