My family has serious issues, we are broken

Question

I am a 15 yr old boy and i havea 19 yr old sister that lives with my parents and i, as we are both students. My mom who is an accountant is going to get laid off in 2009 is having a hard time finding a new job and my Dad is a taxi driver.to me i see no type of family in the house we live in My dad is always nagging about bull**** over stupid things like the placement of groveries in the fridge or even bringing home carryout from restaurants. It is because of his negative personality that he carries, we involuntarily go to our mom for every thing, shes like our confidant and shes so down to earth and tries her hardest to satisfy our needs and neccessities. My dad is always yelling at her saying you spoiled these kids you did this or you did that, yet in reality all shes trying to do is keep peace and have the best for us because if she really wanted to she can divorce him however we would suffer financially because my sister is in college and soon ill be going to college and etc, so she just doesnt say anything to what he does she tries to but theyve been married for 22 years what difference is it going to make if she says something and speaks up today out of 22 years. And this is where i come in, i know i have a smart mouth but thats because nobody else will say something and speak their mind, what the fu** should we do my mom cries and thinks its all of her fault. weve considered counseling but financially its alot for one session and to make a difference you would have to be consistent with the counseling. HELP

Answer 1

My family is pretty screwed up too.....when I was 9 my mom got strung out on drugs & divorced my dad.   Today I have no clue where my mom is, I live with just my dad, & my sister lives with her abbusive boyfriend.........so I've seen some pretty bad things in my life.    I know it all seems bad when it starts, & might even get worse....but trust me, just keep going strong & eventually you'll pull through. The most important thing I learned was that time is the best healer.

Answer 2

I don't know what it likes of having a dad. I mean, when I was about 8 or so, my dad abandon me and my mom. It was a depressing state that we lived in. We lived for eight years without him. In that 8 years, me, my brother, and my mom have a pretty decent lives. We fall and carry on. Now we live such as a decent lives. Even though, I don't have any advice. Hope this story, can gives you idea about what you should do.  

Answer 3

A lot of people are going through tough financial times right now....remember what you've learned about 'recessions' in school, well guess what, now think about people that lived through the depression.

It sounds like the financial situation for your family seems dire right now, but if your mom still has her job, then there is time for her to line up something else.  If you are rather computer saavy, you might could help her by going online (like craigslist.org) and help her look for jobs.

You're 15, you can help your family financially....get a job and help out, how about working at a grocery store, or landscape maintenance, walking dogs, washing cars, selling lemonade, sell things on Ebay...there are many many things you can do to earn a little money, and help out your mom and dad get through this rough time.