My fiance and I have been together for about a year and a half. We live together, with my two kids and his two. Today was the first day of school. My daughter started 8th grade and my son 4th. I left my daughter a note on the computer this morning that she would find when she got home letting her know to call me and do her chores before she got online. Well, by 4:30 I hadn't heard from her, so I called my fiance. This is the conversation-
me- hey babe, are my kids home?
him- yeah, they've been here a little while, why?
me- well, I left rose a note on the
him- oh I lost it, its gone
me- lost it?
him-yeah, she didnt see it
me- are you sure you didnt just minimize it? when you close it the program asks you if you want to save it
him- babe, its gone. she didnt see it.
me- ok, well is she doing her chores? I had a note on their for aiden too, is he doing his chores?
him- i dunno.
me- (sigh)
him- whats wrong?
me- nothin', i just wanted the kids to call me when they got home so I could ask about their day, I'm fi-
him-jesus fkn christ, click.
He hung up on me. Was I annoyed that the note was "erased"? yes. Was I upset? no. I was annoyed that my daughter didnt call me as soon as she walked in the door, note or no note- or that he didnt think to tell her to call me. For three days all I have heard about was how scared she was about school. I worried about her all day and nobody bothered to call me.
He hangs up on me all the time and it frustrates me so bad. To me it seems disrespectful. He says that he cant stand my tone of voice and would rather hang up on me than say something he will regret. He's one of those that likes to say maybe he should just leave when he gets upset. I feel like i cant express any negative emotion or he shuts me out, either by hanging up on me or saying we should just give up.
How can I get through to him? Is this hanging up a guy thing? It is sooooo annoying!!!
Tags: