My father has never said a word about it but he's a smoker. He hides his stash (I know where it is) and I've been told by various sources that he's been spotted smoking at a usual haunt.
He's lied when I've asked him about it and it's obvious because he and his car smell like smoke (in addition, i've got those eye witnesses)..
He's getting old and has borderline type-2 diabetes. He's lied about checking his blood regularly -he's supposed to but doesn't and I never see him take his medicine that he supposedly take daily. He doesn't exercise and my family is too reserved to allow me the right to call him out on his bullshit no matter how much I disapprove of it. It would be considered very presumptuous and mildly arrogant but I refuse to be passive about this self-deprecation.
My question is - what the h**l do I do? My sisters and I have briefly talked about an intervention but I want to try to avoid such a possibly hostile situation although I'm not completely averse to it should the need arise.
I'm not asking anyone to tell me that he's a grown adult and he can make his own choices and bullshit like that. He doesn't know how to take care of himself, end of discussion. I want help, not criticism, thanks.
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