My family knows I'm having problems?

Question

I have a sister-in-law that is so mean to me it is a joke. People try to help me by saying consider the source, ignore her, she's jealous. I just want to avoid her. Anyway, my mother knows how awful she is being with me and she invited me to dinner earlier today, then she calls and said she invited this sister-in-law over too. Now she has to know I'm not going to come over...does this mean my mother doesn't want me to come or is she incredibly insensitive. I needed therapy to get over my last encounter with her (the sister-in-law). My brother is working and will not be there.

Answer 1

This means that your mother has the right to invite anyone she chooses to HER home whether you like it or not.  If you choose not to go to dinner at your mother's that is YOUR choice and you have no right to blame anyone but yourself.

Answer 2

It sounds like she's pulling a classic trick, thinking that if she invites the two of you over, you'll have no choice but to talk to each other and try and patch things up. However, in your case, it doesn't sound like it would work out so well. It seems to be a more complex matter. I would tell your mother politely to stay out of it and that you will handle your personal conflicts on your own.