My fiance & I are not registering for our wedding....?

Question

We want to let our guests know that we want gift cards from specific places or cash. How can we let our guests know? We have an idea of adding a blank card with logos from the stores but I don't know how we can word it for our guests. Can someone help us out? Thank you!

Answer 1

When I got married I did not register either. Most guests tend to ask what you want, but is it actually considered rude to ask what you want on an invite. When my uncle got married he wrote on a letter (not on the invite) that they would prefer money than material gifts. I would not recommend writing on the invite, but as I said, separately. Maybe write that you will be having a wishing well, or a section in the reception were money can be left.

Answer 2

I wouldn't do the blank card thing- I would think that was pretty rude as a guest, especially if I couldn't afford to put much on it.

If you want to get gift cards to buy things from those stores, why not just register for the things you want?

Otherwise, don't mention anything at all about gifts. Most people will get the message that you'd prefer cash. You could ask your close family members (parents, siblings) to nicely suggest that you would appreciate money if any of the guests ask them for gift suggestions.

Answer 3

gift cards are a great idea but people still like to give gifts, it is more personal and the act of giving is so rewarding. by all means list your stores of choice and suggest gift cards, but do not limit them to it.

you can always return any items you don't need, and you might be rewarded with things you didnt think you need.

Many gifts you receive will live with you for many years reminding you of your special day.

Answer 4

Firstly, even if people know that you'd prefer cash or gift cards, a lot of them would prefer to buy you a gift anyway, and will do that. Secondly, it's rude to ask for a gift at all, so don't mention it in the invitation. Tell your parents and your wedding party what you want as gifts, and let them tell people who ask them what you want, what you want.

Answer 5

I Think A Lot Of People These Days Prefer Cash Or Gift Cards.

By The Time Most People Get Married These Days They Already Have All Their Home Items Because They've Lived With Their Partner Beforehand.

If You Haven't Already Sent Out Invitations, Put "In Lieu Of Presents, A Wishing Well Will Be Set Up".

& I'm Sure You'll Speak To Most Of Your Guests Between Now & The Wedding & If They Mention It Just Say You'd Prefer Gift Cards Or Cash.

Answer 6

Just by not registering at all.  Don't say anything or rather send anything in the invitation.  You could just say that you could not decide on what you wanted and so you did not register.  Another thing is that if you do register, you can return the gifts and get the money back.  People should include a reciept just incase.  I mean even though you register somewhere, soneone might think, "huh, I can get it cheaper at such and such and so then you will end up with 2 because on the registery it will show that it was unfilled and someone else will get it for you, so then you will have to return one.  Anyway, I am going on and on.  I just think by just not saying anything, people will just give  you cash or a gift card.

Answer 7

You could try a wishing well as an idea for the money

Answer 8

Word of mouth is the only way you can do this.

Putting anything with the invitations is seen as rude. Since gifts are optional putting one of those little cards in is like telling your guests you expect them to get you something, even if that is not the case.

Also, since you have not registered, odds are your guests will most likely give you cash.

Answer 9

Generally speaking, it's not considered polite to make any mention of gifts in wedding invitations.  The best way to get the news out about your wishes for gifts is through word of mouth.  As people get the wedding invites, or hear about the wedding, they'll ask someone that they know is close to you what you would like.  Mom's get asked this alot when their children get married, but so do people in the bridal party, so make sure as many people know that are close to you as possible.  Then your family/friends can simply pass along the word to your guests that you'd prefer cash or gift cards from Store X.  

However, expect that some people will not want to give you cash or a gift card.  Remember, it's their gift to give, not yours to dictate what they should give.  Some people just don't feel right unless they've given an actual gift, in a box, that you have to open.  Please remember to accept these gifts as graciously as you do the ones you wanted.  People go to effort to take time out to attend your wedding, and to give a gift, so you need to acknowledge each and every gift you receive with a prompt thank you note.  

Good luck!

Answer 10

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create a registry and link them to each store you like and list what is wanted as a gift card!

Answer 11

You should not include anything about gifts in the invitations to the wedding. This would be very tacky and very rude. The best way to get out your gift preference is by word-of-mouth. However, this does not mean you should call your guests and tell them you want cash or gift cards. Your guests will know to call your attendants, parents, siblings, or even you to ask about your preferences. Then and only then is it appropriate to let them know. Even though you can express your preference, you will still have guests bring actual gifts to the wedding. Thank them generously and send them (and everyone else who gives you a gift, cash, or gift card) and Thank You note promptly.

Answer 12

Registers usually have gift cards listed nowadays.  Just pick the stores you would like to register with...pick out a few items (for people who just have to get an actual gift) and the gift card option in $10, $25, $50 and $100 dollar increments OR it may let the buyer choose the amount. That way you get some things you want, you get some gift cards and people don't think you are being rude or inappropriate.

Answer 13

Do not say anything about a gift or cash on an invite.  

And personally, I would never give anyone a giftcard.  I never have, never will.  I think they show a lack of ingenuity and personalness.  If you asked for a giftcard or cash, I would probably buy you a piece of artwork or a monogrammed memento.