My ex still lets our soon to be 7 year old son sleep in her bed. I disagree with her, am I wrong?

Question

First of all my ex is a wonderful and loving mother. It upsets me though that she still allows our son to sleep in her bed every night. I feel that it will be harder for him to learn to sleep in his own bed the longer that she waits. She's full of excuses in my book - excuses like "he gets scared in his own bed," and "he's only six." Another thing that bothers me is that she still changes in front of him. She also lives with her parents (which does not bother me), but our son goes into the bathroom when her mother is bathing. I certainly dislike that my ex changes in front of our almost seven year old, but it's sick to me that she allows him to see his grandmother naked. I'm not worried of any type of molestation or anything, but I personally just think that there is a time when it's inappropriate for a child to see others naked. I always cover up in front of him and I have since he was a baby. Am I just wrong because I was raised differently?

Answer 1

I am a mother who undresses in front of her son who is 8. I don't see a problem with nakedness and I don't want him to view being naked as something wrong or something dirty.  It's natural. I want him to have a healthy view of his own body and of others too.

Answer 2

I slep in my moms room til i was about 10...11?

My son still sleeps in the same bed as me.... He's 5.

I think there are different ways of parenting... and some people fell that you should feel comfortable when around nudity...  My son comes into the bathroom, when im showering or using the toleit... He doesnt seem to care, and nor do i.... His father on the other hand is like you....

I took showers with my mom when i was younger... and i know some people who took showers with their dad until they were like 13 NOW i think that is a little overboard!

my son understands that we have different body parts, and i tell him not to STARE- and he doesnt.. he pretty much looks away now... but i can change in front of him and he thinks nothing of it...  

I think 7 is still OKAY- but in time i think he will pull away from this... i dont think u should worry..

Answer 3

I think its fine.  I have three boys and I sleep with my 7 year old all the time.  Sometimes my 8 year old.  My 11 year old asked if I would sleep with him a few weeks ago.  The other two end up getting in bed with us and I end up leaving.  We are a very close family.  Changing in front of him.  You can see in your childs eyes that is not cool with them.  At about eight your son will give her strange looks and she should stop.

Answer 4

He has reached the age, in my opinion, where he should be sleeping in his own bed, and adults should dress appropriately in his presence.

If he needs/wants to sleep with Mom on occasion, like during a thunderstorm or the night after the death of a pet, that's fine.  Otherwise, he should be sleeping in his own bed.

Answer 5

I slept with my mom until I was like 2 (I remember this) and off and on till I was around 4 or 5, I (very rarely) do sometimes, we are best friends, I've seen my mom naked plenty of times, nudity isn't really a big deal in our family. Why would you teach your son to be ashamed of the human body? Besides, some people (like girls who flash WAAAYY to much clevage, and trust me I'm not jealous, I have more then enough to flash, I just chose not to, and guys with pants halfway down their butt) show their bodies almost to the point of nakedness, he is going to be exposed to it. Unless your worried about something happening to him when he is with his mother, this isn't a big deal.

Answer 6

i would not say you are wrong, everyone  is raised different,i have 4 kids and pretty much all of them ages 22,16,11,9 slept with me at some point in there lives , to this day my 11 and 9 year old  crawl in bed with me. i  do not walk around naked in front of any of them at all. but my sister has a 8 yr old to this day walks around naked in front of him. i think hes to old but whatever its her life and her kid.he for sure has no hang ups on nudity, he comes to my house and my kids are like ricky close the bathroom door. lol. no worries , it will all be fine

Answer 7

its fine by me, i slept in my moms bed until i was 12 lol. when i turned 13 though, i became a monster. id let him sleep in her bed if he wants, it doesnt hurt anyone, and god knows he'll grow out of it soon. i dont really care, and im sure he doesnt either. my mom still changes in front of me and she's 36 lol. its just how we were raised. if he doesnt live with you i dont think you have a say.

Answer 8

Your not wrong at all. This behavior is strange and unhealthy and could lead to problems later down the track. and its not going to do much for the lads social life if his classmates find out that he still sleeps with mommy.

Answer 9

i think you are absolutely right he should sleep alone. his mother is probably to attached  ,thats not a bad thing but it has to stop sometime, and about the naked thing  its totally inappropriate.         Karla, 13

Answer 10

I can't really say....it does seem kind of strange...maybe its only nasty when you make it something nasty. If he is almost eight, he should sleep in his own bed. His mom can still put him back to sleep, and comfort him through a nightmare, but to sleep in a bed is un avoidable...it has to happen at a point in his life...better to get use to it soon.    The nakedness....as he gets older, will get sicker...especially, with a boy and two woman....make them stop soon...or things might happen...

Answer 11

I would say you are not wrong. I wouldn't quite say it's innapropriate, but it is abnormal. It will definitely cause seperation problems in the long run