My fella is cheating on me.help?

Question

the man i have been with 6 yrs keeps taking breaks i think to purue other women.he keeps stringing me along and when i show signs of giving up he will text me something to provoke a reaction. he reckons his family do not think i am acceptable for marriage and he must pursue other options,but falls back on me.now he is on another break, and i text him pretending to be another woman.he took the bait and arranged a date for tomorrow night. he is now calling me laughing saying how he has got another woman, and how he will let me talk with her.why does he do this to me??

Answer 1

You should call yourself 7-11, because you're nothing but a convenience for him!

People treat us the way we allow them to.

So if you think this guy is stringing you along, it's because you're allowing it to happen.

Answer 2

He does it to you because you let him.  If someone is stringing you along why stay?  At least you can see that is what he is doing.  Some women are too stupid to even realize that.  You deserve someone that you are good enough for and you deserve someone who won't keep taking convenient "breaks", when he wants to explore some new p***y.  It has been 6 years and he has still not given you any type of commitment, doesn't this tell you anything?  Leave the loser and find someone who won't "string you along".

Answer 3

I don't mean to sound so harsh but... He treats you the way you allow him to treat you, that goes for all people in your life. I received a text message once that opened my eyes it said "Never make a man a priority when he makes you an option." You keep making yourself available to him to play with you when he feels like it then put you on a shelf when that's what he wants. You need to demand respect for yourself because nobody will give it to you freely. This guy you are talking about is used to treating you in a way you don't approve of and only you can make that change. He's already told you in a way that there is no future for the two of you and he's made it clear that you and your feelings are not important to him, my suggestion is for you to forget about him and find someone worthy of your time and affection. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I can't believe you allow him to treat you this way. Leave him. Don't allow him to come back to you. If you are his fall back girl then where are you gonna be in 5 yrs? If you do marry do you think he is gonna stay faithful to you? NO. Have some self respect and leave this fool alone.

Answer 5

UMM he is doing it because you are letting him dump the pig.  I would show up for the date he set up and let him know you are done with him...

Answer 6

He figures you're pretty much someone he can do with as he pleases, because you've put up with it so far. You make a nice little secure base of operations while he tries on other women to see if they fit. You're next move reveals whether or not he's right about you.  

Answer 7

He keeps coming back because you are his "sure thing."  He knows you'll still be there no matter who he screws around with.  He doesn't want to get married, but he's able to have a sexual partner (i.e. you) without the commitment "because my family doesn't like you."  Talk about a sweet deal . . . for him!  You know he's stringing you along because you said he is.  Stop being his break-up/make-up girl and tell him thanks but no thanks.  

Answer 8

Grow a pair and dump this excuse-making loser AND his family. Six years is plenty long enough to see what he's made of and if he's going to adapt into worthwhile bf or husband material. He hasn't, he isn't, move on to someone who WILL love and respect you. Oh yeah - and make sure the "other woman" lets him know what she thinks about slutpuppies who cheat on their girlfriends as well. ;)

Good luck!!!

Answer 9

Ring, ring, this is your wakeup call. Why are you wasting your time with this loser. Move on there is no worthwhile future with him.

Answer 10

Until you realize that you can do so much better than him you will continue to keep yourself in the cycle of abuse.  Drop him like a hot potato - not for the sake of playing games, for the sake of you moving on and finding someone who will love and respect you.  Even if you are alone for a while won't that be better than what you've got now?

Answer 11

He sounds like a piece of garbage.  Sever ties with him and don't look back.  I don't know why he is acting they way he is.  You need to surround yourself with positive people.  You are better off without him.