My fiance and I are starting to plan our wedding?

Question

and to be honest, I am so worried about how our reception is going to turn out. I do want everyone to have fun but it is hard to picture this when his family is so uppity. They will probably be sitting back gossiping about everyone, and my family gets obnoxious especially when they drink. I just dont want it to turn out like my sisters wedding where the police was called 9 times. Is there anything we can do to prevent any disastrous events from happening, other than eloping?

Answer 1

don't have a bar.  It is not something you HAVE to have.  If people don't like it then too bad for them.  Maybe have a bottle of wine at each table for the toasts and that is it.  Or have the servers pour the glasses themselves to make sure everyone only gets ONE glass. and after that, punch, pop, coffee, water etc.

good luck and CONGRATS!!!

edit: WHOA! totally missed the part about the cops. 9 TIMES??? omg your poor sister. I hope she had SOME fun.

If this is seriously a problem you forsee, the people who were causing the problems that made the cops show up, don't invite them.  When they ask why tell them exactly why and say "i'm sorry I don't want to take the risk of ruining my wedding day"

Answer 2

I agree no alcohol or alcohol beverages with low percentage.  

Answer 3

Don't provide alcohol....you don't want anyone to throw a big scene on your special day.  Its just all about you and him....so enjoy!  

Answer 4

Don't provide any alcoholic drinks and only invite the people who know how to act nice and not talk about others. It's your wedding and people should be able to respect that and treat the day better. If they can't why bother even inviting them?

Answer 5

Ya my FH family gossips too and im worried about it as well. You can have no alcohol. But i know some people will get very upset over that. I guess either be firm and tell your family to relax on the drinking, or dont have the drinking at all?

Answer 6

Don't provide alcohol. If you know it's a problem, don't even have it there. You could have arranged seating, putting his family and yours intermingled so that they are either forced to get along with one another (as they should be when at their childrens' wedding) and forced to mingle with one another.

And don't worry about the families. This is about you and him.