My father's having an affair. I don't know how to handle it. Can you help please...?

Question

Im 23. My father's been having an affair for about 7 months now. I suspected it ..but now im sure. Obviously i want this to end. Its ruining mine and my sister's life. My mother doesnt know yet. If she does, our home will break apart. Please dont advise me to stand and watch..we're Indian..the concept of 'family' is very strong and important here(no offence to anybody else). I need help knowing what i can do to stop this.If you can help in anyway, i'd be so grateful..will help in saving my family from getting devastated. Thanks.

Answer 1

Wow, I totally agree with what "notfaln4" said . Or go on "Cheaters" and totally embarrass him.

Answer 2

Hey firstly ask your father to discontinue his relationship with his so called gf  .If he doesn't then tell your  mother , because you cant keep her in dark for a long time and your 23 you can support yourself and your mother , and if she seeks for divorce don't you think   she deserves  something better than u r father who is completely being unfaithful too her after such a long relation . Best of luck

Answer 3

You go get some of his friends who he highly respects whose marriages are solid and tell them and ask them to talk to him. If you say anything he probably will deny it and not listen.

Answer 4

This is what I would do:

1. Confront your father with your knowledge of the affair.

2. Tell your father to end it, NOW!

3. Approach the woman he is having the affair with and let her know that you know.  She may be married or may not know your dad is married.  He could have lied to her.  If she's married, tell her to end it or you will tell her husband.

4. If your father refuses to end it, tell him you will tell your mother.  Hopefully this will be a scary enough threat that he will end the affair.

Good luck!

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Answer 5

WELL FIRST OF ALL, YOU NEED 2 MOVE OUT OF YOUR MOMS HOUSE! AND SECONDLY.. DONT WORRY BECAUSE A MAN GONNA BE A MAN! TELL YO MOMA 2 FIND HER SOME ONE ELSE!

Answer 6

Apparently your father has no boundaries in his life.

So what has he taught you.  This is serious. you cant do anything about it. don't hurt your mom. once a cheater always a cheater. Give her hints. Let her figure it out. Something must be missing in their marriage. I am so sorry.

Answer 7

tell your dad you and your sister know what is going on and that hes hurt you both terribly and that hes risking loosing you both if he doesn't stop it NOW. and you need to tell your mother, she would be devastated to find out later that you both already knew. because it WILL come out in the open, it always does. best of luck to you.  

Answer 8

You may not be able to stop your father from having this affair but I don't blame you for trying.  Tell him what you know and tell him to stop.  Does he have a brother or a best friend?  Talk to this man and ask him to have a talk with your father.  I would hesitate about talking to the "other woman" but use your own judgement on that.  At 23 you are mature enough to know your own limits.  Tempers really flare when subjects like this are brought out in the open.  Be careful and don't get hurt.

My mother once drug my brother (her son) out of his girlfriend's house by the hair on his head.  He was a married man with 2 kids and the girlfriend was a teenager.  All kinds of sh**t hit the fan that day.  It's a wonder Mom didn't have a heart attack.  Sad to say it wasn't the end of the affair but it sure got everything out in the open.

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 9

Ha the Indian in you makes you want to beat the girlfriends @$$ doesn't it?

I suggest saying something to your father but it doesn't sound like he is a family man IF he can do something like that!!!

I say tell your mom she deserves to know but be sure there is really an affair going on before you go spilling th beans.

This is an issue your parents need to deal with not you!

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Answer 10

I suggest that when you know that your father is going to meet his girlfriend, you and your sister follow him  Once he and she are together, you and your sister knock on the door, walk up to the dinner table or where ever they will be and  tell your dad right there in front of her that if he does not stop the affair right then and there that the two of you will tell your mom.

if the girl friend wants to chime in, put your hand up and let her know under NO circumstance is her opinion, comment or thoughts relevant to you in any manner.

Good luck.