My father is forcing me every single day to do a masters course. What do I do?

Question

Its making me feel like I'm worth nothing because I'm not in a situation to do it now. I explained my situation to him a hundred times but he just doesn't understand. What do I do? It is causing me to cry every single day.

Answer 1

OK. Listen up sweetie, I know how parents can be, but it's real important that you make your OWN decisions. Then, if there's any regrets, at least you think, 'that was my choice, my decision, I had the freedom.' When it comes to your future and your life, the wonderful thing is that's the thing your in control of. You have freedom, and nobody should take this away from you, even a parent. Especially as, I now see, your over 18.

You need to think about this. Write down maybe advantages on one side and disadvantages on the other. and make your decision. You need to take your dad out of this though. Don't even considor him. One of the benefits shouldn't be 'dad wants me too'. Take him out of the equation.

Once you make your decision, stick to it, tell your father, be forceful. Stand up for yourself. Confidence and being firm is more valuable in life than any masters course. So is freedom.

Good luck hunny, don't cry over it, please. Feeling like you have dissapointed your dad is hard, I know. But this may be necessary. Maybe you could talk to someone else about this that's close and unbiass. Maybe a mother, friend?

EDIT: sorry to add heaps more! But just seen your latest details. If you can't talk to your mother maybe a close friend? This verbal abuse is bad. Maybe don't go to the police this may cause more problems.

Do you live at home? With your mother and father?

Answer 2

y not try taking a stand 4 urself? it might work, it worked for a friend of mine. he planned out everything he wanted to do/say in his head, planned a day to confront his dad, and even tho he feared it was gna cause problems, he still did it, cuz its his life, not his dads, and he has the right to do wat he wants 'n stuff. his dad also 'verbally abused' him. well on that night he talked to his dad, made everything he wanted clear, and, at first it seemed bad, but in the end it worked out. i think his dad respects him more cuz of him standing up. i dno if it will work 4 u.. but u never know till u try, or think of sth else to do.

hope everything works out! :)

Answer 3

is he abusing you

do you have a mother

or would you be happier going to the police

be sure and tell the police as soon as can

Answer 4

Fathers can sometimes put a lot of stress on their children (parents in general do this) without even realizing it.  He might be thinking that his words are merely encouragement, while you are feeling that he is pushing and pushing.  A loving father would never want his child to feel worthless, and even if he sees his constant pressuring as loving encouragement, he still loves you and wants the best for you.

Sometimes you just have to tell your family, I'm going to do it my way, regardless of your feelings.  I've had to tell my mom that although I appreciate that she is trying to help and that she loves me, I am NOT interested in following her advice.  My mom was a little hurt at first, but she got over it.  And in time, your father will realize that this is your life and you have to be the one to live it -- and you can't do it his way.

Know that you are important and worthwhile, even if you aren't always doing everything that your parents dreamed for you.  You've got to do what is best for you and in time they will learn to respect your choices.

Answer 5

Just tell him you dont wanna take the master courses every single day, and tell him to take it easy on you. All you got to do is put your foot down and tell him how you feel its nothing hard about that. And if he cant understand that this is taking a toll on you then just move on and take your own courses. Good luck and wish you the best.

Answer 6

Do the best you can.

Answer 7

Depending on your age.If above 18 do what you want. Below 18 and in school do the best you can and then enjoy life.

Answer 8

Masters Course? What is that and how old are you? Masters degree course? I want to help, but need more information!