My ex wants 50/50 custody of our 2 month old!?

Question

He wants alternate weeks. Just the thought of being away from her that long makes me feel ill. He also has not given her ANYTHING! I also do not think that this is healthy for a child this young to be away from me for more than a 24 hour period. Has anyone gone through a similar situation? Does he have a chance?

Answer 1

He can do a 50/50 custody agreement if there's no record against him. However, a judge would never do it week by week--usually it's 2-4 days until 3 or 4 years of age to make it easier on the child. If you're breast feeding, it's not a possibility. However, if your baby's bottle fed, then it's fine for him to have the custody, in the eyes of the judge.

Answer 2

from personal experiences...that baby wont be able to stay overnight with him until she is around 1 year old...and then they start the father off by giving them one or two weekends per month...prioer to that he can see her but not keep her over night

Answer 3

I wouldn't leave my 2 month old infant alone for a minute with anyone.

Answer 4

Only you know how your husband is with your child... I know that it will probably be hard and there are things you have to consider like if you are breastfeeding... but one thing you do not wanna do is shut out your husband your child needs a father as well as a mother.. But i do understand exactly where you are coming from that would def. be a very hard situation to be in and I am very sorry that you are going through this....but being the mother of such a young infant you have a really good chance... You need to tell the judge exactly how you feel about this ... Maybe suggest to your lawyer that you will give him every other weekend... or something.. Good luck!

Answer 5

Most courts will not take an infant away from their mothers unless it's proven that they are abusive or neglectful.  He will probably get visitation, but no overnight visits just yet.  

Answer 6

It is HIGHLY unlikely that he would get any more than a few hours at a time at this age.  Most of the time, the father will get frequent short visits and a lot of the time, unless there is high animosity between  the parents, they start off in mom's presence until he gets used to handling baby's needs.  

For the most part, courts don't like to consider overnight visits until the child is 2 or 3 unless the parties agree to it or if there are older siblings that will also be staying overnight.   And courts HATE the alternating week.  It is not good for any child of any age to live in such a turbulent world.

Answer 7

That's ridiculous and so bad for a child, especially a baby.  I doubt any judge would even agree to that.

Get a lawyer ASAP!

Answer 8

Maybe the thought of being away from her this long makes HIM ill.  Honestly, I commend your daughter's father for wanting to take such an active role in her life.  Don't discourage him!  He is her parent too - please remember that.

Answer 9

You might have a good shot in court being the mother and you could argue that it creates an unstable environment for the child being boucned back and forth every other week. You could tell the judge how you are more than willing to compromise (say you don't mind the usual visitation schedule most people get of every other weekend). Then you could add that once the child is at least in school, you could discuss a weekly change during summers, or something to that effect. It is in the child's best interest to have a stable constant environment. Something different every other week would not foster that.

Answer 10

At two months, a baby needs to be with the mom especially if breastfeeding. Chances are against him at this time.