My ex treats my daughter so great but he hates me?

Question

I had my beautiful daughter when I was 17 and I don't regret it at all. I'm 19 now and my daughter's father is 21 and he sees my daughter all the time and even I can admit that he is truly a good father to her. But when we are alone, he is cruel to me and hateful. (We used to have a bad past) He never acts this way in front of our daughter though of course.

It realy hurts me that our relationship has to be this way. I want him to be in my daughter's life and I know he wants to too but I wish he could treat me a little better. I don't mean I want to get back with him, I just want us to be at least friends.

What can I do? Any advice?

Answer 1

Yeah good luck. At least be thankful that he wants to be in your kids life. Asking for anything more then that, aint happening.

Answer 2

There's a reason why he's your ex, right?  As long as he treats your daughter well and doesn't disrespect you in front of her, get over it.  I know it would be ideal if he treated you civilly, but he doesn't, and life isn't perfect.  It could be worse:  at least he's not one of these guys who because he doesn't get along with the mom anymore, treats the kid like c**p.

Answer 3

If you did not do anything to him like cheat, then maybe you need to sit down and discuss these things with him.  Tell him how you feel and let him know that you are hurt.

Answer 4

Tell him how you feel. Say exactly what you said here. Communication is the only thing that works. If he continues this after your conversation, it's on him. You cannot do anything more. Limit your time spent with him. Send your daughter off with him, and go get your nails done girl!!!

Answer 5

simple. Avoid being alone and continue being polite for your daughter sake.

Answer 6

He's an ex for a reason, maybe he harbors some resentment that he became a father at such a young age and blames you. Be glad that he is a good dad, that is the utmost of importance. Maybe lay it out for him, tell him you don't want a romantic relationship with him but at least have a civil one.

Answer 7

This is easy.  Sit down with him and say look out of respect for our daughter and for the sake of keeping peace.  Can't we try to get a long and forgive and forget, let's just move on and why is it son hard for us to just be friends with each other and show each other some respect can we do this together for our daughter sake please.

Answer 8

Ask, Wait, tell him you dont deserve that kind of treatment, and if it continues that he can move on, if the relationship went sour, maybe he  blames you, however, nice to hear its not in the childs ears

Answer 9

best thing to do is talk to him.  he needs to act civil with you when you guys are alone not just in front of your daughter.  tell him how you feel when he's a d*ck.  

Answer 10

Be cool baby. Ur lucky enough dealing with a responsible man, beat him with kindness, if he's disrespectful 2 the point he's degrading u as a human and a woman just limit ur " alone" time with him and when yall talk only talk about what plans yall have for yall child nothing else h**l cool down