My ex wants to have a child with me.?

Question

I'm wanting to have a child with him to but am slightly nervous about my friends/ family's reactions. I am sulf sufficient and in my twenties. Has anyone been here or got any advice?

Thanks.

Answer 1

one would assume you guys broke up for a reason.  don't do it!  

Answer 2

why in the world would you wnat ot jave a child with an "ex" doesn't your child need a mom and a dad "together"

EDit- after reading your additional details ,   "just forget it, alright, NOT a good idea, for ANYBODY'S sake much including the baby.

Answer 3

are you mad tell him where to go

Answer 4

u can if u really love him, and u know he will support u, while pregnant, and support the child. u have to love the person u wanna have a child with. Do u still love him?

Your family and friends should support u no matter if they think it is right or wrong, thats just something youll have to tell them and hope for the best. Your family will love u no matter what. and are your friends are still your friends even if they disapprove of your decision, they disapprove because thats what they believe is the best thing for u, and they want to help u, but yourself only knows whats best for you.

Sure they can give u ideas, and warnings, but u are the only one that can change your mind:)

and if u know u really want this, then u know whats right

hope that helps

♥ Bella ♥  

Answer 5

You EX wants to have a child with you???

Well thats enough reason to jump into parenthood.

.........Run for your life.

She is 'ex' for a reason.

Answer 6

Don't

Answer 7

Your Ex? What are you thinking? What is HE thinking? You want to raise a baby by yourself for the next 20 years, while he can go around bragging about that poor baby with no financial or physical support for you or the baby? You should seek serious counselling with someone you can trust before entering into this potential nightmare.

Answer 8

Well this is a weird one!

Why would you want a child with anyone who isn't your partner? You should do the best for your children that you possibly can. Have children with someone you're in love with. And if you love your ex and want to have children with him, then surely you should be together.  

Answer 9

Are you planning on getting back together and then having baby? Or just bringing a child into this world, so you both satisfy your emotional needs?

Answer 10

You want to lose your independence?  Having a child is a good way to do it.  If you are too independent, you are going to have a hard time transitioning into someone who has total dependence on you and who cares nothing of your needs.  You will get the majority of the workload, so I would say DON"T DO IT.  Having a child is much easier with 2 parents that live together and love each other.  He is just selfish wanting you to take on this burden so he can have a child when he feels like it.  Tell him to get a puppy.

Answer 11

It's one thing to want to have a baby but he is your EX for a reason, if he is someone that you really wanted to have a baby with you would probably still be together. Think about why you broke up in the first place, maybe your friends/family realize something about him that you can't (or don't want to see).

Knowing that you are in your twenties I would not rush in to anything. You are young, if this is what you really think that you want...take a break from talking to him for at least six months and then come back and see if you both feel the same way.  Good luck

Answer 12

i have been here a couple of times,a couple of my ex's have wanted to have a baby with me after we split up but didnt want to get back together but still wanted a baby!i couldnt believe it when it happened with my 1st ex then when it happened again with my 2nd ex i thought it was crazy, of course i didnt agree to it as it just seemed so stupid!looking back im glad i didnt have any babies as it meant i would be eternally bound to them in some way, im so glad i have nothing to do with them anymore but back then i thought it would be the end of the world if i had nothing more to do with them but i guess you grow up!i think it was their way of not letting anybody else have me but they didnt want me either. The way you have to look at it is.....do you really want this person to be in your life forever messing with your head or would you rather wait and find the right person and have a lovely family, if this person was really right for you would you have even split up in the first place?i doubt not!if it was right would you even need to ask this question or be worried what friends or family think?dont make maybe one of the biggest mistakes of your life, i too was nearly talked into doing it but thankfully common sense kicked in at the right time, i now have a beautiful 6 month old girl with my soul mate, it was worth waiting all those years on

Answer 13

You will be ETERNALLY BOUND...You REALLY need to think this over.