My fiance and I are having problems and I'm taking it out on my kids, what should I do?

Question

We have been together on/off for 4 years and we have a 3 yr and and a 1 yr old together. Recently we've started having problems that I blame on his LD or lack of intelligence and he blames on my viewing him as an 'improvement case' and always correcting him. All in all, we seem to argue ALL THE TIME about the same stuff - I just can't take it anymore!! I'm a SAHM and very overwhelmed with the responsibility of caring for our children while battling my 3 yr olds destructive behavior, holding a full-time job from home and maintaining the household. To top it all off we have NO friends or family where we live and I think I may be falling into a state of depression. I feel trapped, like maybe it's best I get out of here so I don't continue to take it out on my children(specifically my 3 yr old) or if there's another way around this. It also seems to be impacting my 3 yr old, I just walked into the other room as I typed this and he is hitting his 1 yr old brother on the head with a caulking gun. PLEASE HELP! I feel absolutely helpless with nobody to turn to..

Answer 1

Get couples' counseling, or break up with him.  The kids are now your most important responsibility, and if being with him creates problems for them, you must not be with him anymore.

Answer 2

you are realising you are doing this there for your actions can be corrected I would suggest doing this before the abuse gets out of hand.. if that means calling it quits with the current relationship it might be an idea or you can go to counseling. Im not a fan of counseling however because tomany times people know how to manipulate the situation. one thing  you can do when you start feeling the urge to take your problems out on the child is to go in the bathroom and lock the door for a few minutes till you calm down  

Answer 3

u shouldnt blame them they feel hated and that is really not a good feeling so just try 2 work things out on ur own  

Answer 4

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Could you try going to a women's support group to vent some of your emotions or maybe speaking to a therapist to sift through what's going on? If you went to a women's support group you will probably find friends who are in a similar position to you that you can confide in.

I really hope things feel better soon.