My fiance had a naked picture of himself on his computer?

Question

Um ok so maybe I'm being paranoid but he had a picture of himself naked and um hard on his computer.

I dont know how to confront him about it, we've had a great relationship for 8 years and I wasn't looking for anything but accidentally came across it when i was trying to get a picture of me I knew he had on his computer that I wanted.

Anyway um I feel sick to my stomach as to why he has a pic of himself like that.. just a bad gut feeling I guess.

Could it just be innocent and him taking some pictures of his d!ck and having it on his computer..? I was horribly suspicious he had taken it with the webcam in his laptop and it's made me paranoid, I've never had to really worry about trust or come across anything like this - Not that I would ever really go looking for it?

help?!

Answer 1

You are right to worry. He wouldn't just take a picture of himself just b/c.  I would go with your gut. Does he have MSN or something where he can chat with other ppl?  

My friend caught her coworker taking "pictures" of herself (at work no less!) and it wasn't "just b/c." She was taking them for the man she cheated on her husband with (and is in the midst of divorce).  

Have a talk with him now, otherwise, it could get ugly later.

Answer 2

You know that he's taking pictures of himself FOR someone, probably some online cybersex thing.  It's up to you whether you address the situation or pretend it never happened.  If I were you I would install a program that records keystrokes, then you could know the whole story.

Answer 3

just mention it to him..he probably put it on there before you guys got together...

if you trust him then dont jump to conclusions..just say "umm i was looking for a pic of myself on the comp and i ran across one of you in all your glory" and see what his reaction is...

maybe he just forgot that it was on there..

Answer 4

So what.  You don't like what you saw - why are you marrying him?  He propable did take it using his webcam.  Alot of guys (and gal) "cam" as a means of sexual relief.  Two questions.  1) Do you think he did it why you were with him?  2) If so, are you taking care of his needs?

It isn't the end of the world, unless you make it that way.

Answer 5

There is only one reason I can think of for that....and I am sure you are thinking the same thing, and it's not that think he enjoys staring at himself!   Yeah...confront him, for sure!

Answer 6

You know what he was doiing with a naked p***s picture of him with his webcam - he was in chat rooms passing naked pics. Now how long ago was that? Is that something he is still doing or was it a passing phase he went through?

Or you and he can have that real discussion = but dont play foolish and dont let him fool you - you know what that deal is all about.

Answer 7

Um ok so just make the picture the computer background. So when he like um logs on he will see the um picture and then he will um like know you like um know its there. This will help in opening the um line of communication.

Answer 8

The picture could be from a time before you. He may have had an experimental relationship before you. Absolutely not agreeing with it. Your right  its wierd, but in someway it may have helped him find you. If you dont want to confront him then simply delete it. If he does not not acknowledge it then you have no problem

Answer 9

tell him you were looking for  a picture and saw his.Tell him you are upset by it and ask him if he will delete the picture.

Answer 10

Sad_Dad's Guide to Naked Pix on Husband's PC

1. Naked Anonymous Women = p**n; OK / semi-normal per Y!A

2. Naked Woman, Same One, Multiple Pix = sounds like cheating

3. Naked Woman, Neighbor or Co-worker = you're screwed (and so is she...)

4. Naked Men = that's obvious

5. Naked Self = That's just creepy, or he's using it to troll for cheap s*x.

Sounds like you have a problem; confront him.

Answer 11

Ew, confront him. There is no such thing as an innocent photo of his you know what. That is gross.